# The Importance of Living Life on Your Own Terms | DailyVee 543 ## Метаданные - **Канал:** Gary Vaynerchuk - **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THieXUkIKCo - **Дата:** 27.03.2019 - **Длительность:** 14:04 - **Просмотры:** 100,302 ## Описание I had my first ever trip Jakarta a few weeks ago -- what an incredible experience! I spoke to a lot of youngsters about happiness, patience, and why I'd rather see them do what they love and have 5, 6, or 7 years of "bad" with their parents, instead of 80. I'm super grateful for all the love on this trip -- I'll be back soon ;) P.S. For more content from this trip, check out my podcast: The ROI of Patience. Tweet me what you think @garyvee :) — If you haven't joined my #FirstInLine community, you need to jump on it ASAP! 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expectation are ### [0:10](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THieXUkIKCo&t=10s) WITHOUT EXPECTATION the two bricks of happiness which is allowed there to go wrong when you're stable you can go fast because you're not worried about judgments that lack of fear is what gives an entrepreneur an ### [0:25](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THieXUkIKCo&t=25s) IS WHAT GIVES AN ENTREPRENEUR advantage that lack of fear is what lets ### [0:28](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THieXUkIKCo&t=28s) THAT LACK OF FEAR somebody live life in happiness ### [0:34](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THieXUkIKCo&t=34s) JAKARTA, INDONESIA we're in Jakarta in Indonesia nice 24-hour flight for d-roc and I gonna go hit the stage a couple hours of meetings afterwards and then right back in a plane for 24 hours so what's the work you do you know I don't I think a lot of people should build around their interest in their hobbies businesses because I think it's a more it's a better life to be happy and make 200 thousand a year for fifty five thousand or five thousand and be happy then to make a million and be miserable I really believe that it's not sustainable unhappiness is not sustainable but there's a lot of ways to do it I'll give you an example if you love football soccer football right okay so that's your passion right now when you think about a business when you go back to the market do you build for three and a huge Instagram page do you build a direct-to-consumer soccer ball business do you buy the football jerseys and resell them on Facebook marketplace you see where I'm going so I feel like there's a way to do both and my opinion is if you love football then you're gonna be willing to be up at 11 o'clock at night DMing and trying to sell football jerseys whereas if you're trying to do cryptocurrency because you think there's money there you're not interesting you're there for the money it's gonna create some context of my journey and just the opportunities for so many of the people there's a huge mix of entrepreneurs employees home takers so I'm gonna try to go wide and then talk about the mindset and the practicality around how you create a level of happiness and fulfillment through entrepreneurship in a 20-19 environment when I was a little kid in Edison New Jersey when grandparents came over I would go play with the grandparents a lot mainly was cuz I lost three of my four grandparents as a kid and the number one thing I learned in the first 20 years of my life spending more time with old people than most kids is the biggest thing I fear is regret is scary resentment is very scary the biggest reason I push kids to do what they want versus what they parents want is because I'd rather them in their parents have five or six or seven years of bad than 80 because it gets very ugly when you're 60 and they're 80 and you lived your life based on what they wanted and now you resent them it gets real ugly real fast I would rather you have the pain for the next five or six years of fighting and then have one of two things happen which I think both are amazing number one you were right and you are an amazing fashion designer not an engineer and you built a real company and your parents are going to be very proud or you were wrong you suck at fashion design nobody liked it but at least for yourself you never have to live the rest of your life asking yourself what if you win both ways you live in a culture I know I watch with a lot of expectations you live in a culture where parents treat their kids as a property that indicates who they are so does most of the world this is not a Southeast Asia thing Indonesia thing this is a world that parents are insecure to and they like their kids closing their gap we have to start talking about this let me give a very big secret to all the kids here who are living their lives for their parents or based on their parents judgment there's a very big secret that parents never tell you that if you go the other direction of where they want you to go and you become really successful they are really proud and make pretend they never pushed you in the other direction don't let this energy go away one [ __ ] life live it please live it go work thank you and this is what happens when you actually put out content from this place in this place I think always the right thing always really good energy was amazing super young crowd at one point in a keynote you see me asking how many people are under 40 there was like eleven just spoke a lot about mindset just trying to eliminate excuses money and time does not excuse anymore it's 2019 the internet lives this is now mindset game people aren't doing because of very silly mental roadblocks I'm trying to eliminate those roadblocks d-roc that people should live by themselves I mean not listening to other people's opinion especially parents yes sometimes it's very hot in Asia and do you have any can you elaborate more on not listening to your parents there yeah it's not that I want to be disrespectful to parents or things that nature it's just an you know ultimately at the end of the day one day you're gonna realize your life is yours and there's a lot of people important to you then surrounded but ultimately it's yours and I just think it's actually practical to be selfish and on the offense in your youth most people in their youth think it's time to grow up but they're 18 22 25 29 years old and so I think the social pressures normally from parents or other friends starting to make money or have success hurts people yet I think that rushing into relationships jobs you know is just not a smart strategy so I'm talking about it and I'm hoping that people are listening because I do think that it's very hard to tune out your parents I have empathy for that however it doesn't make it wrong just because it's hot you know to me to be very frank the harder something is the more likely it's fantastic so I really meant what I said on stage which I haven't articulated that way often which is I'd rather people struggle with their parents in their 20s and 30s so that they can have a great relationship with them in their 40s 50s 60s 70s 80s and 90s versus always having a problem with your parents and once you start living your life based on what your parents expectations are or anybody else's you've begun the process of not being that is just the truth who's happy doing something that they don't want to be doing nobody you may be content you may deal with it but you're not happy I think where parents make a huge mistake is parents go attack you're gonna be this you're gonna be a doctor lawyer instead of setting back in the beginning and watching and saying oh you should be a painter you love to paint most parents attack my mom and I'm like this in business too we're like we're boxers who let the other it's like good martial arts you let the other person's force got it so the way what she did was she fostered it by not forcing me to be something I wasn't and giving me opportunities to be who I was I'll give you a good example my mom would punish me when I got bad grades she would punish me I would get punished but if there was a big baseball card show even if I was punished she'd let me go no TV no playing with friends but a big baseball card show she'd let me go cause she knew that's where I was building my future we go black huh yep so I went to Jakarta for ten hours and delivered this keynote was really interesting de rock and I were just talking I was did a couple interviews which I'm sure created some good content and one of the things that I observed and indie-rock confirm which means it's true is I've never stayed the course and didn't be under to such a lively audience there was so much energy so much youthful energy here in Jakarta that normally I would have gone super cursed out super Chris Rock you know Kevin Hart style and just made jokes and but it was interesting I really stayed the course on my message I hope you pick up on that message in today's podcast please enjoy right now is the greatest most fruitful most optimistic time in the history of the world it is the date is black and white health has never been better medicine genocide war like the media landscape and social media and traditional media has been incredibly effective in focusing on the negative but the truth in the macro is go talk to every grandparent of every millennial and ask him if the world is better today than it was when they were growing up like there's a lot of good and so I think couple things is where I'm going with that I think a lot more people could be a lot happier if they lived more humble if they could just eliminate judgment of other people I'm really passionate about that I've been I've become outrageously passionate about keeping up with the Joneses as we call it in America like in security it kills you just you start doing things that you can't afford your service awesome yes so couple things it first starts with the fact that you're putting other people on a pedestal you know it's very easy to get into a sad place if you're surrounded by these awesome people and you're just mediocre I just don't believe that I just don't think first of all I don't think anybody is awesome or sucks from this standpoint if somebody's good at something it also means they're not good at something else and I think most people dwell on what they're not good at and they preys on what people are good at and then reverse on themselves whereas like I'm the reverse I think like I think I'm great at certain things I focus on that I'm aware that I suck at a lot of things but I don't put other people's strengths on a pedestal and most importantly I don't I hate that people beat themselves up about their shortcomings but then don't recognize it in other people and give them a pass because they're pretty or smart or funny or have a lot of followers do you know what I mean I think it's I think I really believe the biggest driver that I never had which is why it's so obvious to me and why I talk about it a lot is the judgment of other people of where you should be at this point in your life all these 57 year old parents that are telling their 23 year old kids whether they're a should be in life aren't where they should be at 57 and so then they're trying to make their kids there comes a lot of times that comes from a good place they don't want their kids to make the same mistakes but their kids are living in a different world now this is the part where probably d-roc ends with a bunch of like footage of the airplane like beautiful cloud landing you are some little kid and away we go --- *Источник: https://ekstraktznaniy.ru/video/17948*