# The Most Important Traits Contributing to My Success | ADHD Interview With Travis Mills ## Метаданные - **Канал:** Gary Vaynerchuk - **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n2yz16VIfPY - **Дата:** 01.01.2019 - **Длительность:** 21:18 - **Просмотры:** 83,189 - **Источник:** https://ekstraktznaniy.ru/video/18062 ## Описание Despite all of my flaws, what has had the most impact on my success is the fact that I listen. I listen to the market, I read peoples comments and impressions on social media and I am always observing patterns and trends in culture. If you aren’t out there listening to the world, you will not be able to give them what they want ;) — If you haven't joined my #FirstInLine community, you need to jump on it ASAP! By joining #FirstInLine, my messaging program, you get details on exclusive giveaways that I'm doing, updates regarding my keynotes/conferences, and more ;) You can join here: https://garyvee.com/JoinFIL Thank you for watching this video. 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Your comments are my oxygen, so please take a second and say ‘Hey’ ;). — Get my newest shoe here: https://garyvee.com/GaryVee003 — Follow my journey as an #entrepreneur here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist? ## Транскрипт ### Intro [] even if you work nine to five if you work eight hours a day and you sleep that means work is 50 of every hour of your whole day for 40 years of your life like why the [ __ ] are you doing something you hate make less money buy less fancy [ __ ] and be happy you got your perspective i just want to be happy don't you huge day at adhd because i got my friend gary vaynerchuk in the studio dude thank you so much for coming on i really better mother nature yeah we were talking before the mics cut on and uh literally if it wasn't for a blizzard we wouldn't be doing this right now that's right supposed to be in chicago today uh in l. a tomorrow real quick before i go to phoenix but a lot of snow so my admins adjusted they're like we're sending you to la first thing in the morning i'm like cool and i remembered that you reached down and i was like i really wanted to support you i appreciate that um and i was like it slid into your dm got tight and slid literally yeah no we ### Integrity [1:10] literally did everything via instagram yeah which is you know it's so incredible in the digital age but one thing about you man is you don't only talk you don't really talk you walk it you know what i mean you give away things for free you build genuine connections with people and you're a man of your word and i think like integrity is something that you don't come across very often out here you know what's crazy is it's mainly because i'm so flattered the fact that i know that having me as a guest gives you leverage for the guests you get after this it makes me feel nice and like it's like such a crazy feeling it's like and i think that all of us want to put people on especially if we genuinely have a vibe towards them and i think that i loved being the whiz kid in the wine world and the tech i loved being that whiz kid as a 12 year old baseball card dealer but it's now you know just turned 43 as now i'm going into that next chapter i remember being 25 27 and worrying that like oh [ __ ] one day i won't be the whiz kid and am i gonna be sad but i'm super fired up to be yoda right like yeah like you know i haven't seen creed two yet right but rocky's in the corner and i'm sure at some point rocky was like [ __ ] when i'm not gonna be in the ring is gonna be as cool but now he's getting his high from training up the next generation and i think you know i'm not 70 yet but no question because everybody's in it so much younger these days i probably got to feel og a little bit earlier than i anticipated um but yeah at the end of the day like also i got to tell you having a good memory helps like literally getting a text from my admins and being like we're sending you to la realizing i have nothing booked because my day was planned in chicago plenty of things to do but being able to be like oh [ __ ] he might be around and just do like having a good memory has been a sneaky like i never talk about this but like so much of what i pull off is based on having a great memory ### SelfAwareness [3:12] you know one thing that i look to you for uh in a big part of my journey and my career my life is self-awareness and one thing i want to say to you is self-awareness is scary as [ __ ] um if you're good at judging yourself i think self-awareness if you're capable of accepting yourself for who you are is actually the brightest light of it all i love being self-aware i suck at a lot of things i just don't think about them like i can't read for [ __ ] i interrupt people when i interview them 24 7. everybody's super pissed on the internet about that not good because i already know what the person's saying i can't help it i'm sorry there's plenty of things that i'm not good at i love self-awareness i like it's kept me so happy like you know i'm not upset of myself that i'm selfish in certain areas that's human i think that we just don't love each other ourselves enough i think we i don't know who's perfection i'm trying to live up to like if i like silly things like people get on me for biting my nails gives a [ __ ] like people are just critiquing themselves all day long you like reading the comments love you do it on every video every post all day how do you deal with ### Empathy [4:33] the negativity someone's talking about biting your nails empathetic empathy somebody just watched 49 seconds of me spitting some pontification on instagram and they've decided to make a judgment on me and i respect that i put myself out there they don't know everything about me so when they drag me down be like this guy's a [ __ ] idiot who's full of [ __ ] or what the [ __ ] or i'm like that makes sense they saw me in explore feature they're like who's this dick face they watch it they don't like it and they decide i'm [ __ ] and they're not in a good place so they have to drag down i deploy empathy first sucks to be i would never do that as a happy person to anybody else so hey i'm already feel bad yeah and b who the [ __ ] am i they only got 49 seconds and in 49 seconds at a time i could suck [ __ ] in perpetuity you know like at 49 seconds at a time i could be all-time terrible especially me that gets hot and competitive and like you know like this is how i am when the lights come on so i deal with the negativity with empathy to the person that's leaving the comment a for the fact that i feel bad because ### Dealing with negativity [5:48] they're in a bad place that they decided to put more hate into the system and b like they shouldn't do seven hours of research of my career or who i am as a human being i would be upset if you thought i was a dick because you've had enough interactions at this point to have a read yeah but like rick in arkansas or new york who saw me in explore or who saw by the way and i have a lot of empathy because i also have fans and followers and people that consume my content that really give me love and you know the natural reaction when somebody's posting like this guy's a [ __ ] genius you know 30 of people like [ __ ] that guy before they even watched anything yeah i get that so i mean i hated tiger woods and kobe and shaq in their prime they weren't my guy so i have empathy i put myself out there and if you're putting yourself out there you have to deal with the ramifications of the reality of the system so i respect the system i respect the market if you don't know who i am and you think i'm the biggest piece of [ __ ] i'm great if you know who i am and you think that i'm dead and that's how i live my life speaking of empathy you know the reason ### Launching Empathy Wines [7:00] why we started talking last week is you launched empathy wines yes congratulations thank you uh you know my mom's not gonna listen to this podcast so it's safe to say that i ordered her a bunch of wine thank you for christmas uh why why empathy wine why now john troutman and nate schroeder uh two guys that have worked for me for a decade graduated up the wine library and vayner media system and we're getting to that age where they were like hey what's next for me our capabilities to produce content and marketing to sell a product off the back of the k-swiss stuff was obvious to me that it was very high i miss wine i was going to say is this nostalgic it's almost like a nostalgic for you don't ever step i also knew i could do it i knew that i could produce the best 40 wine in the world and sell it for 20 bucks like people are gonna [ __ ] when they taste it i can't wait to get mine yeah literally yeah like the amount of empathy rose that is going to be on instagram this summer and spring like through i can't wait from from ghana do you know you need to get some rose too my friend shamiq moore he's the voice of uh of miles martin the new spider-man movie is coming out anytime we go to dinner he like we can go have lunch at 12 00. i got you i got it so there was a lot of factors i was ready i'm a timing guy i was ready to start a project that was direct to consumer on the back of internet marketing 2019 in a category that i was deeply knowledgeable in um timing and it's a subscription service you can buy three six or 12 bottles of each of the red the white and the rose uh and it's a subscription service most people don't want to think about wine people hate going to bevmo and total wine and costco and wine library like it you have to go and so once i convince everybody that i'm producing the best 20 bottle of wine i think it's going to be a beast another thing i want to bring up ### Trash Talk [8:58] is trash talk yes probably one of my fav it is definitely my favorite new gary vee uh thing to watch it's so entertaining you're literally going to people's garage sales you're buying things and flipping them on ebay why what made you want to start doing this it's become very obvious to me that excuses are my poison and i want to eliminate them at all costs i talk a lot about hustle and hard work and people are kind of pushing back on me a little bit right now and it's been interesting i'm like man i haven't done a good enough job clarifying that when i talk about work ethic i'm trying to speak to people who are unhappy or complaining not happy with your job don't watch netflix work after hours save money quit i'm not trying to get people into depression or burnout i'm trying to address unhappiness um one of the things i saw a lot in my comments because i read them all was well i have no money i'm like [ __ ] i lived my whole life with no money but i figured it out i would just buy [ __ ] i would buy garage sale [ __ ] and it just got me going i love it it's like a hobby of mine to go garage start doing that with clothes i did i used to do that with clothes dude you met guys especially like a stylish kid like you like if you have flavor if you're listening right now and you don't have money but you're cool or fl you got flavor you got swag you got style if you just spend your life in goodwill and in thrift stores yeah and buy [ __ ] that you think is fresh and then wear it and take a [ __ ] selfie and put it on ebay for three times the price or like i see every day the amount of people that buy three dollar t-shirts and sell them for 35 bucks on ebay and etsy and [ __ ] facebook marketplace is enormous there's no excuse in america to say you have no money even if you're in the deepest poorest places because if you can literally get a dollar you can buy your first t-shirt at goodwill and get it up for 15 bucks on facebook because you know what's funny is everybody's got a smartphone like you go into the poorest places in america and everybody's got a smartphone which means you have the internet i mean listen the homeless you've got people all over on home homeless smartphones i get emails every day i'm homeless i watch you on youtube you know so i don't know i really and listen of course there's one percent that don't and i that's what's always fascinating to me the one percent that populates like what about my aunt i'm like cool i get it but i'm trying to address 99. 9 of people and the garage sale thing's been huge by the way huge i have tens of thousands of tweets emails dms messages from people over the last hundred days who are completely inspired by the show and are making significant money and significant comes in all forms do you know what it's like to make an extra 200 bucks a month when you're not doing well financially huge like it [ __ ] matters it's also fun for fifty percent of people like that's the when i watch the videos and i'm watching you like go and you're getting you're picking up these stuffed animals do you know what this is gonna sell for 40 bucks 50 bucks and seven bucks i get pumped like buying something for a quarter selling it for 11 on ebay with the fees with all the [ __ ] that everybody makes fun of me in the comments for what about the gas all that like i'm still like i made six bucks i bought it for a quarter i sold it for 11. net six bucks or i could be jerking off on my couch right now watching [ __ ] netflix like if you complain and you're unhappy i will spend my career suffocating the living [ __ ] out of you to prove that is basically and by the way out of gratitude and guilt i've come to realize this i'm so grateful for my dna my parenting my circumstance of growing up with nothing and i feel a level of guilt i was so gifted a mother that put me in a position to succeed i know that everybody has that so i'm almost trying to play my parents role for everybody that watches my content if you don't have that person in your life let me be that shield let me populate you up you're either a person that goes into comments to drag people down or you're a person that puts out content to put people up i'm so proud to be the latter how do you ### Balance [13:07] balance all of this man the shoes the wine you know the content constantly i mean your podcast your youtube channel your instagram all of your socials lack of obsession of perfection i got it yeah i mean because so many times you know i don't post something or i i delete the video or i say i'll wait till i get the next better photo look i'm going through it right now it's very clear to me that instagram's going through its like decline of organic reach everybody's feeling it and like even i'm like [ __ ] but like i'm pushing through and like yeah lack of perfection i'm just i just think doing 97 things at an eight is better than doing one thing out of ten mainly because the math works out one thing out of ten is ten ninety eight at eight is eight hundred you know like you know how do you decide what to hop on as well because i noticed you're first on everything man i read comments so then what happens with the app you remember that app that came out i feel like last year uh not strava it was another one oh vero there we go i feel you know i saw everything for two weeks and then nothing that's where i'm really good at being patient everybody wants to jump on like peach is the next thing vero's the next thing like everybody's like the next thing i'm not obsessed with obsessed with the right thing and doing it the best in the right thing yeah man i pay attention look i'm a creature of the culture of the attention of everything i'm watching i just watch i'm v you know this is the funniest thing about me i talk so much i interrupt so much but i listen man how am i [ __ ] first on everything because i listen with my eyes right i remember this very clearly three years ago i'm just going through the airports i'm like why are young women wearing jeans with tears in them again like they did in the 90s right yeah i'm watching like i'm watching like it didn't take me too long to figure out like kids were wearing champion hoodies or fila's back or like i'm watching ### Selfish vs Selfless [15:11] watching uh gary yes i want to say thank you so much man thank you brother um you know you constantly inspire me you're you know genuine so what's this podcast going to be about it's about anything and literally everything you know it's me going through my phone book instagram dms uh and me having all my friends and cool people in the world on to chat about literally anything and everything i love that yeah listen i'm gonna drop one little thing that i've been thinking a lot about over thanksgiving it was and we talked about it just now this is a game of selfish versus selfless if you ask me why so much good is happening for me is i get high on giving to others it's like this perpetual machine i love admiration is only earned nobody sees you the first time and admires you and so there's so many people that are trying to build personal brands trying to like get on you have to be obsessed with every time you post are you bringing value to everybody or are you trying to get something from them you're giving or taking are you giving or taking and everyone's taking it's about how many likes and followers you get that is disproportionately a take game that's it that's why so many of you are struggling to pop every post is will this get me do you know how many attractive women get frustrated after three posts and then decide to show flesh again because the only kpi is likes and will say to my face like i want to build a fashion brand for women and so i'm like take half the likes and make content for women not for pervy dudes and they struggle with that and i and that's why i want to talk about this for the last sentence which is like are you happy about your 40 000 likes that mean nothing or do you want the 13 000 likes that are actually predicated on your ambition oh wait you want 40 000 likes because you care about what other people think when they see how many likes you got like we are getting we are so deep into a math game do you know how many people would [ __ ] their pants if tomorrow instagram decided to stop showing likes and follows oh it would be the it would be over best thing for the humans yeah well i mean kanye a bunch of people went on uh they went online telling for twitter their kanye was like remove the like in the retweet uh you know the numbers yeah i just i think if i think there should be like it'd be really cool if people could live one month without seeing the metrics they'd be stunned by how much that would impact what they put out and that's what's worked for me like i wa i'm interested in your admiration what i love about when i sign sneakers or when i'm in the airport is the amount of people in the last six months that say to me i never fan out about anybody but i needed to come and take a selfie i brought your book when we first met uh on my beach show i was too nervous to have you sign it i was like i never do this and i'll tell you why it's so much more fun to be followed because someone admires that you brought them value than the fact that you can drop 55 in a basketball game or the fact that you're a size zero with a pretty face that's just the truth i was wondering why it was happening a lot like really famous people like freaking out or like you could just tell when like somebody was in the scene all the time it was just like it was happening right and i was like right because i'm getting admiration and that is something everyone should try to do and i think the reason is if you make admiration the north star you will produce dramatically better content you're not gonna try for a hack the reason i was never in an engagement group is i don't need the [ __ ] metrics i need admiration that doesn't come with fake [ __ ] followers yeah fake followers can't stop you in the [ __ ] hallway to say that you changed their life fake followers aren't gonna ask you for a picture they're just not gonna say that you changed their life the reason i do garage sale videos is because people will stop me at the airport and say that 900 bucks they made during this holiday season that allowed them to buy a gift for their daughter because they [ __ ] sold [ __ ] that was in their closet matter to their lives not because i wore a cut off t-shirt in a very attractive way seriously why do you think celebrities are losing what value are they bringing you can't be an a-list hollywood celebrity anymore and be cool like angelo julie is not [ __ ] winning brad pitt's era is over because they bring nothing to the table at least an a-list instagram celebrity once in a blue moon may like your comment there's at least a prayer of an engagement those [ __ ] need to learn too by the way quickest hack i'm gonna leave you with this if you're [ __ ] trying to build a big audience and you are not replying to the couple of people that give a [ __ ] about you right now you're a [ __ ] idiot that's how i build myself twitter 2007 to 11 i reply to everybody you're telling me you want a million people to [ __ ] with you but you don't have the seven minutes to say thank you to the 13 comments you got you're [ __ ] selfish dick it's a selfless versus selfish game 99 of people are selfish which is why 99 of people will never build an audience simple we're going to end it right there gary vaynerchuk thank you brother i love you buddy thank you so much