# Problems with Parenting Across the World

## Метаданные

- **Канал:** Gary Vaynerchuk
- **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x1h7Xr2iJWE
- **Дата:** 04.11.2018
- **Длительность:** 5:03
- **Просмотры:** 63,551
- **Источник:** https://ekstraktznaniy.ru/video/18146

## Описание

If someone is parented well, you can see it from a mile away … and if they’re not, you can see it from a mile away.

Too many parents view their kids as a product. Too many parents see their kids as an extension of them and their own accomplishments. 

And that’s when everything breaks.  

In this conversation, I talk more about problems with parenting in Asia (and the rest of the world).

—
If you haven't joined my #FirstInLine community, you need to jump on it ASAP! By joining #FirstInLine, my messaging program, you get details on exclusive giveaways that I'm doing, updates regarding my keynotes/conferences, and more ;) You can join here:
https://garyvee.com/JoinFIL

Thank you for watching this video. I hope that you keep up with the daily videos I post on the channel, subscribe, and share your learnings with those that need to hear it. Your comments are my oxygen, so please take a second and say ‘Hey’ ;).
—
Get my newest shoe here:
https://garyvee.com/GaryVee003
—
Follow my journey 

## Транскрипт

### Segment 1 (00:00 - 05:00) []

if your parented well you can see it from a mile away and when you're not I think too many parents view their kids as a product we need to do a much better job zero to 18 to understand somebody's makeup their emotional makeup their skillset the way we do school today and the way we structure our kids for success in the first 18 years is so broken worldwide for a lot of parents their kid is a representation of them and that's where it breaks if a parent thinks that a kid's accomplishment is a reflection on them because now you have a disconnect now you're not a parent and a child you're a person with a product and I think that is scary to me because going to Harvard or Stanford or Yale is a badge that people back in Beijing walk around proudly to their contemporaries and they're [ __ ] their kids up if you look at America as a proxy when the middle class started to emerge it was also when University in college was starting to build as a brand and it worked for a period of time that was fine but the problem is technology is too much of a variable if you want your kids to be successful recognize that the world you live in today has nothing to do with the world they're gonna live in that social I appearance where those same pressures who came from those same places who refused to treat me that way and that's why I'm gonna be special I want that for the gazillions of kids around the world because they deserve it the fact that 99 out of 100 parents back in Chinese New Year put unneeded pressure on their kids which ultimately is going to hurt their children and hurt their relationship with their children is needs to start being eradicated well thieves please in China that is an optimism it's very optimistic point of view is the government is now encouraging graduates taken to preneur ship is the first job I think it's great that it's pushing kids to entrepreneurship my problem is 9 out of 10 of these Chinese kids that are 22 years olds that are jumping into entrepreneurship have no chance cuz they're not entrepreneurs yes but good because it's efficient yes but you have to be careful because the one thing I fear is when these kids fail and almost all of them will it's a very big scarlet letter that culture and I think psychologically you're putting a 23 year old in a very vulnerable spot where now they have a loss publicly there's no hiding when you lose in school like I did you can blame people when iris loses at vaynermedia she can blame me when you work at a company or when the government's involved or when at school you can blame somebody else when you have a business it's your fault so I would caution one thing for anybody who's listening who thinks entrepreneurship is such a freedom when you lose you have to make sure that you're mentally stable enough to be able to take all that cynicism and the critiques from everybody including your friends parents your parents because if you don't you start going down a very dangerous path that leads to a very scary place we do not reconcile why we have suicide in America at the teenage level it's because modern parenting is over coddling kids to an extreme level where kids don't know how to deal with adversity I think self-awareness matters much more than being an entrepreneur for you and I the learning makes sense it's our DNA I look at every loss as learning that is not how people are wired we need to do a much better job zero to 18 to understand somebody's makeup so go deeper you know there are a lot of new family that they're just newly became the middle class so yes no claps of booming so they're afraid that they're gonna lose because they just got there you know like the only way that they can think of to maintain this status is to invest in their kids education or push a little bit harder to make sure their kids can carry on the status again also so that that's what they're wrong yeah I understand they're gonna lose what they don't understand is how quickly the world is evolving and how we're all more connected than ever and we're all looking at each other's cultures I think the greatest thing that is ever gonna happen to America is China's emergence so I think kids that are gonna be born ten years from now are gonna be winners in America forty years from now because of the chip on their shoulder of losing that world stage leadership so what should parents invest in their kid of what aspect one thing I would tell parents is do a lot more listening and don't listen to your [ __ ] friends you know listen listen to your kids and when I say listening watch them what do they gravitate towards nobody thought playing video games 20 years ago was gonna lead to a luxurious financial life it clearly has