# You’re Hurting the Ones You Love: The Greatest Advice for Excuses

## Метаданные

- **Канал:** Gary Vaynerchuk
- **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KigHXKEmUTk
- **Дата:** 10.07.2018
- **Длительность:** 3:31
- **Просмотры:** 80,514
- **Источник:** https://ekstraktznaniy.ru/video/18293

## Описание

The greatest advice that I can give any of you on how you can inspire people to get rid of their excuses and start taking accountability is to have the conversation with them by directly addressing whatever it is that they're blaming. Like I've said 100 times and will continue to say, if anyone that looks like you has ever made it, then you can too.
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## Транскрипт

### Segment 1 (00:00 - 03:00) []

so not being garyvee how can I sort of inspire people to around me to work on their excuses by do you know it's funny I long before I was Gary Vee this is what I was doing for my high school friends who were doing stupid things like drugs and alcohol or driving drunk because they wanted to act cool in front of somebody this is just about self esteem it's so simple it's almost overly emotional for me this is about self esteem the way I choose to do it and you know this is how I do it as I go directly at it if you can every one of us can think of somebody we care about right now that's just not doing it right and all you have to do is sit them down and tell them they're not doing it right but we don't want to do that because we'd rather not short-term hurt their feelings and let them fail long-term which is remarkably crazy if you give up about somebody so what can you do is not Gary Vee have the actual conversation and tell your sister your mom your uncle your aunt your child your best friend the next time they come up with an excuse that it's a excuse the reason I say the thing that if there's anybody that ever looked like you that made it then there's no excuse is because I believe it you know it's really hard here in our argument and that your friend tells you that's great Gary but both my parents were alcoholics and that really to me up right now you're on the defense that's a good first punch by them I'm like cool we don't need to use me if anybody has ever been successful that had two alcoholic parents which by the way I know of three well then now what's your Excuse Karen we are just so interested in blaming everybody else and excuses cuz we don't want to take on responsibility and somewhere a long time ago I went completely I only take I do you know I think everything is my fault like all of it like I think it's weirdly cloudy outside right now and not nice out my fault like his scar my fault like I just default into my fault and everybody tries to do everything else the other way and let me tell you how good life becomes when you take on responsibility it gets real good uh some of you and there's a lot of beautiful me you know why I keep bringing up the last scene of eight mile the Eminem movie how many people have seen that movie great the last scene they go into the battle he makes fun of himself the whole time because it leaves the other person with nothing the leverage is in being accountable of everything the leverage is exposing your weaknesses I proudly talk about passing on uber twice being a DNF student you know I proudly talk about my shortcomings right I can't wait for more bad things to happen I mean it because I will talk about them because what you're so imperfect q right so how do you do it you have the conversation and you realize that you're doing a disservice to the people you love the most by holding your mouth shut because you're not willing to deal with the short-term conflict