# Work Life Balance Advice with a #60SecClub Winner ## Метаданные - **Канал:** Gary Vaynerchuk - **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AfL5Mi5j8Q0 - **Дата:** 22.12.2016 - **Длительность:** 8:12 - **Просмотры:** 30,900 ## Описание -- ► Subscribe to My Channel Here http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=GaryVaynerchuk -- Gary Vaynerchuk is a serial entrepreneur and the CEO and founder of VaynerMedia, a full-service digital agency servicing Fortune 500 clients across the company’s 5 locations. Gary is also a prolific public speaker, venture capitalist, 4-time New York Times Bestselling Author, and has been named to both Crain’s and Fortune’s 40 Under 40 lists. Gary is the host of the #AskGaryVee Show, a business and marketing focused Q&A video show and podcast, as well as DailyVee, a docu-series highlighting what it’s like to be a CEO, investor, speaker, and public figure in today’s digital age. Make sure to stay tuned for Gary’s latest project Planet of the Apps, Apple’s very first video series, where Gary will be a judge alongside Will.I.Am, Jessica Alba, and Gwyneth Paltrow. ---- Thank you for watching this video. I hope that you keep up with the daily videos I post on the channel, subscribe, and share your learnings with those that need to hear it. Your comments are my oxygen, so please take a second and say ‘Hey’ ;). ---- Subscribe to my VIP Newsletter for exclusive content and weekly giveaways here: http://garyvee.com/GARYVIP Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: http://instagram.com/garyvee Facebook: http://facebook.com/gary Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/add/garyvee Website: http://garyvaynerchuk.com Soundcloud | https://soundcloud.com/garyvee/ Twitter: http://twitter.com/garyvee Medium: http://medium.com/@garyvee Planet of the Apps | http://planetoftheapps.com iTunes Podcast | http://apple.co/1QxEM7m Wine Library | http://winelibrary.com ## Содержание ### [0:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AfL5Mi5j8Q0) Segment 1 (00:00 - 05:00) - [Woman On Phone] Hello? - Hey. How are you? - I'm really well. [Woman On Phone] I'm trying not to freak out. - [Gary] (laughs) That's a good strategy. We don't want to spend our entire 60 Second Club on the freak out. - No, not at all. - [Gary] Very cool so what do you want to do in our time here? - I actually wanted to know, I know that in a couple of your Snaps you said you have a family and I know you don't show your kids on Snap and stuff like that. But I'm just curious on how you balance it all. I kind of do a couple different things and for a while there I kind of felt like I had everything at least up in the air. And then it kind of all came down and now just trying to get everything spinning again. I just feel like I was doing good on one then I'm failing at another and I just want to know how you balance it all. - [Gary] I think I balance it all by not judging myself too harshly. I think that's really where it starts and stops. I think way too many people have lost the work-life balance before it's even started because they're gonna be critical on themselves regardless of it. Right, it's so hard to balance and so for me I just know I'm doing the best that I can and if that in itself has put me in a position to succeed. And some days that means that I have to choose my family time on a Friday night or Sunday morning, an executive ran into me on Saturday and asked me to meet for coffee and wanted to jam and I just couldn't. I couldn't because of the family time, right? And so that's the family being chosen. Other times I'm flying and speaking somewhere or having a big meeting and I'm missing you know some sort of like school function that I didn't want to miss and that's the other way and the truth is I just don't beat myself up. All of us are trying the best we can and so as long as nothing is glaring and to me glaring is the following: my kids have become completely horrible people and have major problems in society and/or I go directly out of business in my businesses. As long as neither one of those are happening I think it's gonna be okay. And so I think it's how you judge how you're balancing way more than the reality of it and recognizing that you have a different point of view on it then your partner, then the kids, then your business associates and I think you need to care about your point of view on it first and foremost while being empathetic to everybody else's points of view. - [Woman On Phone] Awesome. (laughs) That's a really good answer. I know that, yeah, it's hard to try and not judge what you're doing and stuff like that. - That's the game, right? That's, like, everybody could be failing at work-life balance if they've decided that they're failing at work-life balance. - [Woman On Phone] Okay. - So, as long as you know you're not, as long as your spouse or your partner isn't saying I want to break up or get a divorce and as long as your kids aren't eating pine tar banks aren't coming to foreclose your business, you're gonna be okay. You know and I think people are freaking out like I didn't even see my dad until I was 15 and I love him and we have the best relationship. There're people who've had their fathers walk out of their family and they didn't see them for 15 years and now they've great relationships because they've reconciled. People are way too judgmental and overanalyzing work-life balance in today's modern PR society. - [Woman On Phone] Mhmmm. - And so, if you feel good about it then you'll win and I think not judging yourself too harshly because it is hard to balance everything 'cause that's life and I just, I don't aim for perfect. I'm not interested in perfect, it's not real. Perfect is fake and so I just live. - [Woman On Phone] That's awesome. Thank you. (laughs) - You're welcome. It feels better, right? It feels better to look at it that way. - [Woman On Phone] Yeah, I said it's hard and with little kids and stuff, you know it's like Mommy's not here, Daddy's not here and that's kind of all they see. You know as much as they're involved it's just kind of hard some days. - They're tougher than you think. How old are they? - [Woman On Phone] Three and eight. - Three and eight, tell me anything you remember being three. Go. - [Woman On Phone] Not much. (laughs) - Interesting. - [Woman On Phone] Just being in a hospital. - Right. And you know what? As long as you're counter balancing it with love and one of the biggest things, all these parents judging people meanwhile they're around 'cause they work 9 to 5 but if they're not deploying love and are in it from 5 to 9 every night and on the weekend what are they really accomplishing? Just 'cause you're there doesn't mean you're there. - [Woman On Phone] Right. When you do have your family, like you said, when you have your family time you just kind of say that's family time and that's kind of non-negotiable. That might be different times but... - Yes and sometimes, most the time it works out but sometimes ### [5:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AfL5Mi5j8Q0&t=300s) Segment 2 (05:00 - 08:00) it doesn't, right? Sometimes I can get distracted and I'm just not willing to beat myself up if I decided to go down a rabbit hole for an hour on a Sunday when I should've been all in on the family. That's just gonna happen. I just-- - [Woman On Phone] Right. - This is about not beating yourself up and knowing where your intent and your efforts are and also knowing life's a long game. So in two, three years when I'm taking my kids on business trips and traveling with them and showing them the world like that's where the benefits have come from some of the sacrifices. I don't know, I think everybody, you know, if they had the option of would you rather have had your parents around every minute from 1 to 5 but not be able to do all these amazing experiences with them from 11 to 18 versus the alternative, I just have a funny feeling all this will raise our hand and say I'll take that 11 to 18 shit and I plan on dominating that and some of the sacrifices I have to create between 1 to 8 is something I'm willing to do and that's my strategy and I don't give a fuck if some parenting blogger says that I'm not spending enough time with them. Fuck you. - [Woman On Phone] (laughs) Thank you. - Let me judge you from afar. Do you know what I mean? - [Woman On Phone] Yeah. Yeah, there's too many people out there doing that. I love your attitude and I love your message and I started following you a couple months ago, I love, I wait for your content every day. In fact, there's some days that I know like, I know that sometimes if someone's like, "I don't have time," and this and that you're like, "I'm gonna go audit their social media. " And I'm like maybe I can piss him off (Gary laughs) my social media. (laughs) - I love it. - [Woman On Phone] The good and bad I'm doing at this point but I really appreciate you taking the time. In fact, I was running from my daughter's dance lesson with her yesterday as I'm commenting on your post and hash tagging and I got home and I was like, "I get to talk to GaryVee! " And my husband's like, "I don't know what that means. " - (laughs) He's like, "What's that all about? " Listen, honestly, and thank you. Right now, I'm feeling really good in my stomach because I knew why I wanted to do this 60 Seconds, you know, I figured out my health by tricking myself into a system where I was accountable to somebody else, I knew that I wanted to do something more for my community even though that I feel like I'm at the top of my game, I wanted to be better than my best self and I needed to trick myself into a game that made me bring more. And at this moment, right now, I'm super, I've never been happier about this 60 Second. You know, the 60 Second Club is fun 'cause it's fun to see how many comments and you get in this and it's crazy and that's all fun but this chat made it better. - [Woman On Phone] Well, thank you very much. I appreciate you taking time. - Take care. Bye-bye. - [Woman On Phone] Bye. - That was fun. - [Tyler] That was good. You want to go? - 60 Second Club. Got to trick yourself. (hip hop music) --- *Источник: https://ekstraktznaniy.ru/video/19067*