# #AskGaryVee Episode 102: Patience, Headlines, & Dads Joining Instagram ## Метаданные - **Канал:** Gary Vaynerchuk - **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7NWnPrQ8zCg - **Дата:** 22.05.2015 - **Длительность:** 15:22 - **Просмотры:** 39,225 ## Описание #QOTD, from India: What are your Memorial Day weekend plans? #Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 1:32 - What kind of headlines attract you on social media? 3:30 - Why is twitter so much like a wall in a public bathroom? 4:45 - What are some easy ways to become more self-aware? 7:50 - Like why is my dad following me on instagram? Like no that’s not unacceptable. 9:43 - How do you balance speed/hustle and patience #LINKS SELF-AWARENESS VIDEO https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6tKf1IR5j8 MY NEWEST ARTICLE https://medium.com/@garyvee/you-are-more-than-the-decisions-you-make-67ef4428c637 I would argue that Twitter is, in fact, NOT like a wall in a public bathroom. The app Secret was more like that, because you didn't know who was writing what. What's scarier is that people are putting their names behind these comments on Twitter that maybe aren't such great things to say in the first place. Twitter is more of a cocktail party where people are making statements; or maybe a gathering of friends. Less so like a bathroom stall. To me, the bathroom stall is Secret, or Yik-Yak. Anonymous apps. You write something that nobody can attribute to you. -- Gary Vaynerchuk builds businesses. Fresh out of college he took his family wine business and grew it from a $3M to a $60M business in just five years. Now he runs VaynerMedia, one of the world's hottest digital agencies. Along the way he became a prolific angel investor and venture capitalist, investing in companies like Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Uber, and Birchbox before eventually co-founding VaynerRSE, a $25M angel fund. The #AskGaryVee Show is Gary's way of providing as much value value as possible by taking your questions about social media, entrepreneurship, startups, and family businesses and giving you his answers based on a lifetime of building successful, multi-million dollar companies. Gary is also a prolific public speaker, delivering keynotes at events like Le Web, and SXSW, which you can watch right here on this channel. Find Gary here: Website: http://garyvaynerchuk.com Wine Library: http://winelibrary.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/gary Twitter: http://twitter.com/garyvee Instagram: http://instagram.com/garyvee Medium: http://medium.com/@garyvee ## Содержание ### [0:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7NWnPrQ8zCg) Intro on this episode we talk about headlines self-awareness and why your dad showed up on Instagram you ask questions and I answer them this is the Ask Gary B show hey everybody this is Gary vay Nerd Chuck and this is episode 102 of the Ask Gary ve show so last night was a long night I got some four dinners and an Afterparty business networking got home at 4:15 in the morning so a little bit more tired than normal um happy Memorial Day everybody in the US um and uh happy weekend to everybody outside the US uh India let's get into the show I love that part for some reason it's like my favorite part of the show it's like literally it's gonna eventually be like I'm gonna just start coming up with different I should do something weird today dck stop trying to like force the show you're such a over producer all right India let's get into the show ### [1:32](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7NWnPrQ8zCg&t=92s) What kind of headlines attract you on social media? lynon wants to know what kind of headlines attract you on social media ly it's a great question um I think the interesting part about this question is I think a lot of different headlines attract me and I think the headline copy reading called the BuzzFeed ification of media is fully in play now I mean when you go look with a cynical it be it'd be fun to ask Steve this question it probably hurts your actually not that's not true I'm curious what your take is on the fact that like the New York times now does this right like literally the whole world has gone slang in five you know ways to do this like it's all headline copy marketing it's the stuff I built Wine Library on email marketing headlines it's just become the game um I'm not quite sure exactly what's grabbing my attention usually it's around the subject matter so um usually things that scare me like Jets running backs in trouble oh no you know like so uh but um I uh I'm not sure but the reason I wanted to answer the question is because I think it's very important for everybody who's watching the show I know a lot of people here are go-getters entrepreneurs um and do gooders whether you're trying to raise money for your charity or whether you're uh trying to sell a boot uh for the winter you need to really think about the copy on everything you put out it is an absolute variable to success you can follow all the structural advice that I'm giving you but when you get to writing the copy on a Facebook dark post or a Pinterest post or on Twitter if you're not good at that grabbing someone's attention you're in big trouble and so uh I'm not sure what's grabbing my attention but I know that the person behind writing it is doing a good job that's how you answer the question without answering the question by bringing value to your audience not by dodging Steve what did I dodge no you laugh your laugh was like ### [3:30](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7NWnPrQ8zCg&t=210s) Why is twitter so much like a wall in a public bathroom? like all right let's go Bruce asks why is Twitter so much like a wall in a public bathroom Bruce this is a tremendous question I think the uh I would argue that it's not secret um was more like a public bathroom because you don't know who wrote it and I think that uh what's scarier probably by your rant is that people are actually putting their faces Behind these comments that you think are so lame or interesting or aggressive or however you're positioning it so I would argue that they're not I think that they're um the Twitter is much more like you know a cocktail party where people are just making statements or a gathering of friends or you know less of the bathroom stall that to me that's secret and all the other Anonymous Yik Yak place that's more of the psychology you write something that nobody can attribute to you bathroom business jargon uh from T people say in business and bathroom this going be one of the great black and white episodes of the askar B show you guys are loving this right all right tagline Tom wants to know what are ### [4:45](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7NWnPrQ8zCg&t=285s) What are some easy ways to become more self-aware? some easy ways to become more self-aware tagline Tom uh I think there's one hack for becoming more self-aware which is asking people around you and creating a safe uh Zone a permission for them to actually tell you about you from their perspective and it's on you to create that safe place so that they actually tell you things that you may not want to hear um because what I think could happen is that you get chipped away at and I think that ultimately if you hear enough people say that you're too kind or too aggressive or full of or whatever it is that eventually um you know I got to stop cursing cuz all the Facebook posts now you guys need the beep that's extra work for you guys I like how you guys um uh you know I think that that's the one place that's the only hack I know I don't think there's any other move I think it's about getting people to tell you about yourself in safe environments be aggressive about that really seek out uh that feedback um and then be man enough woman enough to eat it um really and the way you get more of it is when a friend of you says I think you're a little full of crap you know you don't end that relationship you triple down on that relationship because they're giving it to you and that's if you really want self-awareness you need to wildly if you want to hack self-awareness I actually think it's predicated on having thick skin I think I think that is why I really think so much of what I pull off is predicated on how thick my skin is my skin is thick um you know I just can handle it I just can I hate it I hate like reading like you know bad stuff about me it's just it's devastating but I respect it I can accept it I understand it and I try to use it as something that I go on the offense with going forward and so they're learning moments and so you know if you get over yourself right if you know and the funny thing is like I don't know I feel like I'm so self-aware I'm not sure if I think but I you know even like even people that I think are not self-aware around me it's funny to me how self-aware they really are just you don't let your brain accept your shortcomings um as we oh the self-awareness video this would be a good time to click it up if you haven't seen this is some of the best work who is this was dck or Stefan this is great this was great show him them great watch the video link it up and like show a little still you know what dck edit in like a little I want 13 seconds of it your choice go this is a word that is rarely talked about in our space that I want to start building more attention for selfawareness I want to deliver on this message so much I would create a test or a drug that allowed people to become self-aware one potion inject not hustle not smart selfawareness I don't fear being self-aware all right let's ### [7:50](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7NWnPrQ8zCg&t=470s) Like why is my dad following me on instagram? Like no that’s not unacceptable. keep going Stephanie asked like why is my dad following me on Instagram like no that's unacceptable Stephanie have bad news every social network that you go to try to get away from Pops when they hit scale pops is going to show up hey Stephanie it's your dad this knick-knack thing is real cool that's what's going to always happen for the rest of your life and by the way let me get a little bit deeper on that Steve you were about to say something oh I was just going to say no something for the end of the show hold it do it ruin the end of the show we're on Spotify what do you mean excited I'm excited we're on Spotify the Gary V show is on Spotify I sent you four emails yesterday was a busy day that is cool yeah see it was a black and white announcement this is we're on Spotify this was not a color announcement this was a black and white announcement we're on Spotify and Stephanie going back to you and the entire vayer nation soon you'll be part of it Stephanie yes you will uh you know I know it was weird that creep Alex hit you up that somebody answered your question on Twitter randomly I love this whole thing making Alex the creepy guy is so fun for me um look that's what just happens right we it happened with Facebook it's happening right now with Instagram um the youth establishes these new kind of community centers for our society and then everybody follows that's a very interesting dynamic because I think that's the reverse of the way Human Nature has been for a very long time and so I think that the youth culture of our society is now establishing the main community centers not the C new club that's different this is the this is the out andout community centers of our society is going to have very massive long-term effects on us as humans uh I think that's why we're living through a youthification that I talk a lot about and so that's why it's happening ### [9:43](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7NWnPrQ8zCg&t=583s) How do you balance speed/hustle and patience Stephanie Johannes asks how do you balance speed hustle and patience Johannes is such a great name I really like that like Johan and Pocahontas what no seriously I wasn't thinking that you weren't thinking that that's what I was thinking that Johan Santana at was dating Pocahontas and they were known as a couple as johanes that's johans is a real baseball player Lefty and Pocahontas is obviously Pocas okay let's go into it uh obviously uh this is y I got it johanes right uh this is the best question because the truth is um I really believe that uh I'm a bridge right I'm pulling equally very aggressively from both sides that I'm a human contradiction that if you really watch the show and throws people off as they get deeper into my content that often times I'm saying things that contradict themselves because the truth is they both live in real life at the same time and it's about finding that Cadence and balance to guide through I am massively at a global level patient uh but on a practical level and an execution level I'm very fast right so it's it's really it really is religion and church right like at the highest like at the theoretical at the at the gray levels I'm patient long game I'm aware that as long as I'm alive I'm playing the businessman game and and it doesn't end tomorrow and if it ends tomorrow I don't know the outcome anyway cuz I'm dead right and so in but in real life I understand it's a race and the speed is a variable for success to me in a big way um hustle and so patience and speed are very much rubbing against each other but it's like the diamond comes from that right like and so that's the thing that I think about I don't I I find it very easy to do both you have to understand there's people that are both in Practical and philosophical terms and they have different outcomes AKA there's people that philosophically are not patient they're impatient and they're fast and they look like the bad version of what I am right they're like Hustlers and they're like doing everything for themselves and they're not patient they don't care about the long game and they're just going to take and take and they're going to take fast gather and I think that Society the game rewards them and they're there's a lot of millionaires and billionaires that didn't do it the right way and that's what I think they look like then there's a lot of people that are massively patient and slow and those are the enormous amount of people that you know in a business context not in life I'm they're probably some of the loveliest human beings that have ever been made because they're slow and they're patient and everything just lovely and let's just like sit on the porch and you know drink peach tea for the rest of our lives and like go slow just go real slow like let's sit and look at stuff like let's sit on the porch and look like look at stuff like a car just drove by great like I mean like that you know is not interesting to me either um and so that exists so I actually think what I do exists a lot I think they're I think it's the likable you know aggressive person and that's you know they're out there and there's a lot of winners that are good people that I really think that and I think if you look at my analogies the speed part is really valuable right like if you're speedy and selfish uh and impatient um you know I think the other thing about the uh the lack of patience and fast you don't have to be a bad person I think it leads to mistakes right that's another variable layer here you know it's funny that my brain went that first narrative here's a second narrative you're going fast you're not patient so you rush the outcome and you leave money on the table you sold the company too soon you uh you weren't as profitable as you could have been because you missed things because you didn't see it because you weren't tactful um and so you know I think uh I think it has essence of strategy um you know somebody once said uh to me about Bayer uh Gary you guys are so interesting he was trying to zing me a little bit that we weren't strategic enough he said you're so interesting but he's like when you get into the house uh I feel like a lot of times you guys just run through the glass window instead of opening the door like it was a funny analogy and then I looked at him and said yeah but we're going to own all the homes I guess that's a good way to end it cool uh question of the day uh what are you H India you get to ask the question of day I know you knew what's gonna happen I don't really know what I want to know what are your Memorial Day weekend plans you're going to hate it you hate it it's almost weirdly the thing I was going to do what really yeah you can asking questions India will keep telling me to answer them's watching let's do it we could maybe turn this uh yeah you said you want to make a video too cool so let's do it you can't have nice things --- *Источник: 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