# How to address someone who says "I'm just being honest" like a leader not a manager 🙌🏻🔥 #management

## Метаданные

- **Канал:** Basic Leadership Skills
- **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9j4jR_LrMX0
- **Источник:** https://ekstraktznaniy.ru/video/31878

## Транскрипт

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How to address someone who says, "What? I'm just being honest. " Like a leader, not a manager. Well, number one is we want to separate honesty from delivery. A manager says, "You're being rude. " But a leader says, "Honesty matters. " Absolutely. But so does how it lands. I say this a lot, but impact always outweighs intent. So we can ask like, "What outcome were you hoping for? Then how do you think that it actually landed? And if growth was the goal, then how would you phrase it? Bnee Brown says, "Honesty without compassion is cruelty. " And that's not what they want. Number two is we want to make impact visible here. And that's why I love the SBI model. Situation, behavior, impact. A manager simply says, "Well, that's inappropriate. " But a leader focuses on awareness. Look, when feedback feels sharp, people shut down. influence, positive or negative, it requires awareness. So that's our goal here. So we want to help, right? What behavior change were you trying to create? Did your approach move us closer to that outcome? Then how could that same message be delivered with more effectiveness? One of my favorite ideas here is that impact is what people experience, not what you intended. Oh, and real quick, if you're looking for leadership tools, tips, frameworks, questions, activities, these say this, not that cards or the new if this then that cards, you could sign up here, get a discount, or click the link in my profile and start using them today. And then number three is we want to redefine constructive cander. A manager says, "Well, say it nicer next time. " But a leader says, "Let's let's aim for clarity that builds people up, right? not breaks people down. And of course, we all want that. So they'll buy in because cander works best with care. Kim Scott, radical cander, says, "In order to earn the right to be candid, you have to care personally about the whole person. " So what would strong and respectful feedback look like here? And how do we hold truth and care at the same time? And we build this approach together. As a manager, I'm attacking their tone, but as a leader, I'm elevating their communication so they can be more intentional about their influence. And look, leadership is not a title, right? It's a fire. And we have the opportunity to ignite it, not only in ourselves, but in others. Now, if you like these little tips and frameworks, check out my profile and follow