# Rich 90 Year Olds Share Advice for Younger Self ## Метаданные - **Канал:** Sprouht - **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fFI_H_m-IKM ## Содержание ### [0:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fFI_H_m-IKM) Segment 1 (00:00 - 05:00) I never know when it's going to be my last day. How many days or how many hours do I have left? — Most of my life, I worried too much about other people. I was looking for approval. — The first marriage didn't end until 37 years. That's a long time to live. But why? That's really hard. Dating now so often includes sex. It's like what? I would rather be back in the 1940s. — 68 years of marriage. — Wow. Another blessing. — Are you proud of who you were and what you did? — No. Am I proud? No. Not. — It's tempting to take the easy way, but um you got to keep searching for what feels right. — Today, I'll be in Miami, Florida, asking strangers in their 90s and 100s. Some of the oldest and most experienced people in the world about their biggest mistakes in life and their greatest advice for somebody of your age. How old are you? 96. I'm 101. — I'm 91. — What does it feel like to be 91? — Oh jeez. Well, how much time do you have? Um, what's it like to be 91? It's surprising. How could I wake up and be this old? I only feel 16. Surprising to a lot of people that I look and move the way I do. So sometimes I feel like a freak, — but that, you know, that's okay. — 26. Oh my god, I want to be 26. — When I look at the mirror, I realize that I am older. But the mirror can be wrong. It also depend on how you really feel. — What do you think keeps you going at 101? — Luck and pills. — Right. I'm curious. And as long as I'm halfway comfortable, I'm glad to be here. And I am halfway comfortable. I didn't have bad habits. I didn't drink a lot. I smoked for about 40 years. — Wow. — And I quit. — When did you quit? — I must have been in my 60s when I quit. And I got away with it. But I don't recommend anybody else doing that. Was just plain luck. — What have you done in your life to get to this point and feel the way you feel? — It's genetic roulette. — I mean, you must have done something. — I wish I could tell you. It's a whiskey every day. No. I don't have — Do you have whiskey every day? — What? — You do? You have Oh, you're just Oh, yeah. — Oh, no. Take that back. I think people stop growing. I mean, 70 for some people feels really old that I'm 70. So, now I don't have to um read the paper. grow anymore. — I can just relax and enjoy my grandchildren or something. But um I think that's too bad when people do that. But I'm not sure they have a choice. I think intellectually oriented endeavors are important. I've been at attending a series of lectures on the history of Arabs and the and Islam, economics and politics just concentrating on many stuff for the last 6 months. — So never stop learning. — You're still curious about that. — Very curious. Yeah. — Life is a learning process. Yeah, — since you are born you learn how to walk, how to talk and throughout the life you have to be learning and learning. I am learning at my age. I am still learning many things all the time. All the time it's a learning experience — and a lot of people stop wanting to be curious. They get older and they don't want to be curious. Even people my age aren't even curious. A lot of my friends are not curious about life. They just exist. I think that's what keeps you going. You have to be very curious about life. — Just a sec. 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We have no problems as far as age goes. — So, you said you were married the first time that didn't work out, but then the second time, I'm assuming it did work out. — Oh, yes. — How long were you together with your second husband? — Um, 15 years. Took me a long time to find him, but um and the first marriage didn't end until 37 years. I mean ### [5:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fFI_H_m-IKM&t=300s) Segment 2 (05:00 - 10:00) that's a long time. — Yeah. — That's a long time to live with a lie. — What do you describe that second relationship? What made that so good, that relationship? — I felt respected. I felt valued. And I hope he did, too. — I'm assuming he passed away. — Yeah. — What has it been like to go through life and then you see your brothers and your father when you were younger and your late husband to see these people pass? How do you deal with that grief? — I talk to them. I'm not overly religious, but I talk to particularly my father and my second husband. I mean, I tell him jokes. I tell him funny stuff that I I've noticed during the day. I'll tell them about this really nice pair of young men that came to visit me today. — Let him know. Yeah. They were very good-looking. — Very good-looking, handsome, very kind. — Thank you. — Mhm. I was married for I forget how many years in divorce. — Okay. And never remarried after that. — Right. — What was the reason? Sorry if you don't mind me asking. I mind your ask. — You mind? — No, that's okay. It was no longer a working relationship. — I can't answer that. — Yeah. — I met my wife when she was 15 and I was 18. — Wow. — We married uh when she was 19 and I was 23. But then Fidel Castro came. He confiscated all the businesses and properties. We didn't have any other choice to leave. We moved to many different countries thinking well we are going to go back back but after four five years you decide that you're not going to go back you are starting a new life a new career a new environment so there is no need to go back and then we came to Miami for the first time to live in 1984 68 years of marriage another blessing — wow — so I have known her for about 70 — 71 years and uh she's part of me. Even though we are different, we are actually the same. — I don't know that many people ever who've been married for as long as you guys have. The divorce rate is more than 50% in the US. What are people doing wrong from your opinion? — Is a mindset. They know they're going to get married, but they don't think that it's a married for life. The mindset is if it doesn't work, I'm going to divorce. So that is why you have 50% of divorce. — You've been married for how long? — 68 years. — So you guys met in school. — We met in college. — A lot of people most people get divorced. Most people's marriages don't last this long. What are some secrets that you've you could extract? — Well, I think common values, hard work, concentration on our children. Being from a intact family helps too — and not everybody is. So, — but time I'm sure time times must have been tough in at various points. How do you manage those times? — Times weren't tough. — No. — Well, listen, I'm not going to argue with that. That's a great That's perfect. What do you think makes a great relationship and more specifically a great partner? — If I knew I would have done it, uh, what makes a great partner? Somebody who is on the same track that you're on. Can you define the word love for me? — Caring about something. Really caring — I think steadfast companionship and uh common goals and giving to the other person. A feeling that you like the person, you respect the person. Could be a love for your wife, love for your neighbor, love to God, love to any animal, any pet. Love is to everybody. Everybody should be love. — Can you define the word love for me? — Oh, that's really hard. I don't know. I 've certainly felt it, but I felt it for the plant. I mean, — yeah. — Not that plant. — Yeah. But — other plants. — Yeah. But you know what? It's just it's a big old amorphous concept. — Yeah. — Overused. I love that movie. Well, come on. After speaking to over a thousand people in the world, a lot of whom have been extremely successful and fulfilled like the people you see in this video, I've learned that people lose the big picture a lot and that creates internal chaos both in life and in business. Today's sponsor, ODU, helps to fix that in the business sense. So, if you are a small business or an entrepreneur, listen up. With ODU, you can build a quote in minutes, send it out, and turn it into a sales order and invoice in the same flow. even including online signatures and payments. Then ODU gives you real-time stock tracking and smart ### [10:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fFI_H_m-IKM&t=600s) Segment 3 (10:00 - 15:00) reordering so you're not accidentally selling what you don't have. For example, if a store emails us and they ask for a 100 of our everyday planners, we can send the quote in ODO and once it's approved, we can instantly check if we have enough inventory to fulfill it. If you're building a brand and you want sales and inventory to feel simple, check out ODU by clicking the link in the description or scanning the code on screen. What is one thing that when you were younger you put a lot of importance on and as you got older you realized it wasn't worth worrying so much about? — Well, most of my life I worried too much about other people. I was looking for approval. — Yeah. I wanted the approval of my peers. I got older. I accepted myself more and I figure they can take it or leave it. — Yeah. Around what age did that start happening? — 90. — Do you think life would have been better for you if you hadn't cared as much? — Not really. I think we don't have a control over lots of things. You just have to go with it. — You sure? — Yeah. — If you've got 101 years, your whole life is a timeline in front of you and you're looking back on it. Are you proud of who you were and what you did and how you lived? — Not I did. Okay. I'm not. — Am I proud? No. Not. If you could redo life, but you know everything you know today, what would you do differently? What are some things you would change? — I think it's important to make good choices about your work and to be selective about what you choose to do because I bumbled my way through the labor situation and I just went from one thing to another. I envy the person who can be a teenager and say I want to be such and such. I never was ambitious. — I'm pretty well satisfied with who I am. It's honesty. One has to be honest with oneself. — But why are people not I feel like a lot of people are not. — It's tough. Being 90 is not it's not a piece of cake. But really the tough part is when you're starting out and the odds seem against you and you're 20, 35 and it hasn't happened yet and you haven't found where you really where your niche really is. That's tough to be honest in those circumstances. It's tempting to take the easy way, but um you got to keep searching for what feels right. I wasn't always honest with myself and um I should have been more honest. It would have been really hard. Is what I'm doing worth doing? — Yeah. — How do I make sure? What are some rules or things that come to mind? If I want the same outcome, I want to be 90 and I want to look back on my life and be very proud. What are some rules I should abide by? — Raise your children well. Be faithful to your wife. Be in a good partnership. Do right by your parents. Be close to your parents as long as you can. Yeah. — As long as they live. If you had to think of three things that people should never do, three mistakes people should never make, what comes to mind? — Younger people, they get a job for getting a job. To find a job and to describe it as a good job is a job that you have to have a passion that when you get up in the morning, you say, "God, I'm going to work. I'm going to this. " And you're thinking about all these things that you have to do. And then you start let's say at 8 o'clock in the morning and at 5:00 or 5:00 the day went by and you enjoyed doing it. And that I think is a big difference when you are successful or you are not successful you struggle you go into wrong directions. — I think that I didn't develop my interests like a young person does today. I don't think anyone pointed to the way ahead for me. And I think if young people today work harder at figuring out what they can do well and I sort of stumbled along — and went and did my job and — Yeah. What's maybe a question that a young person can ask themsself if they want to get closer to knowing what to do in life? — I'm not I'd have to be 200 years old to answer that. Yeah. — I can't give anybody advice except just do what you think is the right thing and have pleasure. — Yeah. — Would you rather grow up as a young person when you were younger? — Yeah, for sure. I think it's tough now. We're not taking care of the world the way we should. And I'm just as guilty as the next person. Young people need to take it seriously. all the threats. — When you think about being young back then compared to being young today ### [15:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fFI_H_m-IKM&t=900s) Segment 4 (15:00 - 17:00) — what do you think was the better time — then? Because for now it's so confusing for young people. You have so many choices. I couldn't understand dating now that dating now so often includes sex. It's like what? That would be very confusing to me and I would rather be back in the 1940s. — Do you journal? I know you filled out a copy a page in our journal here. — Yeah, in the past I've journaled. Yeah. I found that through my life that if I was really upset, journaling was so helpful. Write down what you're feeling and see sort it out that way. And if you can't write in sentences, make lists, pros and cons. Writing is thinking — very much so. Yeah. — It's been an outlet for me. It takes a medication to analyze — what you really want to be or want you want to do in life. — One thing that you're grateful for today. What makes you grateful at 91? — I am looking forward to going to dinner tonight with some friends. I enjoy their company. You have to be happy in life. You cannot be depressed. You have to have energy. — Feeling pretty well. Yes. I think when you're if you're struck by illness, that's really devastating. And I've been considering how old I I've been well a lot. And that's luck and whatever makes wellness. — I'm grateful for being outdoors. I'm grateful for good weather. But now remember, this is when I first got here. — Uhhuh. — What the heck am I getting into? Yeah. — And these guys are really cute, but what's going on here? So I was I was drawing a blank. — Now looking back, — I'm glad I came. — Glad you came. That's good. — Mhm. — This question you wrote here, you told me at the beginning, a question that you want to answer today. — How much longer will I live? — And you said if I can answer that for you, I should quit my job and do something else. — Yeah, you can just go door todo. — I know this was a tough question for you, but a question that you want to answer today. What did you write here? What I wrote there is at that 91 I never know when it's going to be my last day. So I always think I am curious uh and we never know what day will be the last day. But I always at this age worry well how many days or how many hours or how many months or how many years do I have left in this earth. — Thank you so much for watching this video. If you have enjoyed it, guess what? This is part of a huge year for us where we're going around the world and interviewing people from all these different countries, of all these different ages, and giving you perspectives like this channel has never offered before. So, if you haven't already subscribed, please make sure to do that. --- *Источник: https://ekstraktznaniy.ru/video/39809*