# Why getting what you want can make you feel empty?

## Метаданные

- **Канал:** Mark Manson
- **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fT_wHsOhnD4
- **Дата:** 09.05.2026
- **Длительность:** 1:15
- **Просмотры:** 3,209

## Содержание

### [0:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fT_wHsOhnD4) Segment 1 (00:00 - 01:00)

There's a psychological phenomenon called hedonic adaptation and it explains why achieving more things will not make you happy. Let's say you get the promotion, you find your dream relationship, you hit your big number, whatever that is, within a few months, sometimes even weeks, you're going to be back at square one emotionally. Same baseline level, same low hum of dissatisfaction. Your brain recalibrates around the new normal and immediately starts scanning for the next problem for it to solve. And this is neurological, it's something that we all go through, it's our default programming. Which means that the life you're killing yourself to build now, you're going to be vaguely disappointed by it somewhere down the line. Now, most people don't figure this out, so they keep stacking more outcomes, more money, better relationships, bigger wins, more prestige, waiting for the next version of their life to finally arrive so that they can feel like enough. But the problem is that enough feeling never arrives. The goal is to stop outsourcing your sense of meaning to the finish line, because by the time you get there, your brain will have already moved on and created another finish line for itself. You know, there's that old Chinese proverb about how it's all about the journey and not the destination. Well, it took Western psychologists about 2,000 years, but turns out they were right.

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*Источник: https://ekstraktznaniy.ru/video/49876*