# The secret to better conversations? Stop waiting for your turn to speak #TEDTalks

## Метаданные

- **Канал:** TED
- **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ix7zi1s2uD0
- **Дата:** 17.05.2026
- **Длительность:** 1:17
- **Просмотры:** 3,710
- **Источник:** https://ekstraktznaniy.ru/video/51162

## Описание

"Every conversation has the potential to open up and reveal all the layers and layers within it, all those rooms within rooms," says podcaster and musician Hrishikesh Hirway. In this profoundly moving talk, he offers a guide to deep conversations and explores what you learn when you stop to listen closely. Stay tuned to the end to hear a performance of his original song "Between There and Here (feat. Yo-Yo Ma)."

## Транскрипт

### Segment 1 (00:00 - 01:00) []

Imagine trying to listen to a song while singing a different song in your head. You can't do it or well. And you can't fully appreciate what someone else is saying if you're thinking about something else. And I hate to say it, but between our phones and our smartwatches and just our own wandering thoughts, it's easy to get distracted and we tend to listen to other people that way, too. I'm also a big believer in the power of non-verbal communication. Like just a simple act of a nod is a way to let the other person know that you're engaged and also invites them to keep going and say more. That kind of intentional engaged silence makes space for them. That also means turning off the instinct to talk about yourself. I used to think that this was actually the best way to show that I was really listening. Someone would tell me something and I'd say, "Oh man, you know, that reminds me of this thing that happened to me. " and then I would tell a whole story of my own. It's kind of like listening to half a song and then saying, "Oh, you know, this part reminds me of this other song. " And then turning that first song off and going and putting on some other song, which is also something I've done. But you can't get deeper if you lose the moment like that. So, it's a challenge to your impatience and to your selfishness to be engaged without making it about