# How I Make All My Dreams Come True. (cosy life update!)

## Метаданные

- **Канал:** UnJaded Jade
- **YouTube:** https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_z7MMSmnNfo
- **Дата:** 17.05.2026
- **Длительность:** 22:20
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## Описание

welcome to a cosy update! you can go to https://surfshark.com/unjadedjade or use code UNJADEDJADE at checkout to get 4 extra months of Surfshark VPN! (ad)

This video is a diary-style cosy one for all my friends out there who want to catch up on my life!! I've been reflecting a lot on how I alchemise moments of self-doubt and insecurity into sustained, authentic confidence, and I hope this mini video essay helps you do the same. I'll be exploring metaphors about safety and the unknown, inviting you to own your authentic self with all your unique quirks, and to realise that you'll never be confident 100% of the time. I hope you enjoy my unfiltered astrology-obsessed self hehe xx

Timestamps:
00:00 Update: Horse Trekking Kyrgyzstan, Documentary-Making, Insecurity and Confidence
1:44 Safety and Vastness are Not Opposites (Kyrgyz Horse Trip)
10:15 Comparison is the Thief of Confidence (am i clever enough?)
15:39 Confidence Comes in Seasons (embrace your spring)

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## Содержание

### [0:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_z7MMSmnNfo) Update: Horse Trekking Kyrgyzstan, Documentary-Making, Insecurity and Confidence

Today's video is kindly sponsored by Surfshark. I don't want to be another influencer who pretends to have infinite confidence, who pretends that everything in their life is figured out. I want to let you in on my mess. In today's cozy catch-up life update video, I really want to tell you more about my fluctuating journey with confidence and how even though I am seemingly at the peak of certainty in my career, I have the most purpose and direction that I've had in a long time, I still have to battle thoughts like "I'm not clever enough. I don't know what I'm doing. " And how I alchemize these moments of self-doubt into continued audacity to let my unique voice shine in this world so that I can offer the unique gifts that I bring to best serve others and create the change I want to see in the world. I want to catch you guys up on everything from the fact that I've been invited to the World Education Forum next week, the incredible work projects and travel that I've just done in the last month, my relational life, how I'm navigating this tender time in my 20s, and also I want to tell you about one of the best trips of my life that I just went on. So, grab a cozy little drink and I want to take you to the mountains of Kyrgyzstan because I just spent the last 10 days horse trekking across Kyrgyzstan, which was on my goals for the year list, and you know I've got to tick those off. To set the scene and make this video feel even more human, I would like to read you one of my scrappy writings while I was in a yurt in Kyrgyzstan. I landed in Kyrgyzstan with no accommodation, no plan, a rough idea to go horse trekking, and I ended up finding the most incredible guide, this beautiful horse called Red, tracking through the most beautiful scenery that you can imagine. And one of the concepts that my friend Emma has had me reflecting on is safety and vastness are

### [1:44](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_z7MMSmnNfo&t=104s) Safety and Vastness are Not Opposites (Kyrgyz Horse Trip)

not opposites. We're going to circle back to this when we're talking about confidence. It's all very relevant. But before I indulge you in my words, this video is so kindly sponsored by Surfshark, the VPN that I use every time I travel. I am so lucky that my work has involved a lot of travel the last few years. Travel is such a priority for me. And I first signed up to Surfshark because my good friend Jack Edwards did a brand deal with them, and it has transformed my life. So, maybe this little sponsored moment can be that for you. If you don't know what a VPN is, essentially, it swaps the real location of your device with one a new one. You can pick where you want to be in the world. So, it encrypts your phone's data and protects you, but it also lets you access content from the country that you've swapped your VPN into. So, for example, while I was in Kyrgyzstan, if I wanted to access my UK work documents, BBC iPlayer, then I could just switch myself into being in the UK, which for my work is so important. If you're traveling abroad and you want to watch shows from your home country on UK Netflix, then a VPN is just so helpful. And it protects all your private data if you're ever using public Wi-Fi, like in cafes or the airport. You can go to www. surfshark. com/unjadedjade, or you can use the code unjadedjade for an extra 4 months. I love being able to bring you good deals for things I actually use and love. Okay. Safety and vastness are not opposites. Outside the eye of our yurt, the mountain plains roll out in rugged reds and greens. Every ripe rivulet swollen with color so rich it must have been crafted by paintbrush. The faint bleating of sheep is accompanied by the sounds of movement. River water to rock, horse hoof to mud, human hand to pot. Distance surrounds us. Up and into the up, the rocks chase clouds like schoolboys playing tag. There and into the there, footsteps trace the lines of the green until they curve into the unknown. And beyond, out into the beyond, you feel the insatiable promise of possibility. Here, questions may only be answered with more questions. The door of the yurt closes and a bamboo cover unfolds into place. The world dissolves. The dark, so dark you can't tell when your eyes are open or closed. You blink into the black. The black blinks back. Even without sight, you feel the openness of the world beyond. You feel the height of the yurt, the angular ceiling pulling your being skyward. But in the unknowable darkness, you also feel the weight of your blankets. The layers tight like a hug. This cocoon of warmth holding your body rooted so your mind can safely swim in the beyond. You think about the sweet balmed presence of those you love. The caress of skin on skin, the lick of hot piping tea, the lilt of terms of endearment crafted only for your ears. This yurt air is thick with imagining. Perhaps the yurt only feels so cozy because of the vastness beyond. Perhaps it is the contrast that imbues this shape with magic. Or perhaps, like Emma encourages me to see, this safety is the vastness. It is in the infinite that I feel my most beautifully finite. I am held by my body and my people and my memories until it feels like I traverse every vast plane, not as a singular vulnerable entity, but as a yurt, forever situated in the circle of my known. — I can't believe I lived in yurts for a week. Completely off-grid. Oh, it was a dream. And the reason I wanted to bring this comparison of safety and vastness is that I think many of us think our confidence is contingent upon feeling safe. You know, the vastness of life, the deep uncertainty where we feel I don't know, almost vulnerable to the unknown, that we swallow ourselves in search of safety. To me, fostering your own self-confidence is creating safety in vastness. As you embark into the unstructured adult world with infinite demands, infinite challenge, you need to foster this safety in the home of yourself. What's funny about being human is that we're always living in the future of an imagined better version of ourselves. But, if we were to see ourselves from the perspective of a past self, one who dreamt of being who we are today, one who worked so hard to soften these hard edges of ourselves that now we take for granted, then I think that perspective would feed us with so much more gratitude for who we are today. And as I was thinking about who I was on this Kyrgyzstan trip, like I have to give myself credit. Like, bloody hell, Jade, you flew to a country where hardly anyone speaks English. Everyone spoke Kyrgyz or Russian. Um Google Translate apps do not even have Kyrgyz on them. So, that was a bit of a struggle if they didn't speak Russian cuz I was like, "Ah, I don't even have an app to communicate with you. " There was hardly any service across the country, too. So, there's a lot of hand gesturing and trust. To land in this country with no real plans and to know wholeheartedly that it will be fine because I have so much rock solid trust in myself was yeah, such a beautiful thing and again something I take for granted now as someone who has traveled so much and lived abroad and I've I have become who a past version of me desperately wanted to be and now I almost turn my attention to other areas of myself that I want to grow into and become without giving myself credit for how hard I've worked to be this now. And before we dive more into the fluctuating concept of confidence, I would love to invite you to maybe even pause this video and to think about an element of yourself right now that past you would have loved to be. Something you craved to embody, something you worked so hard to become that now you just are effortlessly without even thinking or trying. Whether that's, you know, learning to live away from home and not being such a scary thing and look, now you're doing it. Or feeling so scared to get a job and look, now you're doing it. You know, there's so many things that we just grow into in adulthood and we forget to give ourselves credit for. Also, the day after getting back from Kyrgyzstan, I went to the dentist and I asked my dentist, "Would you go to Kyrgyzstan? Would you do a horse trek like this? " And her reaction was, "If I had the opportunity, I would do it. But otherwise, probably not. " And I sort of said to her without thinking, I was like, "But don't you always have the opportunity? Can't you always create that opportunity? Technically, you know, if you're if you have sufficient income to ever think about traveling abroad or going on holiday, you always have the opportunity to choose that experience. Even if you have to get yourself a visa if you come from a country where you don't automatically get a visa, like there is always a way. Also, guys, my horse trek for four whole nights, four whole days of accommodation, traveling around the country, having a guide, having horses, was only $150. And I'm also reflecting on how a past version of me would not have seen the world as that seeable. The fact that anything and everything is available as an opportunity if only you choose to make it so. If you're interested in horse trekking Kyrgyzstan, you very much can do it, whether you've ridden a horse before or not. We've all heard the phrase, comparison is the thief of joy, but I would also argue that comparison

### [10:15](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_z7MMSmnNfo&t=615s) Comparison is the Thief of Confidence (am i clever enough?)

is the thief of confidence. Part of what inspired this video topic is that It's kind of vulnerable to even say, cuz I haven't really told many people in my life, but Um a lot of this month I was traveling with a dear friend who is brilliant. She's so smart. She is one of the most intelligent people I've ever met. And she's the kind of person that when you're hiking with her and you've been in silence for half an hour and you say to her, "Ah, what are you thinking about right now? " She'll reply with, "Oh, yeah, I'm thinking about this deep concept from this academic text that I read 3 years ago and I'm thinking about how it synthesizes with this philosophical concept and how we can then apply it to solve this problem. " — And I don't know at what point I started tunneling down this insecurity again, but it made me feel like not clever enough. Not that I'm not clever enough for her, like she never intentionally made me feel lesser, but I've noticed that is a weird insecurity that I feel like I've adopted again. I felt it, you know, when I was doing my GCSEs and I was always striving for perfectionism in my grades. But now I find myself on social media, on LinkedIn, bloody LinkedIn, or in work settings comparing myself to what I see as almost true intellectuals and wishing that I had a greater aptitude in the way that they do or that I was more well-spoken or that my brain operated in a sharper manner. Or one insecurity that has really gotten to me recently is feeling like I'm too emotional. I've spent my whole bloody life overcoming that insecurity and I really got to a better place with it last year. But when I'm around people who really walk through the world from the lens of the mind and are just constantly analyzing things in such rich intellectual ways and then I'm over here crying. — [laughter and gasps] — Like in Kyrgyzstan, God, I just like every four days or so, I just really need to cry. I feel the world so deeply. I'm so sensitive and at times I I wish that wasn't so. It feels unproductive. It feels like I have to expose my vulnerability to others. Um and on the plane back from Kyrgyzstan, I caught myself writing in this journal. I wish I was an earth sign. As an astrology girly, I am very much a water sign. I have a lot of Pisces in my chart. I don't know if you absolutely like don't believe in anything astrology related and good for you. The logic isn't always logic-ing, but let me tell you if you the deeper you go into the astrology world, the more you learn about the full birth charts, the more that it is just so correct for every single person that you meet. It's too accurate. And I have a lot of friends, a lot of people in my life, I work with are like erudite earth signs. Earth earth everywhere. And nothing steals your confidence like trying to be something you are not. Why wish away the brilliance that you naturally are? Why am I wishing that I'm an earth sign when being a water sign has so many other gifts? Like I know I am able to understand and feel people so intuitively. I know that I am a healing presence to almost everyone I meet. I know it sounds like a dramatic statement, but that's my gift. I get people quite quickly and can help them grow in ways that they need. And on the plane, I started crying when I was writing this in my journal, and I just could not stop the tears flowing. It was almost like I was writing, "I hate that I'm so emotional. Why am I so emotional? " And that just made me cry even more. And then the air hostess came over, and she was giving me one of those little towels, you know, the hand refresher towels. And I was like trying to like not make eye contact with her, but then she was like, "Please have a towel. " And then I looked her in the eye, and obviously my tears are streaming down my face. And just the way that she looked at me, it felt like me crying really softened her. And later in the flight, she came over to me, and she brought me a little water. And then I went to the toilet, and I ended up talking to her, and we ended up having a really profoundly vulnerable and beautiful conversation. And I was reminded of the power of being my messy emotional self. It has its own perks. It is its own gift. And yeah, through that moment, I was then able to feel grateful for who I am again, and regain my own confidence. And the second that you own and embrace who you naturally are, your natural instincts, your natural interests, your natural gifts, that is where true confidence comes from. When you stop wishing to be anything other than who you already are. And what I love about

### [15:39](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_z7MMSmnNfo&t=939s) Confidence Comes in Seasons (embrace your spring)

the seasons is that they teach us everything is impermanent. This beautiful spring with the most vibrant flowers in every color will not last forever, and winter again, and the changing nature of who we are as humans is also constantly impermanent, constantly in flux, and you are allowed to have seasons where you do not believe in yourself, seasons where confidence doesn't come as naturally. But, the second that you feel your spring rising, you feel your inner blooming, you must seize it. You must not question yourself, you must not say to the universe, "Hey, why have you given me these opportunities? Why are you entrusting me with this path? " No, you merely say thank you, because if goodness has come your way, evidently it is for you, and you have earned it somehow. The Education World Forum only had one space for a journalist that could have all access to all parts of ministerial interviews, interviews with the heads of AI and education, like Google Gemini, speaking to chief technologist Ben Gomes about his opinion on AI in the classroom, the head of UNICEF, the head of Teach for All, all of these incredible opportunities. And for some reason, they think that I'm the girl for it, not some BBC journalist, but Jade. So, I I'm going to the Education World Forum, and speak to people who have immense power in shaping opportunities for young people's lives, and I'm not going to question, "Oh, should I be there? " No, I wholeheartedly that if I'm getting this opportunity, it's meant for me and that I'm going to do an amazing job and I feel like I am in my spring. Things are growing, things are taking shape. The last month I spent in Paris, in Almaty doing incredible work that I couldn't have dreamt of doing a year ago and even though the little days of lack of confidence will of course come, I just have to keep feeling grateful for the flow of my life, for the opportunities that are coming and for the things in bloom. If you don't feel like things are going your way right now, if you don't feel like you are in your spring, please do not fret. I like to think of it as plant planting seeds. It's your time to plant seeds right now and whether that looks like getting into good habits, saying words of affirmation to yourself every day to manifest the kind of person that you want to become, the kind of opportunities invite into your life, you can set the stage for the blooming ahead. Who knows what the future holds. Right now, I still work as a TA in the local secondary school alongside all kinds of random projects. Potentially could be getting an absolute dream job. I am on the cusp of getting this job. So, that would be so exciting. It's literally working in everything I care about to do with education transformation with a team who I wholeheartedly believe in as humans. So, yay, fingers crossed that manifests. In terms of my relational life, it's funny how things just kind of click over time, you know? Like I was really lonely in Brighton for a long time, but I just kept putting myself out there, doing the kinds of hobbies I really love and now I look around and I have really, really beautiful humans here who I trust a lot and who make me feel seen and so, yay, Jade has friends. — I've always had such a vast long-distance friend community, but I'm grateful to have more in-person friends. I have the best relationship with my family that I've ever had in my life. We have done so much inner work together working through a lot of, you know, childhood traumary stuff and each of us doing our own individual growth so that we can come together and be a better family. It's always evolving, but no one's perfect. A lot of problems still, but yeah, we're in a really good place and I feel very grateful for that. I feel so rooted and confident in my sexuality and just my love life and feeling so deeply supported and just very happy. If you've made it to this point in the video thank you. I don't know why I feel almost emotional. I'm not always as vulnerable on my platforms as I used to be um partly because I just feel like I've come in a season where I just don't I don't feel like vlogging as much or pulling the camera in as close to my thoughts and life. Um but I never take for granted having this little corner of the internet, this community of people who make me feel really safe. Like I really love you guys. Not to be parasocial for a moment, but like I just meet you in person and I feel so lucky. Feel so lucky. Like even in Kyrgyzstan met this beautiful girl in a cafe and we sort of just sat and cried for a moment together because you offer me so much vulnerability back and yeah, you just give me hope. People like you give me hope. Thank you for being here. Thank you for like caring about my life and my endeavors and for trying to be the best version of yourself and to bring more love and light and goodness into a world that very much needs it. It's not easy to empower yourself when you've got all the pressures of the day-to-day world on your shoulders. It's really not. But, keep doing it. — Keep meditating. Keep doing your yoga. Keep exploring the world. Keep seeing the good in others. Keep being kind. Keep being compassionate. I think that concludes my little ramble. I would love to hear any of your thoughts on the topic of confidence and finding oneself and being audacious in your 20s. Or just give me a little update. I am going to be very in the comments section on this video cuz it feels so human. So, thank you for being here. If you made it to this point, please comment me a horse emoji. Why not? Year of the horse. And huge thank you again to Surfshark for sponsoring today's video. And if you guys want to get four extra months free of a VPN that will protect your data, go go check it out in the description and have a gorgeous rest of your day. Bye. —

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