You Might Stink… 27 Minutes Of LIVE Business & Social Media Advice | Tea With GaryVee ep. 72

I've been a stand-up comedian for 10 years. When I started, we were always told, "Don't put your best material online. " But now, it's quite the opposite. I don't know who you were listening to cuz I got clips from 10 years ago telling you the complete opposite. Keep going. How do I break through this period of being stagnant on social bying making more content? The matter with everybody? Everybody now judges themselves on if I do not achieve the 0. 001% in the world, I'm a loser. The matter with you, Bert, you might stink at standup. That's okay, too. I am not good enough to be in the NBA. I feverishly and excitingly play basketball. Like Bert might just not be destined to be Theo Vaughn or Eddie Murphy. But everybody's got it so twisted in their head. They don't measure success the right way. Bert, what if this is just your best hobby and a little side gig cuz it's your love. Now all of a sudden you're not poisoning yourself that you're a loser. Wait a minute. So let me get this straight. You're a loser because you didn't make it as big as Andrew Schultz or [ __ ] you know, Wanda Sykes. So you're a loser. Sean says it's just hard not to feel that way. It's not true. It's easy to feel that way when you believe. It's not hard to feel that way. We have a perspective issue that is broken in modern society. We have a perspective issue, my friends. It's very easy to feel that way, Sean. I suck at most things. I'm below average at most things. Everybody is. How do we find our way again? It's simply a mindset [ __ ] Yes, Luis. Therapy. reading positivity versus negativity, spending time around uplifting people, redefining success for yourself, putting in the work mentally. Life is only perspective. There is no life. Real quick, who's the winner in this scenario? Somebody makes $280,000 a year, has a h 100,000 followers on TikTok, but secretly behind the scenes is miserable, doing drugs, you know, like has bad relationships, unhappy, or somebody who makes $73,000 a year, has 19 followers on Instagram, has a tremendous relationship, lives paycheck to paycheck, and is stressed. Who Who's the better person? By the way, I don't think there's a Yeah. actually don't think it necessarily has to be number two. Somebody might say, "I'd rather have a drug problem than worry about financial stress each week. " I don't know. It's fine. You're allowed. Uh Platinum Dragon says neither. I You know, my thing is that number two is healthier because when Platinum says neither, like you have to understand no matter what your situation is, you have stress. The second one stresses financial paycheck to paycheck, but they have a loving relationship, right? The first one is fronting for the world and is broken foundationally. And the third one, somebody who's financially good, emotionally good. How about that person? The next day, something tragic happens. There's just always [ __ ] I just I think we all need to go to the [ __ ] cemetery, dig up everybody, talk to them, and be like, "Yo, real quick. Was your life perfect the whole time? I don't think we're finding anyone. It is that simple. " Tres says, "It's not that simple. " Guess what, bro? It is that simple, Tres. It's that simple. I live that simple. I know that many people. I know tons of people. DJ Kaufman says, "It is that simple. " I know DJ's living that simple. No, it's just that simple. Tres, I'm looking forward to hearing your thing. our exchange. Because there's nothing you're going to say to me. Not one thing you're gonna say to me that's not going to say in my mind that you can control where you go forward. At what point do we become a grown-up? C can everybody answer in the chat the year that you think it's time for you to stop blaming your parents? Like everybody like Mason, what's what what's the appropriate age where you now have to stand on your own two feet and you can't blame your parents no more? 20. You think 20? Good. Pops. 18 for you. Mcken's 20 Sid. 18. Great. I don't know. Like, by the way, I'm not even sure what I think. I actually think it's circumstantial. I think sometimes it's 11. Think sometimes it's 31. I think it's all fine. But everybody just answered. I'm just curious who the [ __ ] was right in here. Who was right? The first two are about you controlling the situation with an action. The third one is you controlling the situation

with a macro action, not a micro action. The first two is you quit. You know, this is the same old [ __ ] If you don't like your job, if you feel your boss thinks you suck, if you don't like it, if you don't feel valued or validated, live on [ __ ] Indeed and LinkedIn until you get a [ __ ] new job. People just love rolling in their mud. Unfortunately, that's what a lot of people are in life. They literally live in complaining about their husband every day. Live in life complaining about their job, their wife, their girlfriend. They love to point fingers about how their older brother or younger sister got lucky or they have it so good. Stop rolling in [ __ ] mud. New York City says life is tough or life is easy. Simplify your [ __ ] Take control. Do you know how many people are much happier right now than they they've been historically because this last political cycle they were just like, "Fuck it. I'm just not even going to pay attention. " They took control of what they consumed and thus they were less anxious and upset. And then the third one is stop valuing other people's opinions. When you go somewhere and people make you feel lesser then [ __ ] them. The [ __ ] are you looking up to celebrities for? business people that made more money than you for? The [ __ ] are we looking up to? We completely lost our way. We used to look up to [ __ ] our grandpa. You know who used to be famous in 1950 in America? pilots and astronauts and politicians. Now it's [ __ ] people who are selling sex on apps. [ __ ] man. Like, what are we [ __ ] looking up to? Like, don't look up to me cuz I'm good at making money. I treat people nice. Don't look up to me because how many followers I have. Look up to me cuz I'm sitting here and I'm trying to give value. You feel lesser than in a room? [ __ ] that room. I don't [ __ ] give a [ __ ] about any room that doesn't [ __ ] want you there. [ __ ] that room. If a room doesn't want me, they [ __ ] lost. I promise you that. Your self-esteem is broken. You're not confident enough that you can get another job. you're better than the room. I've been in every room. And guess what? I don't give a [ __ ] about any room I've ever been in. Not the biggest boardrooms in the world. Not the Oval Office under both administrations, Republicans, Democrat. I don't give a [ __ ] about the room. I respect the room. I'm empathetic to the room. I understand the room, but [ __ ] the room. Do you know how many events I go into where I don't get into the VIP and the people in the VIP are less money than me, less clout than me, less It doesn't even go through my [ __ ] mind. Good for them. I'm happy for them. You think I [ __ ] give a [ __ ] about a velvet rope? The [ __ ] the matter with people? enough. Can I Can we just [ __ ] end this [ __ ] If the economy crashed

tomorrow, what's the first move you'd make? Stop buying dumb [ __ ] Completely go humble. Lean into Humble Hedgehog and Humble Hummingbird. I would immediately, as a matter of fact, there's a lot of indications that the economy might be crashing. Warren But just took all his money into cash. He's usually right. I would tell everybody right now to go to your credit card statement and unsubscribe to the automatic things that you're being built for that you don't use. Mike, how many streaming services are you signed up for? Tell the truth. Three. Mike, I know how much you get paid. You need to have two. You should not have three, Mike. I know. I don't use the three. No. Oh my god. bike McKenzie. Everyone's acting a fool out here. People are spend pe if people went to their credit card statement. Actually, let's do that. Let's actually do something productive. Like, do you know, I love building V friends and I do think these collectibles after 20 years are going to really crush for people, but I'm always scared and I'm like, man, I really hope someone that has like $180 in Wells Fargo didn't just buy a $15 figurine, no matter how much they [ __ ] love me. Don't ever ever buy it. Let just clip this for the rest of my life. Don't ever buy anything from me unless you can afford it easily. Wine V friend. Don't ever buy something from me. me unless you can easily support it. Mike, right now. I know that you've had all sorts of troubles on the ones and twos. We're going to let that slide if you cancel right now. The sub. What's the third one? Let's put them on blast. Peacock. Okay. Peacock. All right. Did you order it for like a sporting event or a Wrestlemania or something real quick? I forget what it was. That's how they get you. That's why they pay so much for that [ __ ] Everyone's like, "Jake Paul's overpaid. " No, he's not. He's underpaid. Everybody signed up and now they haven't unsubscribed. A lot of you are spending money on dumb [ __ ] at scale. And before the economy collapses, why don't you start saving that money? like a fear of

missing out in life because I cannot achieve any big things. I have big goals like I want to be a successful entrepreneur or like public speaker like you but every time I struggle with I'm doing like full-time job as well. Yes. But every time now struggle with like what I wanted to pursue like in the long term like I want to do the public speaking for years otherwise I want to pursue the entrepreneurship. How old are you? 23. I know you got the beard and [ __ ] and you think you're 27, but you're 23, bro. Right now, what you're probably doing is you're checking the box to, you know, get your foundation, you know, help yourself, help your family. I understand. I did that. Yeah. But you have unlimited time to achieve your goals. What's the crucial step to take like action? Yeah. By taking action, by emailing every single conference that is within 2 hours driving of you or train or bus and emailing them and saying I would like to speak for free at your conference and having 50 of them say no and then one says yes and then you gave your first talk and then you learn how to give speeches. Yeah, I'm doing some like creating content and building my personal brand as well for this foundation. Yeah, recently you know brother you know the answers but every time I struggle with this I say why if it is not working what means I'm doing on the wrong stuff only because you're judging actions in too you're judging things in too small of a window. When I was 27 years old and a customer came in and they were grabbing a bottle of wine and they drop that the bottle falls and it spills and I went to the back room and got the mop to clean it up. Do you think anybody watching me at that moment at 27 years old mopping up wine in a liquor store in Springfield, New Jersey said, "You know what? That kid is going to be a world-renowned entrepreneur and on the cover of magazines and [ __ ] taking the biggest stages in the world. " Do you think people thought that? I did. Yeah, I know. Maybe don't judge your actions within a little window to justify where you're going. Do you know why I like patience? Yeah. Do you know why? Because great things take time. Maybe. No. Because we have no choice. It's practical. Yeah. Here are your options for success. Believe in patience, do the right things, and build your foundation. Or say, "Fuck you, Gary. " And go try to do quick, rich schemes until they all fail and you're 40. You're a [ __ ] loser. Nobody wants to be around you. Yeah. No, I don't want any and all. Yeah, I want to be rich even. I have that goal as well, but I want to build the right skill set. So, do a long time I can man. My man, what how many hours a day do you work at your job? I do like 9 to 10 hours like Yeah. Great. What do you do with the other 14 hours of your life? I'm creating some content and other time I'm learning from this person brand like attending this workshops and all. Another time I'm exploring some new ideas like how to like uh speak on the stages and practicing the public speaking skills and all. Yeah, I think you're w how much do you sleep? I'll sleep like 6 to 7 hours. Wonderful. You're winning. You're doing everything right. Yeah. Stop being scared. myself like I think I'm not like what is I'm not on a right track because why because I'm I know I am but I have this goals like past since two years but I procrastinate on it why so I regret now why I have the wasted that time so I have that regret brother I didn't care listen having ambition is phenomenal but beating yourself up on little technicalities is a problem yeah yeah and I struggle procession as well because I cannot say discipline and self-confoundible for myself. So I'm learning that how to be disciplined and how to stay constant on my game. Can I ask you one favor and then I have to go on. Can I ask you one favor? Yeah. Should Yeah. Now that we have this moment, could you promise me one thing? Yeah. Be nicer to yourself. Yeah. Have good confidence in myself. Yeah. Not confidence. Yeah. Last year I would say my impact was minuscule. I had to build a foundation for Vayner X's infrastructure. V friends to be a live commerce and product company. I you guys all know here. You all know here. I sat in that [ __ ] room 12 hours a day the whole year. I didn't Gary Vee it. I wasn't on stage. I wasn't making brand happen. We struggled with content all year cuz I wasn't feeding you like I'm doing finally now again. I [ __ ] sat in that [ __ ] office for 12 hours a day. No big meetings, nobody fancy. You watched it. This is not you hearing my stories in the liquor store. You [ __ ] watched it at the height of my career. I sat in that [ __ ] office for 12 hours a day. Yeah. Yeah. That's a true hazard. So, bro, I don't know what you're worried. worried about the last two years. What? Yeah. And one last thing I have small daughter and when pursing my entrepreneurship means I'm helping with my mom's business like food business and I want to do other business as well and means exploring some ideas what's good for me when starting a business a good book notebook use chat GPT and ask it questions that are on your mind. Yeah, like even I have some few ideas but I'll struggle with what idea how to start like have some like a startup ideas and want to s like build some uh like what is event hosting platforms similar ideas brother you don't have ideas problem you have action problems yeah the execution is the game yeah and the action will come once you build a nice foundation from your patience you understand yeah all right. I love you. I got to move. That was good. Listen, I got a little emotional there for a second. You guys know how I roll. Like, did you see I [ __ ] sat in that like, please, everybody. There's going to be years that are not like how you thought they were going to be. There's going to be moments. Then there's some real gangster bad [ __ ] that happened. By the way, who Nobody's crying for me that I sat there for 12 hours. Some people lost their mom and dad. spouse. Some people had their child diagnosed with leukemia. Many people had their whole [ __ ] house burnt down in Los Angeles. The [ __ ] are we crying about out here? Everybody forget about those [ __ ] unbelievable amounts of people that lost their [ __ ] home in LA. Of course they have. Most people didn't even think about it in the first place cuz you're all worried about your [ __ ] And your [ __ ] is good. I promise you right now if it's 9:37 in the morning Eastern and you are watching me on whatnot, your life is good. The way you do that is by realizing unfortunately that's just the game. And you know, again, the problem with business is it's not charity. It's not altruism. It's not a [ __ ] fairy tale. The best thing you can do is do right by the person the best you can afford, right? And so give them better severance. Give them a warning. Give them respect by telling them the truth. That's just it. It's [ __ ] hard out here when you have to make those decisions cuz you have a lot of love and gratitude for that person. I think the way to do it is in order clarity, respect, and then if you can afford to be a little gracious because you feel like they put you on, they helped you, they were there, then you're in your spot. And very honestly, I was great at number three, but it took me a while to get decent at number one and two. And that's that lack of cander that I've talked about. And so, I encourage this kid. I wish somebody told me this when I was a kid. Cander is going to make this the best it can be. You know, you were

an entrepreneur from a young age. like what did your parents do to help you and support you? In what ways like did they blow it? Cuz I kind of want to not blow it with my kid. You know, the way that my parents helped me with my entrepreneurship was by staying the [ __ ] out of it, which is the number one hard thing for parents in 2025. Parents are too involved. I'm trying to stay out of it. My husband helps him find shoes to flip. So, they kind of have partership which is really cool. That's amazing. Yeah, it's really helped him and you know to get somewhere with this up front, but um yeah. Okay, that's good to know. And I mean like he'll go days without doing a show and we'll be like, "Hey, you going to do a show? " You know, we just kind of nudge him but try not to pressure it, I guess. But first of all, I love talking about parenting, but I never ever will ever give a parent direct advice about their direct situation because every situation's too nuanced. And who the [ __ ] am I? I don't know 99. 999999999% of it. So that's number one. So I would say that, you know, as parents, we always want to help and you just got to rely on your intuition on when you should be as far away as possible to let him breathe. And then it's great that you might feel like there's a moment where like look if you're a parent and the kid is doing this thing now he's making money and now he's with that money he's starting to hang around with kids that you don't like that's a place where you can nudge right you know and and how you nudge needs to be you know like strategic like one of the I like to talk to kids that are 15 like grown-ups like if I was talking to that kid I would like so let me get this straight you work your face off to build this sneaker flipping business now you got a little bit of money and what you're going to hang out with dudes that smoke [ __ ] weed all day and be a loser. That's a fun like that's now that would work for some kids. For other kids maybe that's not your temperament. Maybe that not will work. Like there's just a lot of different ways to look at it. But what I would say is that for an entrepreneur he needs to lose. The biggest mistake that your dad, your husband and you can make in this situation is protect him from losing. Do you know how many times I made money and lost to all of it between 13 and 17? That's why I don't lose it anymore. The best thing that can happen to your son. The single best thing is for him to lose all his money that he's made up to this point. It is the single best thing that could happen. And it's not even close. Good. He might lose it all because he's got to pay for a car. Well, that's different. That's not losing it. That's not what I'm saying. Yeah. And I love that you're making him pay for a car. That's like great parenting to begin with. But I'm telling you right now, the number one thing that you and your husband have to watch out for. The best thing that could happen to this kid on earth, and it's not even close, is he decides to go put all his money into something cuz he wants to get a better car and it goes to zero. and you don't buy him a car, it's the single best thing that can happen. Okay, that's actually great advice because the last thing we want to see our kids do is like work so hard and then lose everything and then we think that it's going to hold them back, but really it's not. So correct. Yeah. What do you want him to be a fake entrepreneur? No. So no entrep entrepreneurs [ __ ] lose. Let them keep going. Let them win and lose. let stay the [ __ ] out other than if he's doing something egregious or illegal or something that's against your moral compass. Well, it sounds like you have any advice for him moving forward. Probably, you know, I just need to talk to him and understand what his questions are. But have him let him email me at garyvfriends. com. What's his channel so people here can go check him out? Yeah, it's Texas Sneakers. So, at TX and then S N Krs. He went cool like that. I like it. Listen, I got two final things to say. Number one, your boy sounds like he got very lucky in his DNA, and that's you and your husband. And two, it sounds like he's got really good parents. You're doing a good job. Now, get the [ __ ] out of his way. Thanks. I'm going to answer by living it right now. These are the very rare Series 2 cards before the Tops Chrome card comes out. These are $40 a pack. If you're into Pokemon, that kind of stuff, you'll know what's going on. All right, so packs are up. There you go. So, here are packs, right? So, I'm doing tea with Gary Vee right now. I'll interject. Now, real quick, everybody, if it's your first time ordering, you can actually get this for 25 bucks by clicking this little show notes. EWS direct just bought. So, I'm having a show, but there's commerce in it. Right now, what's going on in social shopping? Why does it work? Cuz human behavior likes to buy in real time. I personally, me Gary, who's extremely disciplined and doesn't like to buy stuff, have bought things on whatnot and Tik Tok shop in the live experience because of the momentum. You're almost paying for an experience. What do you get when you go to a stand-up comedy show or a concert or a sporting event? What do you get? What do you take home? Nothing physical, but you're paying for the entertainment. I believe that there's a subconscious underlining layer of the entertainment value that's going on. And I think the hype and the excitement, this is why people do well and not well on QVC. Some people are good at it, some people are not. And it's enjoyable. It's a more fun way to shop than to see like a picture in your Instagram feed. Think about the difference of somebody just seeing a picture of this. Me and Sid, we do our best. We have a picture or even a video of me being like, "This is the next Pokemon. Get in early. You're gonna regret not buying this for 40 bucks. I'm [ __ ] Gary Vee. I'm telling you right now, you're gonna regret not buying this for 40 bucks. " That's a good ad. It'll do fine, but I'm telling you, it'll do even better right now in real time because it could also interact, right? Commerce tamement to me is when you're doing a live show selling stuff like I am now, but you're more focused on entertainment and value. Tea with Gary Vee, I'm more focused on bringing people value right now. And there's an element of them tipping me for that and wanting to support me. They know me. I'm bringing them value. And they're like, you know, this is important to Gary. Let me buy a $40 pack. [ __ ] He might be right. I might be happy to have these in a couple years and some on the bay. The bay is eBay.

I'm feeling a very scared that I'm going to quit my highpaying job and start everything from scratch with uh being very unsure about my income potential. I have some money accumulated which I have considered as my freeway for the next 6 months or 1 year to survive while I'm not earning. I can't motivate you out of your fear consistently. I can make you feel better for the next hour, but I'm going to give you information that might make you feel better forever. I have no idea if you're going to pull this off or not, but I'm so happy for you because high-paying jobs for someone like you are always going to be there. Even if you were meant to win, maybe the global economy melts, right? Anything can happen. This is business. This is life. But you've already won, brother. Here's why. the amount of people that are 67year-old you who wanted to try and did not and every day it eats at them every day. You will never have that. You may lose your savings, but you're a [ __ ] kid. You're going to make more savings again. And there's nothing embarrassing about not being an entrepreneur. There's nothing wrong with being a great team player in a corporation or company. It'd be nice for you to pick a company you enjoy being in. You enjoy the people you're around. That's important. That's a real quality of life issue, but you'll never ever wonder if you could have and it's going to be a tremendous experience and I'm proud of you and I'm happy for you. Tony asks, "You keep mentioning organic social media. What do you mean by that? " When I say organic social media, I mean just posting on social media without using media dollars to amplify your post. I don't have money to go back to school now. How do I reset? By getting a job. Outside of the fact that I met Sid at the college that I was speaking at, I do not know if anyone here graduated college and even more funny if they even where they went. I could not tell you where any of you went. I have no clue. Get a [ __ ] job, bro. So anyway, that's where I'm [ __ ] at. I'll see you later.