What's Holding You Back From Success In Life & Business? | GaryVee w/ Big Sean @ Miami Art Week

life is stunningly basic we complicate it to the highest level in its most simplest form what's crazy is life is actually how you decide to see it you know people talk so much about negativity it's scary when I look in my feed how it's all positivity because the algo understands what I'm paying attention to the algo isn't sending you to places it's exposing the places you are actually in and once you understand that truth you control life instead of it controlling you thank you I'll see you next week yeah and basic you know that word basic kind of gets like a negative connotation in people but like a Wht is basic doesn't mean bad actually Simplicity is the goal yeah it is it really is it's the goal it really is yeah thank you for that but you put something on your LinkedIn that I really resonate with you wrote people might think ambition contradicts patience but I think patience is the path to your Ambitions yeah can you EXP band on that felt really deep for me yeah I wish I had your music Talent cuz I would really dominate you know um I think a lot about what I would wish on everyone here um and the first one is Health back to like really what I'm trying to say here is no matter what's bothering you right now especially if it's professional I promise you would not give a [ __ ] about it if something happened to you or the five to seven people you most care about promise the deal the Miss guaranteed guaranteed and so I that's basically how I live my life which is why I'm predominantly happy I just don't know how to give energy to anything but that and that has been the blessing of my life and there's a lot that goes into that we can talk about that after Health it is scary to me how much I would think about what I would wish on you next first would actually be self-awareness the moment you become self-aware is the moment you start loving yourself more is the moment it's all starts to click but way up the list would be patience number one in my DMs number one when I watch people moving that I admire or I like if they're under 40 the vulnerability is patience people want it so bad so fast here's why patience is so interesting to me I believe that way too many people in this circle right now if we really got to the core of it want it the success the money the notoriety to disguise their insecurities they want the following count they want the dollar amounts they want the jewelry the car the relationship and what is success really that's another thing well that becomes the point if you actually love your game

you're so in love in it that you want it to go slow but the reality is that everybody wants to get somewhere so fast because I think they're chasing the wrong thing they're chasing the trophy instead of the game that gets you the trophy see that was beautifully said you guys make some noise that was what he said was very profound let that drop in and not only recognizing what success is to you because these things that we think are success are maybe a byproduct of success or maybe just a quick dopamine hit UPS of what you get from success but it doesn't last so the real success is you know the feeling and of being in your purpose of doing something and one more thing that I realized that we all have kind of [ __ ] up a little bit is that we let life not going our way dictate our happiness and those are two separate things when we kind of group it together it's like if things aren't going our way it kind of can make us a bitter shittier person sometimes and it shouldn't because those are two different things it's like they have nothing to do with each other so I think we've grouped it in and we group a lot of things together it's like hey if I take you to dinner you owe me this movie it's like no you don't those are two separate things so just remember that it's your choice to be happy and you're literally a walking magnet so it's like you have to choose it before everything starts going your way and whether things go your way or not because that is the power of the god that's in all of us to create our universe it's like we get to thinking like when things don't go our way that it's just all crash and burns and it's over and it's not in fact the fact that you feel that way is just an indication that you're meant for something different something greater something more something and that's a true blessing to recognize that emotion and that feeling and actually it's part of the human experience that really shapes us to be our greater selves ever so congratulations to everyone who is going through tough times because you are on a path of development that can't be bought and is priceless so wow you know what's really powerful about that is the concept of even thinking that you should have it go your way you know as you were talking I was like thinking and I'm like man it's crazy how much humility is such a superpower like I wouldn't even have the audacity to think the way I wanted it to be it would it's it's actually my favorite thing to think about when I watch our country and the world get more political the concept that another human being should see the world the way you see it is laughable the thought that somebody living a completely different life different circumstances gender race religion who you know where they were raised at what time what things shaped them like our incredible lack of humility hurts us at debating dinner tables but it really hurts us on a much more powerful level of what you're talking about the there's uh I was born in the Soviet Union which probably leads to a lot of my gratitude I you know I was really born in a very challenging place and I think a lot of people don't realize the Soviet Union was more North Korea than it was Iran meaning you couldn't leave it's not like other places wouldn't take your passport you couldn't leave the country so I was born in jail actually and obviously I got very lucky and fortunate to come to the US at a young age but when I think about just the sheer power and my one of my favorite Russian sayings that my mom and dad used to say a lot which was man makes plan and God laughs my grandma used to say that too and she's not Russian yet yeah well you know how all this [ __ ] is we all said the same [ __ ] at one point and we just broke it up into different versions of it but I think what's really powerful is to your point earlier you know congratulations that you're going through this is there any confusion to anyone that adversity is the foundation of success like it is the most black and white thing in the world one of the things we all fear as we especially for people in this room who've gone through the Journey of coming from Little to building something you spend your life being concerned about your children being too entitled or not understanding like adversity is the foundation of success and the lack of humility the entitlement that comes along with you made a plan and it's supposed to be like that is so crazy czy it is it's so crazy it really is well said yeah and to anyone one of the biggest things that's helped me too is like recognizing that fear is just really just false evidence appearing real and that it's okay everything you ever been afraid of losing something gaining something you know I used to um have a fear of like so I come from Detroit it's a little probably you know a notcha better than uh Soviet Union but uh it's a city that it's the only city in the America that's ever gone bankrupt you know what I'm saying it's seen as ups and downs this city of like Hustlers real go-getters and like people who know how to make something out of nothing but I also think that growing up with that mentality kind of gave me a fear of losing money right and it's like when I read deepo Chopra seven spiritual Laws of Success it was like I remember him talking about money as energetic as a flow you know it's almost like blood you can't let blood sit there in coagulate you got to keep it moving you know and all of these terms like it takes money to make money that are so like just said all the time they really have a lot of Truth to them but I remember one of my biggest fears was losing money and I remember I got my first advance from music when I signed to good music to Kanye and it was for $115,000 and it was signed by Don de West and I got it and I remember at the time I took my girlfriend to get ice cream and it went down to 14,970 and I was like oh [ __ ] I'm like damn this [ __ ] you know and it was always a fear around it right and um but I had that Faith you know and I say I talk about this in my booking and stuff faith is like that invisible Bridge you can't really see but it just you it holds you up and as long as you believe it'll get you to the other side it will and I always had faith that it was always going to work out and once I really let go of that fear Not only was I able to enjoy my life more it I was able to magnetize money no matter how anything goes no matter how well my album does or doesn't do no matter how well it's like the universe really does take care of me I had I made an agreement I swear with God and it's like then I cuz you know what really kind of broke the fear is like okay what if I did go back to zero I was actually happy at zero too actually and I was like fine you know that it's like if I had to go back there it doesn't matter one of the most profound things side Guru said to me when I sat and talked with him I was like where's your favorite place in the world he was like wherever I'm at and I was like damn and um but you know my point being is that all of these fears are as false evidence appearing real it all goes back to love which is what we're all blessed to experience and love is just life or living on valued energy and life is just love and full effect so just remember

that don't trip on nothing cuz it's all temporary and before you know it it's over the good and the bad time so just enjoy every moment of it and every experience cuz you're capable cuz that's the point of the whole thing you're capable the reason I jumped in and I don't want to jump on your flow but like Yeah I wanted to just cosign it like yeah like you know like I really I think about this all the time like and what I say that to myself all the time and what blah blah blah will happen and this bad thing and what and that's why what that game does to you and I've been doing this since I was 15 years old there was no books there was no [ __ ] podcasts there was the luck of the draw of my DNA my circumstance and I had a mother that just [ __ ] did it you know like like Built Me So proper like it scares me wow it's scar me how not scared I am there's just nothing what I'll [ __ ] sleep on the street and have nothing and cuz I definitely don't give a [ __ ] what you think about that and I just wish more people didn't care what other people thought about theirs yeah come on yeah can I just point out something I am loving about this conversation is it is so counterintuitive to the way I think the Zeitgeist has been trying to feed us program us and brainwash us especially over the last two decades where it's been so individualistic it's been so about peacocking look at me how big am I celebrate me and it really isn't even about what the work is that you do it's just I want you to know that I'm working right and so like we have gotten to this thing where we have so deepened in our connection to a false identity but we bought it yeah we bought it I'm people are selling [ __ ] all the time did you buy it you're in control I love this whole you know this is you got me so hyped with the way you started this you could see I sprung up no [ __ ] but the world's selling [ __ ] 24/7 you better stop [ __ ] blaming the world of selling you better blame your [ __ ] self for buying come on you like that one right no [ __ ] they're selling good news yeah but it's also cuz it's like that that's the only thing that we're fed that's the reason why it is but it's not no no I'm not talking about us but I'm talking about some people that's the only thing they see it but it's on them to see something else it is like I'm telling you the anecdote the drug The Cure is accountability it is we've gotten to such a place why do you think the rise of politicians has happened I promise you it's because people actually believe someone's going to do something to help them and yes I get that con and there's parts of that no but it starts with you though you know again I start president isn't going to make us better people whether it went this way or that way or this or that like the second you realize how much control you actually have no matter what's being sold I don't buy it right and so you understanding that O come on okay so yes we're here today right especially for this panel to speak specifically about Wellness creativity wellness and

creativity is the work of humanity and I think that is the piece that every single thing that each of these Great masterful Men on stage have been speaking to It's tap into the humanity of your experience being here on Earth and use your skill set use the gifts use everything else to create let's talk about creativity for a second you know create creativity is Next to Godliness it is godliness creation right and we are each co-creating in every single moment and I personally find creativity to be the cure for karma any positions we may find ourselves in um and to continue to help and to serve but with that in mind what does creativity and self-expression mean to each of you and how do you even tap into it well there's nothing more creative than creating a creation so we all are a product of creativity I think we kind of get confused thinking create being creative is like being an artist but everything we do is creative from putting on our outfit from our thoughts we think from raising our children or being an auntie or uncle or being a cousin or being a son or being everything we do or being a lawyer or a doctor or a whatever job it is you an accountant a whatever anything you can think of it it's creative because you are creating your experience so to me I think make sure you keep the idea that you know one of the worst things you could do is self-sabotage yourself of being like well I'm not a creative person I'm an analytical person and analy being analytical is still creative like my accountant my boy who does numbers and stuff he's creative of Josh Klein Shout Out J he's like he is such a creative guy but my point being is that um when it comes to that realize how creative you all are and how the power you have uh to do so and as far as like Arts what was the second part of the question creative self-expression how do you tap into it how or how do you I gu how do you begin to bring the Muse out to bring it to life well my journey is different than a lot of other people's Journeys you know music has and expressing in that way is just one way or writing or whatever it is but how you choose to express yourself is truly up to you there's no wrong way to do it it's almost like meditating you know how P some people be like man I can't meditate I can't clear my I can't shut my brain off it's like well you're not a computer you know you can't go brain dead and just be like not think of anything that's not the point of meditation it's kind of like adjusting and understanding that you whatever it is to express yourself whatever brings you that feeling of like just feeling good it could be jumping on a trampoline it could be riding the waves it could be sitting in the sand it could be going to Nature it could be all of these things I don't know whatever it is you love to do as long as it's like not like uh like destructive to other people you know then that is a way of not only expressing yourself but being artistic being creative and I think that the moment we're born we all are creative people we all are artists in our own way and once we accept that and embrace that you will begin to take your art or creativity to the next level so just always keep that in mind I love that my um when I think about this question for me it starts with listening I think it's really kind of laugh at myself a lot because I'm so over the top and I have a lot of energy and yeah you do and I'm and I put out so much content and I'm always talking and I always wonder I'm like man I wonder if people realize like 98% of my time is actually listening you know for me the creative process comes from a place I think one of the reasons people struggle with having their creative achieve what they want is because it comes from a selfish place instead of a selfless place I think the reason so much works for me in my creative output and content is almost all of it comes from reading all the messages I get every day which then gives me an insight to the temperament of the collective which then allows me a starting point to create people ask me a lot of like because I've been doing it for a while now and I've been putting out content for so long they're like I've seen a change in you Gary this and that I'm like it's because I'm listening you know it esbs and Flow you're a true vessel man it's really like not a it's really not a coincidence you are who you are you somebody who really is getting these messages to you and it's like that's why you got so much energy cuz you got to get it out jumping out your seat and that's beautiful man like I'm really honored to just sit next to you I'm we' we've been talking about getting up for so long so I'm just so happy to see you face to face because a lot of these people that we love and make plans with they're gone you know what I'm saying that's happen so many times in my life family members friend I'm going be there I come next year I'll be there next year you know I'm going get with you later on next thing you know it's like you can't predict how long someone's going to be here you know so that's one of the biggest lessons too I learned is that whatever you could do now do it now yeah do it now experience you know we see how fast life is going we see how quick things are happening like do it now The Power of Now is another great a great one that is real important to apply on a daily basis but yeah man you're a vessel man that's why you be so like excited and so much content and it's awesome thank you I mean you both are such vessels and I think Paradigm shifters and have created work that will Outlast you not just Outlast you right but work that will help generation so if someone discovered something either of you did in a hundred years I feel that it would be meaningful and masterful you uh you've added to your repertoire yes so like Global music icon is not enough he is now that's funny you are an author you have a book that is out in January yeah go higher I had a chance to read it thank you it's phenomenal it's a really powerful book that is filled with so much authentic inspiration like so much deeply authentic inspiration so many ways that you have created your life created your experiences in yourself thank you but something that I think is so special is it's not just your story it's the wisdom you've gleaned and it's your practices so this book is filled with real practices for higher Consciousness for someone to be able to truly tap into that next layer of creativity or that next layer in understanding of your own healing what called you to write it and then how was this process for you well I grew up with a lot of like guardian angels in the forms of like my P my mom you know my grandma and um yesterday we went to this movie premiere where we celebrated my grandma she was a female black Captain in World War II and she was part of this uh the 6 triaa Battalion and they were kind of like the morale of the military so they like boosted the military because they were able to connect 17 over 17 million pieces of mail to from Europe back home to their loved ones right and before they were almost starting to lose the war because they didn't have any motivation they couldn't see who they were fighting for and what these strong black women were able to accomplish was something that a lot of other people that tried to come before them couldn't figure out how to do have a successful communicative Mail system of back and forth so you know my grandma was a very modest person and she kind of would tell us but it wasn't until Tyler Perry made this movie about the group of women that she was a part of and I felt so connected to her and she was the best grandma in the world like I'm talking like Sunday dinners she would bake our favorite cakes on our birthday mine was a pound cake and my brothers was a coffee cake and um she was the first one to introduce me to books and reading you know from books like uh The Hobbit and then it was like uh the secrets to the richest man who ever lived and that book isn't it's about King Solomon and it isn't necessarily the it's not about being rich in money it's about really being rich in all sorts of ways and really being your best self and then I got introduced from my mom you know the seven spiritual laws and asking it is given by Esther and Jerry Hicks and all of these things right so I knew at 11 years old I wanted to be a rapper that's what I was going to be I ain't know how but I just knew it was going to happen right so the beautiful mom that I have was the first person I WAP for and at that time my mom is a very protective person we grew up in Detroit so just to put in perspective our neighbor both my neighbors sold drugs you know at the time who was probably the most popular rapper I'll probably say like gangster rap for sure was like I was like playing doggy style Snoop Dog all [ __ ] in my house getting Tupac you know biggie right so when I wanted to rap even though that's not what she was really my mom was a teacher she was an English teacher she still supported me because she saw how important my dream was and she really could have [ __ ] on my whole existence at that moment she could have been like nah don't do that that's not what you're going to do you know and but she didn't she supported it and it's something I took serious as a job since I was 11 years old right so when I did get my chance uh of like unrealistic fairy tale story of rapping for my idol getting discovered having a record deal selling 185 million records or whatever something crazy all of these things right it was really because of the foundation that was set by these like women in my house these beautiful my mom my grandma and my dad as well cuz his rise to school really helped a lot um I was blessed but you know when I sat with my homie Jay shett and I was telling him my story he was like everyone doesn't have that angel of a mom that you had everyone doesn't have these things you need to tell your story and use some of your practices because there are people who are confused about their lives and not know how to get from point A to point B to point c um mentally you know and you could really help some people so he was the one who put in perspective of me to even write a book you know what I'm saying um it was something I always wanted to do but I remember when I got a chance to talk to Kobe and I was supposed to link with him and play him some new music and stuff and a couple months later he was gone I remember when nipy hustle hit me up and was like man let's finish this song come to my video and I'm like damn it's kind of far I'm going to catch you next time and he's gone right so many family members my auntie I'm going to see you soon you know I go overseas I'm doing shows she's gone and I realized that I got to do I had to do it right now and the importance and when I had a son when that boy came I it's like that it puts in perspective of how fast life really goes they grow like and develop and um you know what kind of man would I be by having the experiences and seeing the Miracles I've seen I'm blind behind and not put it into something that you can hold and read and experience you know it's not enough just through the music like I'll put a song out and I'll talk about something you know I got a song called Boundaries a song called one man could change all these things but it's not enough so I realized that let me put these practices that are easy practices and you can take every time I read a book like this I take notes on it personally because I like to look back at the notes if I take a two day 3ay break I like to come back and really be writing that vibration you know um so that is the reason why I wrote the book because there are people that come from where I come from that may not have the same guidance that I had and I'm just trying to give them some free game of not just from me and experiences that I've learned but from all of these Masters that I've gotten a chance to sit with and talk with and take a piece of information from not just the music industry but also spiritual mentors and also you know World War II veterans and all of these amazing practices and mindsets that I've been able to be exposed to um and that I had and that I kind of have been sitting on not been sharing I kind of not have been expressing all the way and so I'm very excited to start my journey as an author and start expressing that congratulations it's such a beautiful work thank you everybody don't forget to hit that Amazon cart too cuz it's out in January oh yeah I mean whether you do buy it or pre-order it or you buy it or pass it on however it however it gets to you some of my books that changed my life were books that were given to me from someone else who read them and was like you got to check this out man you know so uh how however you can get it and if it's something you need um feel like you know some of you guys are completely satisfied with your lives and exactly where you need to be maybe you don't need that um but for like someone like myself who you know deals with life a certain way and it's kind of like I get I all of these spiritual practices it's like putting a layer of armor on that no matter what hits me it's like it's able to bounce off of me it's able I'm able to get bounc back from it instead of like it used to really affect me and tear me down and I used to be bitter and it would affect my output in every other aspect of my life and that's not the case anymore so I hope that it can impact you it is a lot of stories of my life in there just to give like examples of things and yeah I really can't believe that like yeah it's like it's here wow it's here and Gary yes this big old baby so you published your first children's book this year and a day and day trading which is a bestseller and in this book you have also um that one's a bestseller that is the children's book and within those characters yes you are bringing and it's interesting cuz you've really laid the scene for this and everything that you've said but it's all about positivity and it's all about kind of driving positivity in children and in the way that they feel about themselves what is your strategy behind this and why do you find it to be so important especially through this medium Tik Tok

was a really big moment in my career because in 17 you know I was paying a lot of attention to musically in 15 and 16 I was an early investor in an app called Tumblr back in the day and um I thought it was going to be bigger than Facebook and Twitter which were two other companies I invested in during that time and it was because I was fascinated that Tumblr was focused on the interest graph not the social graph are you rich sometimes just playing go ahead I'm just messing with and uh I was obsessed with Tumblr I thought that what you're interested in was something really powerful not who you follow and I was in an interesting age when social hit I was 3132 so I'd gone through the high school College thing and was on the other side and realized how many people that you're friends with in high school and college it's a different relationship and things evolve in your early 30s and as everyone remembers that's what Facebook was built on and early Twitter and so it became obvious to me that interest was going to matter musically came along and it was the first platform that was around the interest not who you follow obviously Tik Tok bought that yeah I explode on Tik Tok early I yell and scream to all of you to jump on it I know some of you did and that was good I know a lot of you wish you did back when I was yelling about it but what happened for me was my audience got dramatically younger so instead of when I would go to the airport or anywhere else 25 27 42 PE year olds came up to me now all of a sudden in 2018 I have 134 15 16 year olds coming up to me and I'm doing what I always do which is I listen and I realize and this is not some profound statement but it was so real for me in this one-ear moment two-year moment I was like [ __ ] this 14-year-old is getting this and is going to do something with this because he or she is not as molded and not as far along as a 25 27 year old back to sayings meaning things old dog new tricks I you know it is harder when you've been in your ways for 35 years it takes a lot of people here know exactly what I'm about to say it takes more work real work to change up your [ __ ] when you've been doing it for 40 years one way when you're 14 you're still molding so that was a huge chapter it's been a very bright chapter for me I feeling the effects of some of these kids in their early 20s that started to understand success was peace of mind not a piece of paper right and so that was huge and then I said [ __ ] it you know what's you know I was like 20 was good I'm like you know what's better than 20 14 and I was 14 four I was like [ __ ] this I'm going earlier and so meet me in the middle is an interesting book if you look at it like it it's positivity based on accountability eager eagle and patient Pig they're [ __ ] awesome I love them eager Eagle is you man eager Eagle is me and you know what happens when you're eager or ambitious or hungry or wanted if you go too hard you become sloppy far in anything that is good it becomes a vulnerability patient Pig patience we just talked about it but if you go too far with patience it becomes complacency if you take patients too far it becomes non-action or even worse laziness so what this is trying to teach kids is like get your [ __ ] in the middle this isn't left or right it's blue or red this shit's purple is that balance it's balance one of the biggest issues in our society just to go on a real serious kick cuz anytime I have a platform I go there we've become incredibly good at blaming technology for anxiety and depression when you look at the data I promise you this will be understood sooner than later it is the over coddling and entitlement of modern parenting we've gone it's it was well- intended a lot of us overcompensated for how our parents generation did it but when you start going to a place where you are getting kids into a place of complete no accountability when you are paying for your 26-year-old's existence they're not in a good place I promise you and you and so when you know I had a kid come up to me the other day and he was like you know I'm really [ __ ] this and he's all T and I was like I said stop taking your parents' money there do you know that there's people out there taking money from their parents in their 20s and [ __ ] on their parents yeah isn't that crazy it's [ __ ] crazy that is crazy we have

completely lost our way and you know who I blame the parents I have parents come to me cuz I talk about this and they're like Gary you're right it's all [ __ ] up I'm like so stop giving it to them they're like what do I do I'm like don't give them the money like you know and so we have over coddled we have to find the middle and I think the faster you find the middle the faster you get happy and so that's why I wrote the book M thank you see I've been giving my parents money now so it's like use that on that way too but no you're right balance is um balance is very key it's so real like you're always in trouble if you're not finding and what this goes back notice what I said a First Health where did I go second self-awareness yeah if you're self-aware you realize you might be skewing too much here or too much there then you can start holding s accountable and um yeah I just I think we're in a issue of entitlement Gary what about this though because this is like the this is actually really funny based on those two books this is the complete opposite I like to write books in either one side or the other it's either going to be very philosophical what I call clouds or I like to go deep into the dirt day trading attention is a tactical textbook on how to teach everyone here to take advantage of the single bigest opportunity in the actual World which is the seven social networks that have a dominant force of human attention the sheer amount of attention like man and women hours in the world that sit on the seven platforms from LinkedIn to YouTube to Twitter to Facebook to Instagram Tik Tok is staggering and stick with me now it's [ __ ] free I know you can buy ads but I think all of you know it does not cost to post and I think a lot of you know in the last three years the game got switched up and it doesn't matter how many followers you have anymore the content itself is getting the Reach This is a profound opportunity it is profound and I really don't know why people are not fully taking advantage of it I do know because they make philosophical things for themselves like especially group like this like I don't want the technology or the algorithm's bad or China or some dumb [ __ ] and in reality yes sir I will tell you right now in reality no whatever you want to happen for you whether it is extremely Noble or short-term selfish and interesting for you of like wanting to buy something there is no quicker path than to be dominant on creating content organically on social but it's a [ __ ] skill it's [ __ ] hard people it's like ah I'll take this photo no it's [ __ ] it's real and it's different on every platform and so I wrote a real textbook I wrote a book 10 years ago called jab jab right hook that really hit for a lot of people and it helped them this is the 301 to that 101 and it's been very fulfilling getting the emails every single day from yes we work with iconic Brands Ulta Chase like but a small shop owner who's trying to make it selling flowers in like a suburb of Denver reading this putting one post this is how it works now one post that hits and gets them over the hump of stressing if they can pay rent for their location that is incredibly fulfilling and I'm going to say something cuz I just want it on [ __ ] wax as they used to say you are all going to regret not taking advantage of this era there is new technology being built every day that is going to move us away from the phone the glasses thing is real and it's coming the social thing will evolve just like every platform print radio television you have your Golden Era this is the Golden Era of social it's [ __ ] free and you are not squeezing that orange enough I promise you I'm going to get to squeezing I'm going get to squeeze and that's really well said and you're 100% right and you look at your world yeah one song like it's Insanity a kid could be in the middle of nowhere [ __ ] Chile puts it out one Tik Tok that's right yeah that's different we take it for granted because we're living in it but it's [ __ ] free do you understand that attention is the singular asset it's free it does not cost to post people like oh the algorithm's [ __ ] me up [ __ ] I got Shadow banned [ __ ] Zuck I'm like it's [ __ ] free I do not understand how people don't understand this so that's Ito woo so that's it okay I don't want to take up all the time myself we are going to open it up to the audience for three questions we have two icons with Incredible amounts of wisdom so I'm going to go to the hands I saw first we'll start here in the yellow if we have someone to help with a mic please someone is coming this way thank you Gary oh thank you so much I want to talk about the work personal life balance as a mom of three with big goals and big dreams it's really hard to even leave my kids to be here today but it was a hard yes for me congratulations thank you have to choose your hards as they say um you uh I don't know you want to go I do actually I have a lot of passion for this one who gets to be the judge and jury of the balance I've like what is work life balance let me give you one man's unique point of view on work life balance if you work a 9 to-5 40 hours a week and you hate that [ __ ] job you have no [ __ ] balance but that's not how we Define it right like who gets to define the work life balance the other thing I always try to tell people is stop beating yourself up on this you don't remember 99% of the [ __ ] that your parents picked on work life balance growing up as a kid promise so like maybe this will liberate somebody it is okay to a occasionally miss a recital or a game I promise and this young woman I was on tour in Asia and after a talk in Singapore the Philippines this young woman she was like 27 28 she was talking about her mom was one of the biggest judges in the country her whole life she felt her absence at these events recital the moms were all there not hers and then she said something that completely shook me I'll never forget it hence why I'm bringing it up she said and then I was 24 and I realized my mom showed me how to live she didn't tell so what I'm saying is you just don't know and you know especially if anybody here is one of multiple kids you have siblings or if you're a parent of multiple children you also know that DNA is a [ __ ] meaning you could do the same damn thing and one kid sees it one way completely the other way so I think who the [ __ ] is the judge and the jury of work life balance you are your partner is and that's the only game that matters and it es and flows there's chapters for some people that are building right now there's moments where you have to put your head down and you're building for you and for your family and for you is okay cuz if you're not good then you're not going to do any good yeah that word boundaries is really important too set your boundaries it's okay the people who love you and the people who understand they going to understand those boundaries 100% And you and you're going to be even a better partner mother you know everything you are you're going to be even better when you take care of yourself first and I get it especially when they're super young but it's up to you to establish that like Dynamic and they'll love you for it they'll have they'll love to see that we have coconut drinks here yeah that [ __ ] looks delicious someone could carry a coconut I need a [ __ ] coconut you know what I mean though you see what I'm saying that boundaries it's real important it's a real important word I would love to add to that too cuz I don't believe at all in work life balance there is no such thing and we have just got to get that out of our terminology but I do believe in Harmony and I feel like sometimes it is a deficit right sometimes that is going to happen but how can you find the best way to harmonize whatever is present so that there is some level of flow even if you're out of balance and just find more ways to see what uniquely fills your children's cup I cannot always be there for my 6-year-old I wish you know she an incredible mom by the way too she really is thank you so much and likewise by the way I'm sorry to interrupt this but I want to jump and it's good that you're not always there this goes back to how we got to this level of depression and anxiety we have to stop building bubble babies kids need to skin their knee kids need to be scared I think kids need to start fighting again I'm being dead [ __ ] serious I think you are not a real man until you get punch in the [ __ ] mouth I'm serious about this we've gotten to a place where we've on this I know I get it bro you're but but I'm I'm being dead [ __ ] serious about this the elimination of adversity the over coddling we created zoo animals you know what they used to do with zoo animals they would hold them for a while they put them in the wild those [ __ ] zebras got killed in a minute cuz they were in a zoo not in the wild that's our children now I had a [ __ ] kid ask if their parent could come to the interview at the company the other day my friends and all the gasps just think about the dumb [ __ ] you're doing for your kid if you ever complain to a teacher about their grade you're [ __ ] up let them get these like we are over coddling the [ __ ] of our children let make them do everything well I think we need to be more aware about our children because we're coddling them in a way that Society is just saying do this do that do this but what does your child uniquely need and the more awareness we have the more one-on-one understanding you know you know what else it and it always starts with good intentions I promise you whoever came up with eighth place trophies it was good intentions right it wasn't like they were trying to [ __ ] up but I will promise you right now one of the worst things that ever happened was eighth place trophies we're teaching kids to be scared of losing is so bad we have to give you a [ __ ] trophy even though you [ __ ] suck in soccer what do you think happens when people become 23 in that framework my friends your relationship with losing is the direct correlation to your happiness if you [ __ ] fall in love with losing you become [ __ ] Unstoppable wo wow that is so accurate what were you saying did you want to did were you finish saying cuz as a mother

and then you know we can only speak from a male's perspective of as a woman and a mother um is there anything you want to say I would just say if this is useful and for anyone else but you know as someone that does I travel a lot I'm gone like half the week but I also I'm a single mom so I'm at first grade dropping my kid off and doing all the things and I found that to find that Harmony for myself it's about seeing what are the ways that he receives Joy and love the best and I think for each child it's different but I try to feed his cup and fill it up based on what most uniquely meets his heart and so for us that means again I may like I'm gone for a couple days now or like three sleeps as I like to call it with him but what I try to do is the second he wakes up I facetimed him you know at like 4 in the morning and then it's like we're getting that 10 minutes in and you're getting filled with love and then right before bed there's no one that does bath or story time and so you find the things and I found that at least in this moment feels like enough for him and it allows me to do what God is asking me to do yeah thank you and we'll take our last question here thank you thank you just quickly on that same um on that same note of feeling your cup because I share it I work with moms in and helping them reconnect with themselves and transition from women to Motherhood without losing themselves it's not only thinking about fing your kids cup your own so if you are doing things that Fu you and you just said it beautifully you're setting the example you're showing your kid how to live their own life because especially women of mothers uh sorry mothers of girls I have a baby girl and if I don't do this if I'm not here today I'm not letting her know that she can do it herself if whoever aspires to be president of whichever country in this world doesn't go into the ballot and put themselves out there I'm telling my daughter or my kid that that's not available for themselves so I believe in work life integration um I love the word harmony so I'll use that one from now on as well but thank you for sharing I think um extending an invitation to all women all mothers and and Men cuz it's it's a teamwork so instead of thinking that Society puts all these limits on ourselves what are we buying and how are we changing that narrative cuz it's not only for us but if we're doing things that fuel us we can show up as better mothers as better community members as just better people and the world needs better people right now yeah thank you absolutely that word communication too is such an important communicate to your loved ones to even to your kids they're smart at a young age they're smart and if you communicate to them properly you know communication is just it's uh it's the energy of God I say communic a is the bridge to Salvation that God is holding our hands to walk across and just like any Bridge you can't skip a step to get to the other side so as long as we communicate and explain why things are changing hey this is why mommy has to be gone War this is why Daddy more and they'll want you to be happy they want you to feel good you know it's like yeah they want what they want but when you explain to them and really go the extra step of being such a good that's such a good you know FaceTime your son at 4 in the morning shees that's you know and it gets brutal but the rewards are uh even more rewarding than the brutalness of it all so you know communicating to whoever it is that is in your ethos in your Universe I feel like that is like the number one way to you know get to set your boundaries and go to where you need to go at in life you know it's all up to you I that's right I want to jump on one thing before we get out of here you said the world needs more better people I actually have a slight tweak on that I challenge a lot of people here because I again know that are here right now looking around the audience the world has a stunning amount of good people the problem is that negativity is very good at marketing and very good at being loud positivity there are many positive good people here they sayate to themselves what when I think about what I do for a living I am willing to take the risks and the ramifications of being out there because it comes with plenty because I think it is important to be a communicator of practical positivity I would challenge a lot of people here to start posting more positivity for them not to flex what you've got going on putting out more good because that's what's happening the negativity is loud and is marketing the positivity is you're keeping it to yourself and staying good and keeping it selfish for you we do not have enough courage right now from people that are loving and positive because often times they don't have the stomach for the negativity that comes back MH that is so that is real wow yeah cuz sometimes I definitely don't be feeling like sharing nothing I'll be like man this is such a me keep all this Joy just for me I would argue it's one of the biggest single contributions that people can be making right now putting out a piece of content especially with the way the algorithms are working about something that is positive if more people you know how many people when they have a bad experience at the airport get on social and take a [ __ ] on the airline but you know how many people go on social when somebody opens the door and says have a nice day to them nobody we keep positivity to ourselves and we are marketers of negativity we must change that because that's what's got everyone confused we spend all our energy on the 001 negative and negative people when the world is remarkably positive we need to be better at communicating the positivity we have unlimited good people we need good people to [ __ ] talk yeah oh let the revolution begin my God before we get out of here first I just want to say profound reverence and gratitude to each of you for what you bring to the world and what you brought to each of us today this was powerful beyond measure I can't wait to watch the video cuz I just feel that so many seeds were planted in our hearts that we can explore um in so much of the future so thank you both for being here your commitment to the art and the work that you put forward thank you and yes as to you as well thank you and to you thank you yeah