2025 Blueprint For Finding Success And Happiness: Follow These & WIN | GaryVee w/ Nick Cannon

I believe the number one way that everybody on Earth would get much happier is if they mind their owning business we are spending so much time now judging everybody we're saying she looks terrible he sucks we're just spending so much time on this gossip that it makes us susceptable to other people's judgment the reason that we're all up is that we're judging ourselves too much right I'm aware of certain things that I'm doing that I wish I was doing better but I don't think I'm a piece of because of it right

social media is like alcohol yeah if you don't know how to handle alcohol it's real bad we ban that [ __ ] in this country that's how bad it got at one point 100 years ago but a nice glass of [ __ ] cat Beret with a steak is proper right same with social if you're [ __ ] using it to like the national inquire or like the [ __ ] neighborhood gossip yeah you're going to [ __ ] not get anything good out of it but by the way there's clips from this podcast that are going to go on social that some 17-year-old guy it's going to change the course of their life in a positive way yeah so what about that yeah I wanted to create a space for

men to be able to be vulnerable talk about you know their emotions but also a space for healing and having some conversation a lot of times that can seem taboo because some of our views and you know something to combat those ideas of like toxic masculinity and in terms that narcissist the all these terms that are thrown at us specifically at males uh and males in a sense of like wanting to be like entrepreneurs or wanting to be leaders or alpha males uh can get a bad rap a lot of times when just when times are good yeah everybody alpha males get it but when [ __ ] hits the fan I promise you that alpha male is going to be put on a pedestal that's just the history of life right the Empire gangas KH like people don't understand the alpha male thing that all we're talking about is America has been the leading Empire and has gone through so much Prosperity that we've gotten around to demonizing Alpha yeah I promise you if China was rolling through the streets of America right now trying to throw down yeah alpha males would be number one in this place and any other part of the world yeah I love that you say that CU it really is you know the definition of a man these days um it all depends on what the conversation is about but as gentlemen like you and I we love to provide we love to protect um we love to advise uh in that sense and I feel like in times like that those things are desired massively you know what I mean and if something's going wrong even like you said it don't matter if there's a spider in the kitchen I believe in it man most of the time everybody in the house was turning to Dad to figure out like hey K can we figure this out so at the level like you said where if there's a coup or a Takeover in a country all the way to like Dad Keep Us Safe in the house or cuz that's thank God less realistic or if like like real [ __ ] like you know somebody's tearing down your door right like again I just think that people are I by the way I get it yeah like we have a whole generation of people that are overcompensating for a generation of dads yeah you know you look at fatherhood right in the 40s 50s 60s 7s it was a different game but I don't blame those men those [ __ ] men were coming back from World War III those men were getting drafted to Vietnam yeah those men were the byproducts of the Great Depression yeah like those men were the byproduct of the' 60s when [ __ ] every world leader in America was getting assassinated right it was different yeah so you know I think that balance is hard and I do think we're to your point in the framework of the combo we have overcorrected too far which is why I think everybody knows it even the last year yeah we're starting to get a little bit more balanced yeah like we're not beating up dudes anymore for like you not you know like sometimes you got to like do [ __ ] like it's okay to here's one that I tell a lot of my guy friends it's okay to miss a little league game right it's okay you can miss one or two like you know what I mean like like you know I grew up in the ' 80s like unless your dad was the coach yeah 99% of the games I grew up with there was no dads in the crowd yeah they working yeah like who the [ __ ] is free at 400 p. m. on a Friday like you know like so you know I'm glad you said that man cuz we're checking the Box Nick I deal with that a lot cuz obviously I get extra pressure because I have so many kids so people are like they're like yo there's no way he can be a present Dad I'm like I'm and then I find myself that guilt hits when I do miss one of the best and what is presence because I got all sorts of [ __ ] father friends that I know who are like I go to my kids [ __ ] I'm like yeah but you were you don't give a [ __ ] yeah you're not really like about that kid like you're there cuz too many dads too many men too many women too many people they check the box and act as if right that's just not how life works it's true like I'll be honest with you I don't need people being around I need them to be around when I need them how about that yeah that's this that's where you're going yeah yeah like what is a father what is the by the way I always talk about my mom my most pinned comments every my biggest contents about my mom yeah my mom was there every day I saw my mom but I was so outside she wasn't there my mom didn't go to all like she didn't like she had other kids she had a younger I had a younger sister younger brother like we've gotten to this place where the proxy matters more than the [ __ ] impact right yeah I mean and Dad's dads need to start talking too you said something not that Financial Prov this is for moms too CU now we live in a world where plenty of moms are the [ __ ] money maker yeah all of a sudden people just decided to take the money thing for granted and move on to the next thing right people need to speak up a little more Nick yeah there's moms and dads out there who are working 13 hours a day to provide for kids and then the kids are giving shine to the other parent as if that dollar figure isn't the [ __ ] operating system of the whole system tell me about it yeah no it's okay for a dad or a mom to be like yo just to remind your ass I know you went and bought this [ __ ] with that parent who the [ __ ] do you think paid for it it's okay we got to this place where everyone's like I can't say that [ __ ] that's stup cuz it's real Nick why would that be bad why would it be bad if you're a parent that is financially providing obviously and listen you go watch my content for anybody who doesn't

know who the [ __ ] I am you go look at my content in two seconds you'll think you'll see I give a [ __ ] about feelings I love empathy I love kindness I love compassion I'm just not all or nothing yeah if Mama's working two jobs and Dad's sitting at home SCH slepping you to every practice and shopping with you and you got that relationship like we need to give Mom love too yeah don't [ __ ] make her feel bad cuz all the other moms are there your dad's playing mom and your mom's [ __ ] feeding yeah let's unpack that though cuz that is that I actually sit in my therapist office about that one subject matter probably more than anything okay because financially yep that the I the thing I hear the most and even a lot of it's from outside chatter but I've even heard it my own home is that you know money isn't everything know but then it comes to that sense of like you can't just throw money at it I think that's fair so but in the sense of someone who is a provider and I have the issue with you know even the idea oh I get to be the Disney dad or the oh every time you come around it's fun and we're doing this that's fair but I don't necessar because I'm working I don't get enough God I don't want to say quality time but it it's in that s of we'll say I don't get enough quality time yet right let's talk about that yeah you're talking to a man whose father different circumstance we came to America we were dead poor my dad worked every minute worked in the liquor store both versus a stock boy then as a assistant manager then as a manager then he owned his own store listen to this Nick this is real talk back to vulnerability you're talking to a man who from the time he can remember until he was 14 slept in the same home as his father my father and I because we never want on a family vacation my whole life and at that point one excuse me except for four days when I was 11 when my mom took me and my sister to Disney at the holiday in slept in the same house as my father every night of my life and has almost no memories of him before I was 14 because he woke up and went to work before I got up and he came home after I went to sleep wow and he worked 7 days a week and the only two days the liquor store was closed was Christmas day in New Year's ironically a week apart and that man slept all day we had one father Sunday this was this big thing when I was 12 I went into my dad's room it was a Sunday cuz he didn't work without day for I don't even know what reason it was Father's Sunday he turned on the TV put on black and white Tarzan like you know one of those Fox 5 shows he fell asleep about 5 minutes in I snuck I snuck out of the bed said to my mom can I go outside and play that was my father's Sunday wow I stand here and sit here today spoke to my father right before I came here have an incredible relationship with them have zero resentment zero many kids could have resentment we don't get to control how these kids are going to play out have their nature and their nurture but there's many kids that have alcoholic fathers that they could forgive and many that didn't there are many people who had narcissistic mothers they forgave them or they didn't we can't control everything in life and that's become the great farce some of your kids are going to admire you when they're their 20s for your work ethic and thank you for the ridiculous privilege that they have had financially once they understand how the world Works other kids positive you know are going to have a different take absolutely be like Dad you chose work and fame over me right you are going to have your whole life to play on the yet I think people don't understand the yet part it's not over until you're dead like we've got to make choices plus we're human beings but there's going to be no perfect and more importantly and you know this outside people's opinions on your relationship with your children that's laughable [ __ ] and all we can do and I think about this [ __ ] all the time cuz I work a ton too is how much can we adjust every day as you see the game change cuz our kids have and flow too yeah they change too right so anyway yeah I'm sure you're going through it you and every single mother or father that works a lot to provide for their family you and every other one so what would be your advice in that sense I mean because you're in it to not beat yourself up to try right and to adj to have the strength to adjust I in the last 5 to seven years have chosen kid time over work time at a higher percentage than I had prior right what made you make that decision that I felt that they were getting older that you know time starts to run out that you're adjusting to them you know when they're two and three they're not telling you much when they're 78 you start to hear some [ __ ] when they're 11 12 13 you're starting to get you know and just trying to hedge evolve like just trying to adjust along the way yeah but beating yourself up is not going to work because you know me and my two siblings all three of us same parents me and my sister are only three and a half years apart we grew up very similar my brother a little bit different 11 years younger yeah we all have very different relationships with my parents right what would be the definition of a successful parent like what or like how do you know even as a father even in your own experience as a son like we say mom or dad did a good job that's a great ass question that's what I'm saying like is it the amount of games you were at was it the quality was it the I don't think so I have unlimited friends whose parents went to every [ __ ] game and my friends hate their parents right because that wasn't the thing like you know what it is first of all it is the hardest game because there's not one person on Earth that doesn't walk around that doesn't judge their parents for some [ __ ] there's nobody in this room right now behind the cameras that when I say that can't think of some [ __ ] I mean I'll say it again my mother is I I'm writing a book I'm not done with it it's the longest book I've been writing because I write them in my head and like then sometimes J down it's called perfectly parented mhm where I literally am writing a book saying my parents perfectly parented me but the punchline of the book is because of my perspective I'm in control of that right I was going to say that because I've got unlimited things that I could think of that they've done remarkable a ton way more than most I really believe that but real talk I can think of a lot of [ __ ] they didn't do well yeah I already know a lot of [ __ ] I haven't done well as a parent and I'm just in the beginning stages of it so we're all going through it my definition is your kids want to spend time with you yeah the thing that I've always watched from afar it's going to make sense to you cuz we got to grow up and we watched people we right do kids like you know people who like kids want to spend time with them yeah I do I my parents I'm going to London for this Jets game my parents tried to cancel Dustin you were in the room right when this happened when my parents tried to cancel they didn't want to go and I picked up a phone and forced them I want to spend time with them I think that's the definition of success do your children after they're 22 years old want to spend time with you or don't wow that I think is the best way to look at it yeah I think that's Merit that's played out that's black and white yeah n that's powerful so I would love to jump into the space cuz I mean it's right there going uh back to mental health and mental Wellness specifically for men um and the pressure of being successful being a good parent being uh a a great entrepreneur or employee I feel like we especially in today's day and

age because the world is so crazy right now that we we're being extremely hard on ourselves couldn't agree more uh judgment yes judgment and it's coming from every space but starts with ourselves yeah how do we remedy that by stop judging other people that s so easy to say let's break it down I believe the number one way that everybody on Earth would get much happier is if they mind their own [ __ ] business let me break it down for you like that big man that's some real [ __ ] let me break this down I think this is going to hit cuz I don't hear people talk about this we are spending so much [ __ ] time now unlike other times judging everybody we're just spending a lot of time we got [ __ ] two cents on everybody's life everyone's public now whether they're actually famous or just some [ __ ] locally on some Instagram [ __ ] we're spending so much time saying she looks terrible he [ __ ] sucks this that like they're just spending so much time on this gossip [ __ ] that it makes us susceptible to other people's judgment I always try to break down why do I not judge one my mother wasn't judging which was unheard of back then for the ladies of the80s so I saw it I saw a woman who just like didn't have judgment on others didn't like to gossip so I saw it I it it's also my DNA cuz my sister saw it too and she's got my grandma's DNA so she's a little different um but I believe because we judge others we then feel what that feels like so if you aren't judging you can't feel the Judgment the same way right the reason that we're all [ __ ] up is that we're beating up we're judging ourselves too much right Nick like I said earlier if you could take the beginning of this it's like I'm aware of certain things that I'm doing that I wish I was doing better but I don't think I'm a piece of [ __ ] because of it right I think I'm a [ __ ] human being yeah trying why is trying not a thing anymore we as parents we as grown-ups are always trying to be like effort [ __ ] matters but not on ourselves people are trying to live out here we're trying we've lost Grace yeah we don't have Grace [ __ ] Grace on yourself Grace for other people I'm being dead serious if we didn't if we minded our own business a little more then our [ __ ] would be a little bit easier we're just judging judging everyone's caught up it's like back in the day when you left high school and you got to college and then you lived real life you dropped those High School Tendencies yeah now [ __ ] life is high school everyone's children starts with [ __ ] politicians the way they talk to each other yeah [ __ ] nasty I [ __ ] watch I put on C-Span I think I'm watching [ __ ] Jerry Springer we just lost Gra like I don't know listen honestly back to me eating my own dog food yeah I don't give a [ __ ] I'm in my little cocoon yall do what the [ __ ] you need to do right I really think the reason we're beating ourselves up is cuz we're judging too much and then it bleeds on to ourselves and I'm then all of a sudden I don't have as many followers as Nick Henn I can't get the same girls as that person I ain't got the [ __ ] Lambo clothes I ain't got the cloud I ain't got the everything's everybody's [ __ ] worried about everyone's [ __ ] everyone jealousy Envy poison no matter what religion you are I promise you if you open up your book yeah they'll tell you straight up envy and jealousy is the great poison of Life y I say comparison is the thief of joy and to be able to always just worry about what someone El this dude said somebody I knew lightweight acquaintance been with him four or five times in my life once on a dinner friend of a friend said something to me recently he's like you're so lucky I'm said to him I was like unless you lived I know him well enough six seven times I'm like I know him I was like yeah but not if you lived in my shoes cuz you wouldn't be able to handle that heat I'm like you're lucky your life is simple yeah and that's the life they chose and that's amazing and so I just don't I don't like I could sit all day and say that I'm envious of people that live a very simple ninet to-5 when I look at a teacher's life from a certain perspective I'm like man that's [ __ ] good summer like you know like a long day in the school is to six or five not bad like weekends like you know not really your fault they just move on to the next year blame the superintendent blame the principal blame the [ __ ] system no [ __ ] accountability I'm like but then if you really know teachers some of them they die every day in that classroom cuz they got one kid that they want to help and they can't right like not making the financial dollars they need to like keep up with their bills I this just goes to how we look at [ __ ] M I can easily look at a teacher right now I just did it I don't want to waste up too much time it's the best or it's the worst I think too many people are just choosing to look at negativity right now fatherhood and parenting and being a dude is in that [ __ ] right now right yeah and going back to the mental health of it all um you know there they said the statistics of you know that we're in a higher state of depression than ever before and like you said a lot of that is probably just based off of the access and the judgment and and Nick the prosperity my man I'm telling you I told you this once before history was the only class I was good at yeah I do not believe that people understand what the world has been going through the last 50 years it's so much Prosperity wow bro so the prosperity bre depression bro do you think people are going to [ __ ] try to cancel people for saying a word during World War II right like dudes were [ __ ] going to Canada trying to dodge the draft in the 60s right like you had 17-year-olds scared shitless right of getting killed in Vietnam so they were trying to sneak into Canada you think they were worried about how many likes they got on a post not at all bro I'm telling you the prosperity Nick so the prosperity has made us weaker 100% do you think our I don't think you and I think our rich kids are as rugged as you and I are that but and then when you bring that up going back to Parenting and fatherhood I struggle with that as

well because of course I want to give my children and everything I want them to have the privilege and experience way but I want them to Still Know What It's Like by the way even if you didn't even the parents right now who've made a lot of money who are trying to do different tactics to keep it in check yeah your kids are a they're going to feel the byproduct of your life yeah you can't fake environment yeah uh I'm on the board of pencils of promise and charity water these are two nonprofits that do a lot of work in Africa building schools building Wells so I have a lot of my bougie rich friends always hit me up they're like Gary when you go to Ghana can you take my son you know to really like you know show him I'm like yeah I can and thrilled to do it I'm like but friend we're going to go to Ghana for a week he's going to or she's going to be like man I got it good they're going to see humans that don't have access to clean water they're going to feel crazy for a week yeah but they're going to come back and you're going to go private to Aspen and they're going to forget in a second you can't fake environment right so what is the what is to me my answer is listen every I love talking about parenting overall but I never tell how I think it's crazy to tell someone how to parent my big thing is just raise good ass kids right you're not going to whether they're privileged or not look they're not going to be hungry because they're getting fed yeah but that's so unfortunate because it's not really unfortunate we have the grind in by the way you and I are both lucky enough we both know if you really thought right now it's not very common but you and I both know of rich kids or kids of famous people who actually are working hard yeah it's rare but I know if you sat for a minute right now you're probably thinking of one or two people right now you know they come from extreme wealth or right prosperity and they're doing their thing it happens so it's not like it can't happen what I think is more important though is especially with people like you and I if you're really coming from a low Place financially and you get to a high place our kids can't they you can't replicate it yeah it's impossible I think what for me that's the beauty of you know these athletic systems I mean when it comes to sports whatever the sport is when you can teach your kids that you know that because no matter how well off you are financially when you're on whatever field you're on whatever Court you're on it's all about how much work you put into my guy you were literally talking about my favorite subject I believe Sports is the most important you can't manipulate it it's why eighth place trophies [ __ ] up everything it was well intended I get it you don't want Little Ricky to cry when he's six I get it but that's not how life works the sooner Little Ricky figures out he sucks the better for little Ricky and you go find something he's good at 100% first place trh I by the way I love sports for that reason and by the way and obviously bronnie bucked the trend and obviously people got plenty of opinions about Brony but everybody I think if you take away your emotion realize bronnie is a very good basketball player whether he's an NBA Allstar we'll find out player we'll find out but there's a reason Michael Jordan's kids Wayne Gretzky's kids like all the greatest players of all time's kids Mickey Mantle like it's really hard for that nextg to like we don't know that hunger not the best ones of all time we got kids that are better like there's been Curry is the only one that kind of Beast there you go and d and Dale was a beast and obviously was nicer you know Kobe's dad was a real player league but like you know Dale Curry was a specialist he wasn't a top 10 player in the league and so it's hard yeah no it truly is like you said as we sitting here as fathers and we want nothing but the best for our children but they'll never understand but break down best that's okay yeah there's [ __ ] you and I will never understand yeah right yeah true like by the way I sit here and talk about grind my parents laughed they grew up in the Soviet Union in the 60s my mom's like you think you had it tough I had to go outside in the [ __ ] snow to take a piss they didn't have a bathroom in their house right so like you know like by the way God willing maybe your [ __ ] kids think they had it hard cuz they're going to go out and [ __ ] annihilate it and make it even better for your grandkids yeah yeah that's true I again this goes back to the whole part of mental health is predicated on perspective this is why I'm obsessed with the content I talk about and like what I want from others here's my question to all this who makes the rules what is better what is balance what is doing a good job M you make the rules stop listening to other people yeah like if you define a man like for example we talked about this another time as well I think fighting matters I respect the [ __ ] out of somebody saying to me Gary the definition of a man is not someone that can use these and I'm like respect that's how you see it but for me it is it's a piece like who the [ __ ] going to protect yeah like it's a piece I don't mean you got to be a [ __ ] UFC champion but like I feel like it's a backbone stepping up for your family yep I do like if your family is getting punked that's emotional damage yeah and it's also the great measurement too it's like it's a measurement yeah on the same token I think the definition of a man is

being emotionally strong I disrespect a lot of men who get into the gutter and get into gossip and act all ridiculous childish I think the biggest strength is emotional strength not [ __ ] muscles but why can't both be true mhm why can't you be a father that both at an argument at a dinner table instead of getting emotional and acting a fool be [ __ ] calm collect and [ __ ] debate your point of view with respect and why can't you also be a father that if a bobcat goes in your [ __ ] backyard you're ready to [ __ ] do something about it instead of crying yeah why can't you you should be able to I think so and by the way I don't even want to use the word should I Gary vaynerchuk am allowed to think that yeah I don't even impose should yeah if you don't think that's the definition good this goes back to the point of this whole thing if you mind your own [ __ ] business I think your mental health will get better I'm being dead [ __ ] serious dick I know it's an off speed pitch I know it's a different angle than the way people are talking about it brother I'm [ __ ] telling you that wise words great counsil I just think that people don't realize we're all basically Instagram and social media which I adore because I know how to handle it it's like alcoh people like social media I'm like social media is like alcohol yeah if you don't know how to handle alcohol it's real bad we banned that [ __ ] in this country that's how bad it got at one point 100 years ago but a nice glass of [ __ ] cernet with a steak is proper right same with social if you're [ __ ] using it to like the national inquire or like the [ __ ] neighborhood gossip yeah you're going to [ __ ] not get anything good out of it but by the way there's clips from this podcast that are going to go on social that some 17-year-old guy it's going to change the course of their life in positive way yeah so what about that yeah mind your business it's a funny concept right I love it it's some [ __ ] we heard about from like Grandma back in the 80s I haven't heard it at all this is why I'm bringing it up now I not really hearing it but there's something in my [ __ ] stomach that's like oh [ __ ] this might be the [ __ ] key that we in 2025 need like why does your opinion on somebody's relationship matter yeah I love it and by the way and back to politics for a second everyone's walking around as if the way they see the world should be the rules of the audac Nick the audacity to think how you see the world is how it should be I don't even have that I'm pretty confident like I'm like that and I couldn't mustered up the audacity to tell everybody how they should live their [ __ ] life it's crazy I think so there you have it especially when half the [ __ ] people don't even [ __ ] vote right people trying to impose their [ __ ] opinions and can't even [ __ ] get their ass up in November and [ __ ] vote [ __ ] well you heard it from the great counselor himself uh Mr Gary Vander Chuck man you put it so play so simple I think it is I think we just decided to over complicate it yeah we'll catch you on the next session like subscribe it's C Co