Advice For 22-30 Year Olds

if you take money from your parents and you're over the age of 22 get their names out of your [ __ ] mouth in any negative form kiss the ground they walk on shut your [ __ ] mouth you don't want them to have say stop taking the bag whoever pays for something has say you don't want your parents have say stop taking the [ __ ] money and don't do it cute like let them still pay for your Uber cuz it's on their credit card their cell phone yeah or you're on the [ __ ] family plan get the [ __ ] off the family plan is Netflix Okay no Okay not even the shared [ __ ] password even though they shut that [ __ ] down good job Netflix attention is the number one

asset welcome to the show Gary thank you my brother so excited to have you here today happy to be here yeah I mean this is uh this going to be fun because you're actually here for another reason which is the announcement of our cool collab with vriends and everal yes and I think it's going to be so game such a GameChanger for our brand to bring this Digital World this digital exciting area as well as the creation of your brain yes these new characters into the retail of our footprint and bring these two communities together yeah I think anything that could ever be a 1 plus 1 equals 11 is kind of how I think about business development obviously as your footprint continues to grow and I think USR especially for intellectual property you know I'm an 80s baby and so like going to McDonald's and getting a Happy Meal with like the toy or the IP of the day was so iconic and really was ingrained in my head and I was such a flipper and collector like I remember working in my dad's liquor store in my teenage years there was a Burger King right next door and Lion King came out and was on fire and you know I would lick literally every time i' take out a package to someone's car that bought at the store I'd run real quick to Burger King and buy a meal just to get the actual collectible and so now that I have my focused Falcon and can team up with you know with a qsr it's really kind of cool and very full circle and you're and it's one of my favorite things when it's no different really than doing this podcast when you're able to bring exposure to something you believe in and that is able to bring exposure to you those things work right and so for me many people are going to walk into an ember bow and look up and be like what is the focus Falcon thing what is that right and on the flip side I just sent a text out to people uh that live within uh you know a 1hour drive of the location we're going in after and some of then we're going to stop by and go in for the first time and obviously when we fully announce the partnership people go I'm going to drive people to locations obviously for the vending machine but also for the partnership we're doing and I just like that and I think now that

humans have platforms that they can actually drive people to think I think you'll see more and more of those kind of Business Development things but and I guess when you were ideating this whole friends line did you always think about the gumball machine The Nostalgia of it yeah I did I thought about that I thought about the trading cards for sure um I thought about General Mills a lot so like cereal and Peter Pan peanut butter and Flintstones Vitamins so I thought a lot about cpg um apparel you know like things that are like hopefully cool hats and then broad Market stuff actually oh yeah you know broad Market you know this is usually my undershirt just for my own you know and so yeah I mean I've had 40 Years of thinking about business and pop culture and so yes obviously the nft form was the most exciting part for me that was comic book number one rookie card in the new digital age and I think that will play out really interestingly well over the next 2030 years but all the real life physical expansions of the intellectual property and obviously the Pokemons and the Disneys and the Marvels and the Star Wars there's just so many comps of

things you can do and watch outs over exposure not doing too many things you know when I decide to do this with you that eliminates seven to 20 other different things I was looking at so you know these are the uh things I'm navigating with this intellectual property well I love it because I also think it was brilliant whether it was top of funnel and top of mind or not that you're now introducing a whole different subset of the population that may or may not be engaged with the Gary ve world of course because they may just want the toy yeah and and really the reverse and let me explain what I mean by that I've given it a really good run here the last decade and I'm aware that a lot of people know who I am you know we're recording this the day after the Super Bowl walking around Vegas like I'm getting stopped constantly and Gary B Gary and it's amazing I also know it's a pimple on the ass you know as big as people bigger than me as big as any person that has 50 million followers on Instagram or a hundred million even them even the most famous people you can think of in a world of 8 billion people there's only so many people you can get to as a human you don't resonate for everyone I'm too aggressive for some people I curse that turns people off I'm a Jets fan you know I was on radio row all week making fun of giant fan and Steeler fans and that makes them upset so you know there's things that are not going to work with me when I look at Mickey Mouse for me when you look at these you know Darth Vader Spider-Man Superman um Hello Kitty you know you know Pokemon you realize that Sesame Street you realize that these characters have incredible reach and for me I want to talk about accountability kindness I want to talk about tenacity I want to talk about compassion and you know I it took me a long time to understand that I was so well parented that I wanted to give back to the world some of those virtues I'm so happy you know I want to share that and so that is even why Gary ve in hindsight happened um and I want to continue that and I want I don't want to use vriends as a gateway drug for people to find Gary ve I really don't okay I view this as a transition in my career it will happen y but I do view this more as I'm going from being Mickey Mouse to being Walt Disney um I view this more as I'm I was Hulk Hogan but now I'm Vince McMahon I want to be behind these characters I'll be out it's my personality I like people I'll be out and about but this hunger I have for really leaving a positive deposit it's a perfect framework V friends for me this selfless part of me is very real but I'm also a full bred entrepreneur and want to accomplish

business goals and financial goals and I love that part about me too and I enjoy that I think that's why vriends works for me and I actually can say this you're being truly authentic when you say that because a lot of people that have platforms are two different humans they're the human they are on their platform and then when you're with them socially they're a different person yeah I know it's been it was devastating for me to go through that in the last 20 years realizing that whole don't meet your Heroes it's wild to me especially when you higher people that have worked for other high-profile people you're just often disappointed on how they treat people so I'm sorry go ahead no but I was going down that track because what you just laid out and how you are transitioning a little bit more behind the scenes to now make these things grow having more of that kindness that empathy that compassion that tenacity that you were talking about those traits you're all about them and I could having now spent some time with you personally I can say that I've seen that live and so I know that you are that same human saying all that the and where I was going with it was in that same vein if you can now create more Brands create the Vince McMahon who will create the league the Walt Disney who will create these offshoots of Mickey's with those traits you can actually better this community and world and I think that's why people get so attracted to you even though you may be real and you curse and you're a Jets fan and you are not going to scared to say something to someone that they need to hear y you're authentic and it's coming from your heart I come from a good place what definitely allows me to put my head on a pillow is my intent is good mhm you know I'm in a good place and I've always been you know somebody said to me that's I were talking about this on radio row like I was talking about something and the kid jumped in it was awesome he was like yeah but you've got money I you only are saying that because you're seeing me today I would argue in a lot of ways all the stuff I believe in I believed in even more and executed even more because now my time is being sucked into other things but I

was not more happy in my 20s and I you know I never made $100,000 in my 20s it was just that I loved that I knew that I had more time is my great Passion so in my 20s I just knew like man I have another 80 years to do this and that like brought me tremendous joy as a matter of fact the stuff that I spew online is just me talking to everyone about the conversations I have with myself so when I'm out there saying you're 30 or 40 and you have lots of time like I literally think like this way I'm 48 I'm like okay 48 modern medicine like I should probably God willing nothing too crazy I could get to 96 you know I feel confident in that and I say to myself crap then I'm at halftime you know and I blew it the first 20 years of my career cuz I was a kid and didn't have the opportunity to go all the way so like to me that brings me joy I actually am very concerned this is real talk very vulnerable I am a hair concerned of what my psyche looks like in my late 70s early 80s I've loved the idea of all this room to create and build and I do get a hair concerned that if I know there isn't a lot more time how will that [ __ ] with me my hope and I and I've gotten a little bit more opt I used to be very scared of this 10 years ago lately now at 30 at 48 versus 38 I'm like okay wait a minute what's going to happen is what I'm starting to feel the more life you live the more you're grateful for it the more you've scratched certain itches you know even it was so weird even what this is crazy actually even this morning walking to my car for my hotel room to come here I had this weird thought of like how excited I'm going to be a grandfather like how I'm going to like not want to go to like some big business this thing because I'm going to want to

go to my granddaughter's recital so you know there's a part of me that's starting to get a little wiser about the concept of time but boy was like I just have never seen money as the gateway to happiness I've seen opportunity to build and I think that drives me because I think no matter what Financial or even emotional situation you're in that optimism to you can turn it is very real because if you decide you can't if someone's watching this and be like [ __ ] you dude like you don't know me people have real [ __ ] oh yeah I'm just like I'm like listen I get it but if you just decide to say it's never going to happen for me like it's over [ __ ] life like I got unlucky it's no well then it is MHM it just is yeah what how you see life is how it is and so for me no matter how shitty as my mom grew up my mom was born in the worst country in the world at the time the Soviet Union you couldn't leave it was North Korea she lost her mother at 5 her dad goes to jail when she's 10 for 10 years she has a [ __ ] life she's the most optimistic positive person I know what do you think created that optimism in her DNA and probably some you know they talk a lot about and I'm undereducated on this I don't know this to be true or not but boy do people have a big belief that those first three four five years of your life there's a lot going on there and knowing how my mom and what she did for me in those first five years my intuition is that her mom did that before she passed and might have just got in that optimistic nurturing love and then DNA like I've siblings I have children like DNA is a real [ __ ] thing it is you know like it is what it is and so I think um I don't know I just I sit here and I'm just literally as I look at that camera I'm like man if one person if one [ __ ] person who watches this video and millions will over the next decades as you and I execute this will be more interesting for people to watch in 20 and 30 years is my intuition yeah man if one [ __ ] person leaves this saying you know what [ __ ] this yes I had pessimistic parents even I have pessimistic DNA but Gary's right [ __ ] it I will go to therapy and like when people buy a $8,000 watch to make themselves feel better for a week I'd rather them put that into a bunch of $250 therapy sessions over several years like I just wish people knew that you're not alive for a long period of time and You're Dead Forever and so you have this tiny window and better A lot look I was born in 1975 what year were you born 83 great 75 and ' 83 A lot happened prior to 75 and 83 and a lot is going to happen after we're gone to me it's like [ __ ] man

don't mail this in yeah cuz you're mailed in before and after don't mail in life and I find it fascinating that people who have that pessimistic View and they're saying those things why not fail trying why not go for it because they're scared of judgment Jeff the difference between someone who goes and someone who doesn't is incredibly predicated on their self-esteem and insecurity framework they don't want to go because it's easier to complain and tell everybody why everybody else got lucky because you're not doing anything you think the thought you're what you're saying is the way others perceive me would control me that much that I would rather be in hell and unhappiness so I can be the victim and say it's because of this and this rather than have people judge my effort and be in the same position yes cuz fear is one of the most powerful currencies in the world most of the way that parents will parent their children between now and forever will be predicated on fear most people work for people when you and I because of the way we're wir we like why would you do that is because of fear is an incredibly this is why Star Wars crushed it the whole dark side and the Jedi is very very well done and I'll tell you why I believe optimism and fear are very close that's why the world just like they're just like this like a thin line you know just a thin line and that's why the world works the way it works there's a lot of [ __ ] up [ __ ] amazing [ __ ] and I think that um the dark side like you look at Darth Vader he's such an important part this I literally think about the world through the lens of Darth Vader like is even the like the way that he like turns in the end of like it's just like this how I see the world like when I see 90-year-olds apologize to their family for being not nice their whole time on their deathbed it makes me think of Anakin and like him and uh and that's how I see the world and so yes I believe exactly what I just said I think most people do most things because of outside validation I feel like so much that has worked for me comes back when I was in my 30s and it started to get clear to me I was like that's why I was weird in high school I was just like so utterly not penetrat with peer pressure that's why I didn't drink my mom asked me not to drink alcohol I loved my mom so much and I wanted to do that for her and even though pretty girls were like come on have a drink and even though my buddies were like you're a puss like [ __ ] drink like it just didn't [ __ ] penetrate you never had a drink in high school no and it never penetrated and it just kind of like I think like if you can deal with peer pressure in high school I think you can deal it deal with it for the rest of your life you sure I often say this is still all high school because it is for most people you know and so even this weekend in Vegas what's going on with people they're all peacocking there was like people like upset they couldn't get into that table or that VIP room as if it matters like you mean the subjective opinion of some people you barely know is that not as cool as them who gives a [ __ ] I obviously got to a place in my career where I'm lucky and can get into certain things but there are plenty of times where I can't sure and I'm fine who gives a [ __ ] if Jay-Z doesn't want to invite me to something that makes sense to me that doesn't hurt my feelings right like and people just walk around with crazy insecurities and audacity like I I've been to like events where I like see somebody roll up and they're like they like they're not known they can't get into whatever this thing is and they're like yo I got 80,000 followers on Instagram and I just watch that and I'm like by the way please don't do that anymore it doesn't make you look good not with winners at least like what does that mean like it's just so [ __ ] high school who gives a [ __ ] how many followers you have who gives a [ __ ] if you have a blue check mark who gives a [ __ ] how much money you have really it doesn't [ __ ] matter true like I don't really know how much money anybody really has I know what people try to perceive out there but it's not going to make me like or dislike Drew Brees anymore right like I don't understand what we're doing out here so yes I believe that most people are scared of other people's opinions and it dictates all of their

actions all of them so in the spirit of what my goal with this show because I'm doing it I think I have found and I'm I know you have too based on what you just said that once you achieve a certain level of what you were chasing that financial success professional success and you look at your business career it's like what fills you up is actually watching and helping those in your circle grow winning as a team and so the spirit of the show is to help people that are struggling that are saying hey I see this I don't have a path I don't have the I don't know what to do how do we help them not stay victim to their fear and get away from that because if fear is as strong as you're saying it is and it's actually making people make these life decisions which are curtailing their ability to have happiness and find success how as the community and especially someone with your platform how can we help them see past it I'm [ __ ] I'm pounding this I mean I've put out [ __ ] 10 years of content at least seven years I'm put doing it every day it's what I'm doing in the meta right now sure I'm telling all of you right now the fear you have of your mom or dad's opinion of your siblings opinion of your spouse's opinion of the person you're dating's opinion of the people that follow you on social media of your neighbor of anyone like the fear of their opinion is the Trap and how do you get out of that by first understanding by agreeing with me by sitting on the other side right now on a laptop or a phone and being like in a very vulnerable state saying he's right and once you understand that it's game over what I mean by that is it's game on meaning whether it is therapy or exercise or different ways of eating or listening to different content you know one of the things that drives me crazy right now is I already know that fear is the enemy and then most people right now are in their phones or on television just consuming fear CNN and fox do the same [ __ ] people they sell fear they're just selling a different message of fear a lot of people that are trying to sell you [ __ ] are selling fear yeah like if you don't take this supplement you're going to die oh [ __ ] you know like it's [ __ ] fear and so you know I think it's very clear to me that what can they do they can be self-aware and vulnerable with themselves I'm not even asking you to talk to anybody just talk to yourself all I'm asking is for you to talk to yourself and say how much truth is in this and people don't realize that they've been doing it their whole life this is why I hate the school system like this whole AB b c d f thing is crazy like people just conform into getting an a that short-term valid on something that means nothing the amount of straight A students that I meet happened three different conversations this weekend that were like yeah I just knew how to get the a I memorized it for the test and then I was out I don't even remember anything that wasn't learning that was memorizing to conform to A system that doesn't match real life that sucks yeah so I don't know like this is

one big game of self-esteem this is why I tell parents you want you're worried about your kids create true self-esteem that's why eighth place trophies [ __ ] it up yeah that was fake self-esteem and those kidss knew and we're seeing the result of that in today's world massively these parents told these kids we don't think you're good enough so we're just going to reward all of you there's nothing worse than a parent indicating that they don't think you're good enough eth place trophies Y and the worst one giving them money after they're adult for everybody who's got a every parent right now and I don't like giving parenting advice individually I like doing it macro because individually there's a million Dynamics and I don't know you and you don't know me but Macker by far the biggest observation I've had in the last decade of all the trillions of DMS that I read is that if you're 22 to 30 and your parents are giving you money there's bad [ __ ] going on mentally there's resentment by the parents they don't realize what they're doing but they're building resentment towards their child and there's deep insecurity about the kid cuz their parents are saying to them I so don't believe you that I have to give you money it's a big problem now before all the kids go yeah [ __ ] you Mom and Dad be a [ __ ] grownup and stop taking the money if you [ __ ] on your parents and you're over the age of 18 and I'll make it even easier for you if you [ __ ] on your parents and you're over the age of 22 and they give you money you're a [ __ ] straight talk if you take money from your parents you're over the age of 22 get their names out of your [ __ ] mouth in any negative form kiss the ground they walk on shut your [ __ ] mouth you don't want them to have say stop taking the bag whoever pays for something has say you don't what your parents have say stop taking the [ __ ] money and don't do it cute like let them still pay for your Uber because it's on their credit card their cell phone yeah or you're on the [ __ ] family plan get the [ __ ] off the family plan is Netflix Okay no Okay not even the shared [ __ ] password even though they shut that [ __ ] down good job Netflix yeah good job that was such a rope a doe let us get us all into the sharing the passwords and number just going to cut it off they [ __ ] soet so smart Netflix you [ __ ] gangster I

think there's two sides though you did say the eighth place trophy is parents not believing in their kids but it was well- intended the eighth place trophy so with my kids I never played with that yeah I would tell them me too because I think it's more important that kids at that age learn how to lose and it doesn't break them cuz we're so fragile today everyone has this need to be offended and they can't handle adversity and losses because they've never had to learn it I know and adults don't learn [ __ ] no [ __ ] I'm on board I think that's the challenge I think we should bring back fighting what kind of fighting I think it was good that in third grade sixth grade fifth grade I got into fights odad winin stck if you're out there please email me Gary a media. com we need our fourth fight I had a Trilogy with this dude it was like oi Frasier I fought him in second fifth and sixth grade what was the record two and one he [ __ ] caught me twice we no I won twice I won in second grade blowout I kicked him off his bike sat on his back and just pounded his back crushed him cried home then the big fight actually I I misspoke we actually fought twice in one day so it was second grade then there was always that rivalry and then in sixth grade excuse me he [ __ ] got me he punked me in an interesting way I talked some [ __ ] we always had a rivalry I talk some [ __ ] I turned around he pushed me and the locker caught my my little skinny ribs like the combo and I fell and he got on top of me and he was like kind of then the teachers broke it up because this was like before home room and I didn't think much of it because it wasn't like a full pledge fight but then by first second and third period everybody was whispering like odad beat up Gary and I was like holy [ __ ] my whole entire reputation is on the line I was petrified so at lunch I like got up and walked over his table I'm like after school at Marco's house so there's kid Marco that lived right by John Adams Middle School and the ice cream truck parked in front of his house and there's this little Hill and so like literally out of like a 1970s movie at 35 after school Full Circle 60 [ __ ] kids I don't know yeah till this day it was the most scary moment of my life cuz I knew within seconds everything was going to be decided from my entire childhood and by the way he like we were the same size in second grade by fifth sixth grade he was bigger than me and we're in this [ __ ] I'll never forget Tyler bunting was in his Corner Robbie turnick and Andy Greco in my corner a bunch of kids and the fight starts like straight up like go and pretty quickly he gets the upper hand in a clinch and he's on top of me and I swear to you Jeff this is like it's unbelievable how childhood Works back to adversity and losing when I tell you I was in trouble like he's on top like the bad on top not like UFC on top yeah Str like I'm near and I'm like literally he's throwing punches and some are catching and some aren't and he's probably like 30 lbs heavier than me when we were both like I he was 100 I was 70 or whatever the [ __ ] it was and I'm like literally like for the love of God I've got to get I've got to [ __ ] get out of this and somehow I get out of it and then I get very I will always say this I got lucky I get him off and I throw like a punch and a kick we're both on the ground and the [ __ ] kick hits him directly in his face and his entire nose explodes and he's bleeding everywhere it was like big right the story the next morning that I punched him but I know it was my foot cuz I threw him both at the same time we both kind of get up because he got knocked back by that I get knocked back we get up and it just Pours and luckily that just shook him and he kind of like cried and ran off and it was like [ __ ] out a rocky like the whole circle got me it was it's pretty much the best moment of my life um and anyway longwinded way to tell you that I believe that fight both for me and odad MH was a good thing my intuition is actually the next year me and odad got a little friendly play a little tennis together and then I moved and I've lost touch though I think he does real EST I Googled him a couple times I think he does Real Estate down in South Jersey nonetheless I will promise you that was good for me and odet and I believe all this cushy cushy [ __ ] and we [ __ ] track our kids do you know there's college kids that are being tracked by their parents on their phones like track tracked or just still being shared no track tracked like the [ __ ] find my kid or whatever the [ __ ] is and it's just [ __ ] up like we have [ __ ] grown ass children like [ __ ] kids used to go outside your parents had no [ __ ] clue where you were now we're just in our kids [ __ ] and all these parents are hovering and then all of a sudden all these people at work like it's crazy we [ __ ] hover and smother and suffocate them and then at work we [ __ ] on all the 20-year olds that come and work for us because they're not our kids meanwhile our kids doing the same [ __ ] in another company it's all [ __ ] we need to [ __ ] cut it out

and we're seeing the results yeah and by the way for all the kids that aren't that way you should love you should kiss your parents in the face if you're kid that your parents didn't smother you that way but still loved you it's not like they didn't give a [ __ ] well guess what good news you're about to kill all these softies the [ __ ] 22-year-old that's got a chip on their shoulder is about to dis I dismantled everybody growing up 22 to 40 that I was around but a lot of them weren't cuddled either sure I was just more ridiculous this new crew if you're a 22-year-old and you got something and you have self-esteem and you're not scared of losing you're about to [ __ ] dominate yes it you just summed it up that getting over that fear of losing this goes back to judgment back this is why everyone's scared of judgment our parents taught us that losing is bad yeah they taught us they said losing is so bad that we're goingon to have to give you something [ __ ] that [ __ ] man I'll tell you when my kid started playing sports when I saw a kid cry I would run over to him I wouldn't even go to my kid I'd run over to the kid that cried and be like with the parents there I'm like you're the best kid here good cry more that's a winner if you care do you understand that eighth place trophies created indifference do you know how dangerous indifference is do you know what the mindset of it doesn't matter means if you're someone who says it doesn't matter you're in a very dangerous spot yeah indifference is dangerous yeah and that's what we taught these kids these we we demonize competitiveness a kid [ __ ] cries and we're like that's not good [ __ ] you parent that's the best show me a kid that cries after losing a sports match when they're in third grade I'll show you someone who's going to win in life period on the story Michael Jordan cries when he won or lost because he cared it's the best yeah I think pro athletes should cry pro athletes do cry they do I'm I don't you know I was at the game yesterday but I'm sure like I saw in the AFC NFC Championship game they zoom in they're crying it's called giving a [ __ ] MH it's just a game to you loser parrot it's not a [ __ ] game to me this was my life this [ __ ] volleyball game in fourth grade was my [ __ ] life [ __ ] you it's just a game everything's just a game [ __ ] you but the kids who are grown this got me pissed no it's good I mean it's like [ __ ] you it's just a game it's not just not Life's a game well it's all a game it's all [ __ ] game's a [ __ ] simulation it's a [ __ ] everything's a game don't tell me it's just a game you [ __ ] modern parenting [ __ ] of sucking Alpha's winning DNA out of them is a [ __ ] problem you didn't always

have this awareness no this I had no idea I was just living like most people so what does Gary think about Gary today and also let's say 10 years ago the same [ __ ] that I'm a nice dude that's competitive and hungry and nice and no I mean the self- talk not how you view yourself from an external side like how did the mind that you play like you said you were scared when you about to get in that fight and you had that moment like today I'd still be scared if I got into a fight if you and I had a fight right now which I would be willing to do would you yeah 100% I'm so crazy bro I'm I will fight you uh oh I'm serious I'll fight when are we doing this we need 60 people I need at least a pay-per-view though let's make some money if we're going to do it okay but like we get on the undercard under like if we did that right let's say this got weird and we just took it to the max I'd be scared shitless nothing I pain doesn't scare me at all you get knocked out you wake up reputation sure over everything I don't need to be [ __ ] walking around life and people being like what about be like [ __ ] like Los it like you know what I mean and so like I just think that it's no different than doing a podcast like walking in here I'm like look at all the names in the sign board and I'm like I'm going to do a better podcast than all those [ __ ] Drew Brees [ __ ] you know like that's how I think and so speech going into a business meeting and then what you know how that manifests you know some people hearing that are like what the [ __ ] it manifests in a beautiful way we're about to go do an event at a store whether one person shows up or 7,000 people showed up or anything in between I will give it everything right Dustin you know that like you've seen it you've seen me in front of 15,000 people and you've seen me go to a thing that we thought 50 people would be there and four people are there and I rip it regardless and I think that's people here like I want [ __ ] DW they're like oh that's nasty no it's good yeah it's good I love Drew Brees he's super nice especially Drew Brees the Jets beat him in a playoff game that made me very happy so Drew I have no angst the only time we ever played him that it mattered the Jets beat him so I and he's the most lovely guy so no problem there but what I mean by that is that's a good mindset and I think for some reason in the last 20 30 years we made it like it's bad mhm well his quote on that wall funny enough is how you do anything everything that's exactly what he wrote on our wall see I that's so cool and like yes so anyway you know that the inner talk to me is like I'm still the same person I'm very detached from My Success very I don't think I'm better than anybody I really don't I know that I'm good at business I know I'm a good communicator I know I have good work ethic but I don't think that makes me better than anyone I think humility is a is you know to your point um when you said that little thing earlier which means more to me than anything you saying I've seen it up close in person I like it that's what I live for so like you know when you see me at the airport right we did an event we're at a similar event I remember we ran into each other in the line right you know I think I might have even been on a call but it was still important to me like to like be able to like talk to you the first day we met and then we saw each other in the airport you know like those are the moments yeah obviously the dinner drinks we had the other day like those are the moments that's when you know and you know I don't know I just think that the inner dialogue is very similar I still want to step up and I want to take the last shot MH you know mhm you know that fear is amazing that currency now it I'm chill with my fear meaning again you've I think seen this Dustin you definitely know some of you seen like the second before I take the stage in front of 5,000 people I'm on my phone trying to like do some business or get some stuff done like I get into a Zone it's not a crippling fear it's just it's a humble currency it means hey [ __ ] f this is me talking to myself it doesn't matter what you've everever done yeah it doesn't matter if you [ __ ] the bed on this talk all those people are like you suck at speaking if your next business if your next 12 business decisions all fail it means you got worse you're not as good I love the Merit of life in business and that's the inner dialogue do you find that when

you're going through those moments and you look back at where you were to where you are have you noticed yourself kind of are you self- adjusting on that growth I'm sure of course consciously or just subconsciously much more subconsciously um is my belief um but consciously too like you know I think as a communicator I definitely consciously make sure that if I'm on a talk track that I create Clarity right this is why I like doing a podcast like this a clip might be out of context you know and so I definitely think about that I read all the comments I read comments and I read DMS so I have a sense of am I hitting the mark are people getting what I'm saying am I and anytime I'm misunderstood I take it on me I hate when people blame the audience yeah this is a good one actually for this show yeah I don't talk about this enough I hate when people blame the audience if you only have a thousand views that's not their fault I hear it all the time people are like they don't get me I'm tooo ahead of my favorite [ __ ] excuse I'm too ahead of my time no you're not people are just not interested in your [ __ ] like you know like I don't blame the audience and that level of accountability I think a lot about so when I see people misunderstand what I'm doing I create Clarity and ijust I'll give you a perfect example might garage sale videos you know when I read the comments they're like what the [ __ ] this [ __ ] multi millionaire is ripping people off they just at for they got a $50 item and it's eight bucks and he's nagging them down to 4 bucks you know for me I'm doing a show to teach people who only have $83 in their bank account how to get to the next place and for me it's not like I'm taking the items I'm buying a garage house and actually flipping them I'm giving them to my nephew to teach him entrepreneurship but you know I read the comments in the last episode I did I said by the way every dollar I save I'm going to make a donation to charity because not for any other reason I'm not overly worried about those comments I'm overly worried about the people that make those comments I want to suffocate out their excuse yeah I want to give them one less thing to say but what about this what about the gas what about the shipping fees what about eBay cost I'm like you mean costs of good of running a business like you know like I want to give them one last thing to say okay I don't see the angle to be cynical or complain or [ __ ] on instead what left is motivation and optimism [ __ ] it instead of sleeping into 11 this Saturday and doing nothing I'm going to wake up at 6:30 I'm GNA take 30 bucks and see how right or wrong Gary ve is and I can tell you by the hundreds of emails I've gotten in the last five years about it there are very few things I do in life that make me feel more fulfilled than my garage sale videos because the emails I get on the other side it feels great when real business people like yourself hit me up and say hey that thing you did about Tik Tok that really helped me or hey the blockchain like when you said 99% of nfts were going to go to zero that made me look at it differently and this helped me but when [ __ ] someone emails me and shows me a screenshot of their Wells Fargo of $49 and then they send me screenshots of their eBay account with $35,000 and they're like I went from $4 to $35,000 in a year going to thrift stores and [ __ ] garage sales because one of your videos there will never there I'm not sure I'm going to find it mhm because it really [ __ ] matters you Chang someone's life period the business person that help you have them on Tik Tok you didn't change their life you just gave them a little extra and listen I love it and by the way it does change lives it allows those people to do bigger things like but man to your point like [ __ ] it just hits different MH and I know that a stunning majority of the people that are watching here for not everybody only has $4 a lot of people have less they're massive debt and more importantly a lot of people are getting by and that here's the big one uh another good analogy this

morning my heart was so full because I saw so many videos and Recaps of dads and daughters watching the Super Bowl because of Taylor Swift will do a lot of things in her life the fact that she's going to bring daughters and dads together because of this football thing she may never top that it's so remarkable I have such flowers for her impact on that I love football and it's great that the sports a little more popular no no the amount of dads and daughters that are going to build their relationship off of this moment because a lot of the videos I've seen is like okay she's now watched football now I'm taking her not mom to her next Taylor Swift concert it's the best anyway to me those kind of things are just so important and so impactful and I just I think there's so many opportunities to bring positivity to the world and I just wish more people focused on it well that's a great segue to my last question before Rapid Fire

for all the entrepreneurs aspiring entrepreneurs people working in jobs that don't want to be an entrepreneur but just want to be the best version of themselves what are those couple things that you want them to start to think about consciously over the next 365 days so a year from today they're not in the same position living the same issues same uncertainties what are those traits that you think can be worked on should be worked on and aren't talked about enough cuz they're overlooked this is going to again seem nuanced and complicated but I think it will land especially if somebody's watching this is my intuition the number one way to get happier is to take on a 100% full accountability if you literally wake up this is very nuanced so I'm going to say nice and slow if you wake up and say everything is my fault when people hear that they think that will make you more unhappy I'm a piece of [ __ ] I'm a loser it's not true it is if you don't understand it which is why I'm breaking it down slow if you say everything is my fault you get optimistic in knowing that you can then fix it it's a big deal the reason I believe that I'm happy is because I think everything's my fault and so what happens is if you're blaming your parents which so many do you're in big trouble because guess what they had parents too so blame your grandparents you know vcon I said [ __ ] your grandparents and the whole crap I was like what the [ __ ] just happened I was like no but let me explain what I'm actually trying to say right which is you can't be mad at your dad knowing that your grandma [ __ ] him up and oh by the way there's great grandparents so I think it what I want for everyone is to be fully accountable it's like the amount of people that blame the president what a joke their parents I get it but it's not going to be productive the second you realize like sure you could have a lot of anxiety and resentment towards your mother but you're now grown and maybe instead of buying a new Xbox you can go do therapy meditation exercise and by the way you don't need to pay for things why don't you go outside and take a two-hour walk put on some headphones because I know you have those and listen to a podcast that's free this right here listen to it every day I'm not joking trying to get you some views listen this every day like it will like and so get positivity in your ears become full fully accountable to your life it's not the government or your parents fault it's they've put you in certain situations but you have the strength and capacity to make it better you just do and once that happens it becomes such a good life you're mad at your husband talk to him instead of being resentful and acting out go and have a coup's therapy session or if you can't afford it cuz I always hedge against that cuz again the comments going be like oh yeah therapy but 200 bucks okay how about just being kind and canderous to your spouse sit them down and be like I don't like when you do this I don't like that you're doing that I don't appreciate that after you're done with work you go hang out with your buddies like talk because then he or she may say well I don't like that and you know communication yeah get the poison out of your body that's another thing I would want get the poison out of your body that poison those feelings you've got to say them now if you wait until you're on Full Tilt and you're like Mom you're a [ __ ] piece of [ __ ] you [ __ ] me up that's not going to be productive right mom's not gonna be like oh thank you no you got to get into the right place to have these talks and they're not going to be receptive but I haven't been like in my life when people have come to me like it's not a natural like it's hard and I'm very accountable and even for me it's like I don't like that yeah you get defensive yeah like you know I don't like that but I've gotten really good at being like and I like it and like now I really appreciate the feedback and like we just all have to go there anyway accountability and kind cander communication on some of the [ __ ] that's inside of you and understanding the following sentence and if you do none of that I don't give a [ __ ] like I'm not your [ __ ] dad you're not my brother you know what I mean like I get so mad when people get mad at people that are trying to help them [ __ ] you okay knock yourself out sit in your [ __ ] room and be angry for the rest of your life what the [ __ ] do you want stand on your own two emotional feet I want it for you I will be out here doing [ __ ] like this forever like many by the way I'm not special there are many many of thousands of people out there navigating trying to put good [ __ ] out there right Y and uh you know you got to find the person that does it for you but like man complaining is [ __ ] loser [ __ ] it's dangerous it's self-deprecating well self-deprecating could be cute it's self yes ingest to your point but that's you know like comp but you know at least self-deprecation even in just or in reality there's a level of accountability that's like not loving yourself enough yeah complaining is my boss will never let me succeed are you out of your [ __ ] mind you're boss at a random company there's 87 trillion companies yeah quit oh easy for you to say Gary I have a mortgage I have this no okay so tonight instead of doing whatever the [ __ ] you're doing for four hours that isn't what I'm about to tell you go on LinkedIn and email a 100 people update your LinkedIn account post content about your expertise in financial services or in real estate or in Bagel making and let somebody find you can do [ __ ] yep and I'm not sitting here trying to motivate you this is a I actually get weird when people are like you're motivational I'm like I'm practical I'm not motivational I'm obsessed with practicality yeah like if you hate your job you can either drink alcohol to escape it you can find another loser friend and complain with them and be like or you could go home and pound LinkedIn until your next job comes that pays you more so you can leave or to your point you can take a self-awareness moment and say what am I doing at my job that is keeping me from growing you're going [ __ ] 301 I'm just trying to show them how easy it is to get away kudos to you took it up a notch yeah or you could be like why does this well maybe because I'm a gossip at the office and causing trouble no wonder [ __ ] boss is mad at me maybe because how about this one maybe because I know that I'm working home remote for three days a week and I'm really only working four hours you [ __ ] full of [ __ ] how about that one [ __ ] my job I'm like you don't work the [ __ ] do you want them to do most bosses and leaders they want their best talent if you're the best they're going to move you to the top and by the way let's go to the other side I know a lot of bosses hold down Talent that's better than them because they don't want them to jump them I know that yeah I'm thinking about it as a I know notice where I just jumped in sorry you're right no you're you're like me the only thing you care about is the logo I'm agnostic I don't care if you're my brother-in-law my best friend or somebody I met yesterday whoever can be the best player on the field this is why I'm going to win Super Bowls when I buy the Jets I'm agnostic no Em I'm going in on you got as possible I got it but you're talking like a Founder a lot of these people you're right seen it I've never been a boss I'm a founder and you know this you've seen it in your organization yes you've seen it I know it right now there are people right now in my company that I know are suppressing the person underneath them because is more talented I mean you're right so there's a lot of things but in that scenario that person that's being Sur even if they're right even if they're 100% right they're boss is doing it great go get another job mhm you can do it well that was great now we got to do

quick rapid fire let's do it three questions 30 seconds or less I got to answer in 30 seconds left this might be the biggest challenge of the entire podcast but I'm ready you got to stare in the camera one yes all right you ready yes if you had to distill your entrepreneurial journey into one key lesson what would it be patience over everything where do you see this attention trading future evolving the most into VR and AR I think the Vision Pro has given you a little bit of a preview like it technology won't stop now the phone is not going to be the remote control of our lives forever and last what is the biggest separator you see in the most successful entrepreneurs they're in it for the game most of you are chasing the trophy which is the money which is the car which is the girl the guy the vacation the house no question to me it's the people that are addicted to the game of Entrepreneurship that win well man I want to thank you for coming on this was awesome a huge fan of your message how you're leading

with you know be kind empathy humility those traits that get lost when you start to achieve certain levels of success and the fact that you hold them so loud and proud you are pushing that forward you are helping people you don't have to you're in a position in your life where you could do whatever the hell you want and the fact that you are spending as much effort and energy to come on shows like this travel around the world give back speak on stages obviously you don't need it from me but I want to say thank you brother and real quick because a lot we share a lot of audiences this way being kind and compassionate and sympathetic doesn't make you any less Alpha killer winner right like if you dissect this podcast we talked a lot about warm and fuzzy and I talked about punching OD dead Winestock in the [ __ ] face and yelling at parents to never again stop a kid from crying in a basketball game cheer them don't suck it out you can balance these two energies you could be a [ __ ] killer on the field but a nice person when the game hits triple zero and I'm up for the pay-per-view you're up for it I'm up for it did you grow up wrestling I boxed in college I'm you know what's so funny even hearing that I it like it's crazy how chemicals work even that became the logical sentence of like oh [ __ ] you're going to lose Gary this is like what incredible like confidence looks like you're a Jet fan I'm a jet well the Jets fan part is enjoying losing in the climb I'm talking about delusional confidence like my brain goes to like okay I own a sports agency that has a lot of UFC rep you know we rep a lot of people could I in three months learn enough skills to be able to mitigate a very substantial disadvantage on paper yes I can say hey more to come as we build up the hype for this fight pick it up pick a date I'm in love you thank you for coming on this was awesome thank you there was some nice little like Nuance

mixes four fourth grade sixth grade fighting that was good the Punch Kick I can literally tell you literally I can see odad and I was like and the funniest part was the next day in school there was like two kids that really h me up they were like tough kids from like the hood and they were hyping me in school and they're like and he [ __ ] he punched him right in his face and his [ __ ] face exploded and I was like [ __ ] man I really I kicked him I didn't punch him but I was like you know it's cooler if your punch is strong stronger so like fully went with it I'm like yeah we kids it was UFC you know what's crazy is like I really mean it like the reason everyone is so disrespectful is they're not scared to get punched in the face any black wall in here you want so you can yeah I'm going yeah I like it I'm going to think about this carefully get this out of you I left uh on the wall be kind be aggressive I think people struggle with this kind of like purple framework it's not red it's not blue it's purple you can be kind but you can be aggressive you can be hungry and ambitious and a winner and a [ __ ] Alpha and that doesn't have to compromise you being gracious and kind and not stepping on people there's just a way to do it and uh and I want more people to do it awesome thank you so much got it appreciate it thank you it was a really good episode thank you enjoy it fire man I was cracking up you guys had fun oh that was great that was what out awesome the message so I've got a 23 and a 25-year-old their asses are watching that as soon as it come mission accomplish yeah it's a real thing and it's really easy to say yeah this is the part that I really like I'm very empathetic when parents hear what I'm saying it's easy to say yeah but [ __ ] it's super real yeah like I don't say it from a place of naiv I literally watching kids in very bad spots m stop taking the money on their terms or the parent and the parent problem is hard because the kid not taking it is a oneperson conversation for a lot of parents one parent sees it one way and another sees it another way 100% of the time and that is really challenging and some people are unfortunate they're not together anymore so you have divorce parents that see it one way or the other and that's even D it's hard enough when you're together and married and you see it differently that's already hard but in a world where 50% isn't like and so you have these 22 23 24 year olds but I'm telling you brother I'm telling you the biggest issue is they believe that you don't think they can mhm it doesn't even have to be Brash it's like we genuinely believe that you're so capable MH and like if you burn to the ground what do you think we're not going to be here but [ __ ] man you can do this and there's something about like the confidence of like eating on your own efforts even if it's a humble meal it's just humility skin in your knee and it sucks you know it's going to be painful there and all of them are so worried about other people's opinions the reason a lot of these kids don't want to be 24 and go work at Best Buy for 13 bucks or 20 bucks an hour is they worried about the judgment and my whole thing is like [ __ ] man it's crazy the 22 to 30y Old me that worked in a liquor store every day and had friends who were 20 27 as I got to that age literally my high school friends a lot of them went the normal track and some of them started to make a little something of themselves I just really remember my late 20s and early 30s cuz they'd come to the store in a BMW working in Wall Street making a lot more money to me and some of them even like not even consciously cuz I hung out with like kids that were like really my homies but they couldn't help it they felt good about themselves and they're still [ __ ] dudes from Jersey that want a little Raz and there was little subtle like they wouldn't say directly in my face of like oh you work for your dad and like I make more money than you but there was like inuendo there was looks there was like subtle FL and I was such a [ __ ] Not only would I like absorb it and want it I would like go over the top I would like ring them up like I wasn't working the register I was like you know like I was helping on the floor selling expensive wine but if a friend came in I would ring them up I would then pack it I would then carry it to their car put in their car like I went all in to be the help it's great just for the fuel to walk back in my car and I'm like I'm going to [ __ ] destroy them in the long game tortois hair yeah and a lot of these kids need to un like literally I think a ton of 25y olds should read the tortoise in the hair MH like actually it's a winnable game yeah it's like anything that's important it hurts up front well it's backward right cuz school is you learn the lesson you take a test life is you take the test then you learn the lesson 100% so that's the challenge well the other thing is we didn't grow up in the social media area era like they did right and so I think his self-confidence has been crushed from social media I desperately argue against this let me explain okay I just told you a story of my childhood with no social media mhm yes they have more exposure we're you know how old are you 54 you look great so what you don't remember that the opinions of s to 12 people in your circle were your whole life uhuh as a matter of fact I would argue social media gives you the opportunity if you choose to have it better because you can find other people to associate with imagine being a bad student in a very highly academic family in 1984 where you're getting C's and D's and everyone in the family is getting straight A and you feel like [ __ ] M you feel like a complete piece of [ __ ] but now you can go on the internet and find Gary B who's like [ __ ] these n FS you're like oh wait a minute like they have the op it depends on what you're looking for yeah I really believe that you know how they interpret it and by the way and parents are like oh you [ __ ] got to go skin your knee and [ __ ] all this I'm like the part of you cutting them off financially is that goes back to fighting I didn't get into it cuz the story took over the reason I believe in fighting is it's a natural organic way to teach ramifications and results yeah you get you you're a smartass and that kid doesn't like it you're fighting you get beat up you may be more respectful the next time yeah it's over the one that I can't wrap my head around is we don't ground kids like all my friends were punished when I was a kid forever I was always grounded I was grounded 247 yeah tell me my kids help me that first of all it's amazing how what is the ground I do ground my kids I what do you mean uh what's the punishment give me a for instance sure uh you can't go out with your friends in the house Electronics are gone school related uh and then every day you have an extra chore and you have to help your other siblings your kids are crazy lucky he's got five so bro your kids are lucky and are you guys good at like holding it down or do you absolutely it's huge militant look it's just going to work it's going to [ __ ]