How To Overcome Your Fear Of Communication

before you start working on dealing with judgment one must stop judging if you're one to judge you're going to be susceptible to valuing the concept of judgment attention is the number one asset what else can I answer for everybody before I bounce off to this thing question I was going live daily to say hi to people who would be on my live I had a great format but felt like it was getting old how do I innovate on live Joe I think it's about changing up the content this is a big game of it's kind of like outfits like if you wear the same clothes every day it's harder for people they may like that they may like your outfit but like at some point it just becomes noise you got to mix it up and like I thing most people don't um mix it up does Tik Tok feel like old YouTube at all I mean I think there's similarities to what you see on YouTube and Tik Tok just because there's so much youth on it and youth has a specific energy and a genre and things they talk about and energy uh and so that's you know that's that question how do you all audit your posts and contents what's your main kpi for social do you use social media management software or post natively on platforms I'm a big believer in Native like to me it's about reach it's about awareness it's about understanding if it's getting to people and it's understanding the sentiment like the comments like what people feel about it you know I think it's a big factor so um how can I learn to effectively communicate like you practice I've been practicing talking my whole life I talked in class I talked after school I talked to grown-ups I talked to kids you know this is I'm 48 This is 40 five 43 years in the making when I was 5 years old there's a great story my mom always tells that I used to go out with my great-grandfather Shia and we take me out to the neighborhood in Queens and I would just chat up old dudes like all day just chatter box all day and chill and just jam with them and like talk talk and so I love people and so I just need to practice do you think it has anything to do with well caring about the other person's opinion that's has a lot to do with well yeah I think a lot of people are shy or introverted because they're scared yeah and so to your point I think a lot of people are scared of other people's opinions and I'm empathetic to that and so you know this fear is my great enemy yeah so yes I'm willing to talk because I'm not worried about the Judgment but like my post this morning I also think before you start working on dealing with judgment one must stop judging you know this about me and you like this is real talk this can help them if you're one to judge you're going to be susceptible to valuing the concept of judgment because I don't judge I mean a human of course I but you know this like you really know me now it's not like everyone here like they know meish you know me it's not my zone it's not where I go I just don't jump to conclusions I don't know what's going on in people's lives and we are at the height of judgment right now people do it as a sport people go on their in socials and not even on socials in life people feel like appropriate to say [ __ ] to people now we've lost civility and we're deploying judgment and so you're deploying what I deem as a negative energy thus making you susceptible to the negative energy because you value the Judgment because you're judging so you think your judgment is valuable you then are overvaluing other people's Judgment of you and becomes a self-filling circle of [ __ ] so stop [ __ ] judging people and find out how lovely that will be for your own life how about deploying like nice and joy and like it's a [ __ ] Boomerang you [ __ ] get what you give it's real [ __ ] talk my advice Britain run just said my advice to somebody moving to New York for the first time um eliminating fear people don't listen to anyone because everyone's going to tell you New York is scary roommates are a good idea um but like really being as social as you can take advantage of New York's greatest power which is the people and again if you're not disappointed by people hurting your feelings you can get there