Empowering Your Kids: How to Help Them Build Resilience

so I left my house when I was 12. I started my own business at 23. wow very successful at the salons hair massage everything good for you my son he started his own business okay we're by Big Heads because he comes to meet her advice and I just know my way I tried you tell him right you know but he doesn't want to listen yeah everything about the business season either so of course it's kind of bad right but it's too bad I've watched your videos and you're like no you know everyone doesn't know everything that's right but I think I know everything I'm a Latina so you know how that goes fair enough right so what's the problem should I stop or just encourage should you stop telling him your thoughts no you shouldn't tell them what to do you should tell them how you would do it and then let him decide how he will do it based on how you would do it sometimes that's the only good thing that's the part that [ __ ] Mom's up you don't want him to fall in his ass the best thing that can happen to him is he falls on his ass even if he goes into of course of course it's hard it's not your principle but you but if you let him go in debt first of all if you're telling him everything that he's doing wrong and he starts going into debt slowly he's going to know that you are right and he's not going to go as deep into debt as you think look you can't over you he can't have it both ways he can't just have to sit back and watch yes he inhabit both ways right he can't be [ __ ] on Mom and that's wrong but also asking for like going into like he's gotta he's got to live on his own you definitely did if you left the 12 and did your thing you made a [ __ ] ton of mistakes of course I know what you mean which is why I'm telling you it's the flip of what you think every second you're over protecting him is more of him becoming a losing fighter debt is good for him he has no other option what are you going to over coddle him to the grave no so he's going to end up being insecure because he's gonna think his mom never believed in him and more importantly he's gonna end up being insecure because he is seeing through your actions that you're over coddling him thus meaning you don't think he can do it he's better off losing than having a mom that doesn't think he can do it yeah losing is good you're right you got it yeah yeah yes I'm like six months in around this business you're not all motivated do you love it yeah I love it well then that's good yeah even the way you just reacted like just talking to your mom having that context like what are you scared of failing not like actually what other people think almost of course it's also like lonely of course it's extremely lonely it's real lonely out here for entrepreneurs couple things one you'll always lose in life if you overvalue them it it's a wrap you're gonna have to start practicing getting like you have to fight for that you have to really meditation reading positive things in your ears whatever the [ __ ] it is exercise I don't know what it is you gotta practice having them judge you have to have to then it starts getting Less Lonely Too once you get over that first hump what ends up happening is when you're not scared you become more vulnerable and open and more [ __ ] starts coming to you when you're scared you're blocking people you're blocking energy you're like well yeah you don't want to talk to anybody you're scared if they're gonna be like you're a dork of course you're like I got a t-shirt exactly but I respect that more you're doing thank you you're doing foreign like I [ __ ] stock shelves in a store for [ __ ] 20 years of my life before I did anything wow is right thank you so much you're welcome brother thank you have a great day you understand why don't you get over that part it all comes