You're More In Control Than You Realize

if you told me 15 years ago that I needed to talk about it I would have laughed you out of the room you're so lucky if you're a party every day it becomes boring especially if it's a party I've seen it a lot well I don't believe you Gary I'm like because you don't know me oh my boss is quit well I can't I have bills to pay Gary it's poking and so people don't want it it's fine yet it's life changing 2018 when you were coming to the Expo in Sharjah yes I remember I went back because I know I'm a guardian people just enjoy life depression and I told you that I'll see you in three years it's been probably five now good for you I'm so happy too I'm proud of you it's amazing yeah good for you and um I love that content so I never get an answer of your company which is what I think battling through which both are amazing yeah I think it's a game of what are you built for self-awareness yeah it's all self-awareness accountability huge it was a change of my life when I saw comfort about accountability 100 so wonderful to hear you say that I am fascinated by how people respond to when I talk about accountability it's poking and so people don't want it yet it's everything it will do so much for people it's life-changing and right now the world is going the other way it's telling you what every single thing is bad and everything social media traditional media politics Society is pushing everyone to see the thing they should blame for their unhappiness and the second you go to accountability all your happiness starts to build money that's a little bit longer sometimes of course you know I'll shut everybody out yeah but the problem is I'd Rather Be Lonely with myself and accountability than to have people around me that are pushing non-accountability having Circles of energy all those friends the media your feed your friends who are pushing blame and envy and jealousy I'd rather be by myself in accountability yes yeah to me it's like as I go through my journey you know you go around the world you have conversations I'm always paying attention I spend my time listening and then I'm able to talk that's why I like q a reading my messages because it enables me to know what to talk about if you told me 15 years ago that I needed to talk about accountability I would have laughed you out of the room I would say why everyone knows that's real I could have never anticipated the world being so effective of eliminating accountability when I'm all wrapped up I'll make that decision but what's cool is I'm really have a genuinely enjoyed every different chapter I do think the V friends thing has very substantial potential for me because I really love storytelling it's why garyvee has done well but this is a whole universe so I'm genuinely excited about that I think the future of marketing is the history of marketing which is wherever the consumer's attention is whoever understands where it is fastest and best and knows how to fill that attention with stories in video written or picture form will have the most upset right I mean all that I'm doing right now with social media is what the Pioneers of Television did in the 1950s and 60s that's all it is the concept of debating would you rather be by yourself and your accountability versus being around humans or energy that are looking for eliminating accountability and you know friends that come with energy that is in the blame game versus yourself and you and your accountability that's different than saying friends who are also reinforcing positivity and accountability is even better than you by yourself but friends who are pushing Envy blame and jealousy that's what's happening we are in scaled blame Envy jealousy the Jeb we've got to eliminate the Jeb the jealousy envy and blame you know where people struggle something can be true but not have to destroy you it can be true that you're being suppressed your bosses you it could government boss is trying to undermine you but it doesn't mean that it should ruin you there isn't a human that's ever walked this Earth that hasn't had negative energy against them the question becomes what do you do with it I mean look at the energy of the UAE you can move here you could that's the accountability thing like oh my boss is me quit well I can't I have bills to pay Gary get a different job so instead of coming home and like venting for six hours you could be on LinkedIn for three hours that would set up your job but a lot of people would rather go and get on Xbox or like call their mom or go to the bar and drink their worries away or keep watch sports to distract them or whatever it is it's easier my dad was in such a I wouldn't have no self-esteem to quit my job cool but like what are you gonna do that until you die but I think that's also fine it's fine look I'm all about a pity

party we all have to have them even I have pity parties in my own head once every decade but if you're a party every day it becomes boring especially if it's a pity party my big thing on this is this comes from a deep place of compassion and empathy and sympathy this is not coming from a place of crudeness or no care I just have not seen it ever work out in the concept of scale dwelling I've just never seen it work out it's not like you just dwell your way to happiness you can't throw a pity party all the way in and miraculously the 80th day you're like now I'm fixed you're just digging a deeper grave on the flip side I've seen people completely and utterly transform with accountability like 37 years seeing the world one way one year of pounding yourself with accountability and waking up and just seen it a lot 7 20 30 40 Good Times which is amazing gives me enormous passion to keep doing it and it's also that people don't know that they are doing it correct by the way every human being is doing things that they can't see in themselves I like to pride myself in being incredibly self-aware I think about it every day it is the pillar that I speak on and I've done many things in the last decade where I wake up and I'm like wait a minute I didn't realize I wasn't being cameras for two decades and that it was causing me shortcomings and vulnerabilities I thought I was doing a good thing but I was not hurting people's feelings and thought I was putting a lot of effort to making it good I thought I was doing good I'm not going to hurt their feelings but we're still going to get to a good outcome my own expense but it's not as good you know for me to go through that was a hard Revelation and so yes I understand your parents were alcoholics yes I understand that there's sexism and racism and religious persecution I understand all of that to be true you can do something people in North Korea can't do anything they can escape North Korea they can even do something people try to escape the Soviet Union people take little tiny boats from Cuba people try to cross the border into South Korea people risk their life to change their outcome they feel like you're not aware of the actual circumstances here but when you say that they get include it and they feel like oh okay he's aware this is great yeah and I also never try to convince people that I'm aware or I'm never hurt by people not realizing how much I think about it because that's their reality you know I think the thing that people struggle with is they try to convince I think what's making everything work for me and be sustainable is I'm not trying to convince I'm really not even like an interview some for like your advice like I don't even think of it as advice I genuinely know I think I'm just communicating and hoping it's like a hope that it may trigger a different perspective shift the other thing that's tough right now is back to pointing fingers versus accountability is people projecting things about people they don't know they're like you have it so good because you're rich like oh you're so lucky well I don't believe you Gary I'm like because you don't know me you can't believe I get that you know hard work is part of the equation you could be born outrageously beautiful if you don't go to the gym and if you don't have discipline and what you consume you're not going to be able to be a model that makes money on brand deals like it's just real life the person doesn't exist that hasn't put hard work into the equation it doesn't exist that's something the world has to wrap its head around otherwise it's woe is me I was born with this I got unlucky it's unbelievable how big dwelling has become cultural it was like unheard of in the 90s it's also hard to document the mundane and even when you do people don't believe it I've documented my full days and people are like this isn't true in the comments this is fake how how's it fake I think there needs to be more responsibility on the consumer of her not the producer of I do think there's a huge responsibility to produce her up that's why I don't show a lot of things but again I actually on this subcenter think it's another version of blame why don't we just all assume that everyone did put in work I do huge game of accountability but when I see anybody I'm like they worked I think people are asking for something that they're not deploying they want that person that influence or whatever to deploy empathy for them yet they're not deploying empathy or compassion to that person right show me your vulnerability cool makes sense but to me why decide someone is perfect when I literally look around the room my brain goes into thinking about how many different things may be a struggle for them compassion it's a very opposite view it's so weird foreign