Is Social Media Good For The Youth? | Gary Vaynerchuk Original

i'm afraid what are we doing to our young people no stop over we're not doing jack [ __ ] this is what's happening there's no we are doing this is the reality of human evolution how can i stop feeling insecure about myself online why do i feel like everyone online hates me how do i keep my child safe from the dangers of the internet what can i do to protect myself don't want to [ __ ] get posted what advice are you telling your kids about the internet okay you know what though gary you're a dad what are you gonna do when your daughter is 14 and she's locked in her room desperate to make selfies and videos that people care about when she walks out of room and says no one likes me in this world i think about this a lot this is my number one thing that i'm most passionate about period in the end the world number one way to protect the child is to build their self-esteem guess what you suck at a ton of good so does everybody else you're also probably pretty rad at something try as many things as possible until you figure out what you're rad at and you like and go do that for the rest of your life most of all what i care about is trying to have a conversation around self-esteem eliminating envy completely tuning out the judgment of others who have no context on your actual truth and trying to find a way to live within the means of your reality i actually fear kids that are really good at school or really good looking i'm being serious because their entire framework from the world is getting affirmation from those two things so the very attractive when they start hitting that 40s 50s 60s 70s go into some very dark places because if the world has been telling you this is why you're good you're like [ __ ] like right your number one responsibility if you care about somebody underneath you whether that's your child or your student or your teammate or whatever your number one responsibility is to understand what you're affirming what we cheer for our children become their framework if we cheer that they're so good looking they start to find value in their looks and become vulnerable in their 50s and 60s and 70s and 80s if we cheer for their sports acumen and like they're going to be a pro and then they're not they're lost at 22. when a child is not insecure they don't succumb to danger if you make her confident in who she is that she's amazing the way she is she will not succumb to other people and that is how she will navigate ultimately i believe the biggest miss in the world is people focusing on things that don't matter and underestimating the things that matter focusing on most and building up self-esteem around that and then suffocating and muting the stuff society values because in reality long-term it doesn't matter as much we are strong as [ __ ] we're really [ __ ] strong we're just being sold that we're not because there's a lot of money in telling us that we're not pretty enough thin enough smart enough good enough [ __ ] that i want to tell you you're the [ __ ] best go do [ __ ]