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log I'm in San Francisco in a couple hours I'll be in Portland for a big meeting and fun kind of talk here with Microsoft a fireside chat so may lead me into some new places so I'm sure d-roc and I are both optimistic that I might talk about something new because when you have 12 15 23 foundational beliefs the only way you get new stuff is QA or when new platforms emerge like tic toc or when new cultural things happen like slime or Linkedin becomes organic reach so I'm a byproduct of a changing behavior graph with 23 things I believe in I'm not gonna use 23 22 cuz [ __ ] Michael Jordan

there's nothing more important than not allowing your parents to have any leverage I mean it parents give money because they want control so my number one advice to Millennials in the way that you asked it is to not rely on parents and then number two took one to buy time we actually have our whole lives backwards you should be doing the most high-risk high-reward work from 20 to 30 the problem is that's when everybody expects you to grow up I think and grow up has transferred in on modern society to save I mean I think that everybody under 30 should be tasting everything to get a better sense of what they're interested in so I'd like you to call your parents and tell them if they are or they may not be I don't want any more money from you and then I want you to go on a plane and go to Scotland for no reason listen I get tens of thousands of DMS from kids that are in their 20s and 30s that have deep underlining resentment and depression because their parents are quietly paying for their lives which I then tell them like don't take the money jerk but there's nothing there's almost nothing worse than a parent subsidizing secretly their child's grown-up life it leads it will eventually be exposed and talked about and I can't wait because a lot of the underlining depression that is confusing people is actually coming from those sources and it's even scarier when you dig underneath it because what you start realizing is parents want to posture in front of their friends that little Sallie and Johnny are doing well and that's why they're riding a BMW or have a business when quietly they're the ones paying for it if you don't stand on your own two feet and you're a grown-up me sad Thanks as a father of three girls

yes by creating fake environments it's like accountability is the framework of happiness and that is just not the current belief of parenting hey guys sorry to interrupt your video I'm just giving you this call for my number to let you know that you have to join my text community to one two nine three one five seven three one hit me up with a text give them social media no a hundred percent really 100 percent kidding me of course stop them because that's it that's right that's it inevitable if they're unable to do give them the tools emotionally to deal with judgment not keep them away from tick-tock got it quantifying giving them the ability to quantify feedback and the way kids get confidence is actually by doing things on their own merit not by the subsidization of their parents of them diseases other percent like it's a very big deal brother like use a quarter girls age of 1200 yeah and like and they have extra dynamics of judgment from a physical standpoint things of that nature but it's gonna come down to there when you pay and create fake you know feedback it just leads to entitlement which creates vulnerability and fear yeah you're lucky that it's so early all right father to father I've got two kids a teenage to a 15 year old daughter dirty old son my son might not make it to 14 but that's a different story so my doubt you a lot of what you preach is about like not giving a [ __ ] about what other people think right my daughter is really [ __ ] good at that that's awesome no because she becomes condescending no delusional wow that's a great it's not that she doesn't care but there's no empathy or kindness behind it so she doesn't have compassion yes okay did everybody anybody yeah has she started feeling the ramifications socially too that she doesn't care that's the problem for now no doubt and so I think look I think it's a very fine line look radical candor around love and she's not going to she's 15 yeah but being consistent on delivering it not out of frustration but just a constant tone is what you want to know that's I'm at frustration because I can see the mistake she's making right I see the friends leaving her die on your own sword meaning communicated with empathy honey over vinegar is always the delivery mechanism of information that matters my wife and I are trying to figure out the balance of honey on a dagger yeah and sometimes parents divide and conquer my recommendation and I'm starting to do it already I'm starting to get into it with my kids 10 and 7 as well I believe that it's a very challenging as we love them don't go with the hunt here's the story honey you notice how Kelly doesn't hang out with you anymore it's because you weren't compassionate to her and one day you know it's a whole one day you're gonna really like there's gonna be a problem instead of going with that that's me right now right that's whatever that's why I'm good I know that's where you are that's where everyone goes I think you go with like honey you do you know you I'm observing and I'm actually wildly neutral on this even though I'm your dad cuz I love doing this is what's happening I know that you know you they're not going to admit it to me now because you're my daughter I know you know if there's any way I can help in tweaking it or if you ever want my outside observation which you don't want now let me know that's a great way of saying it but now you're delivering it in a way where you're talking even not down and nobody likes being talked down to especially kids and that's a really good open opportunity for her to come in and you leave it yeah and when I deliver that which I will and I've done it for executives best friends and eventually I'll do it with my kids I don't need the Molina net you can see what I did there I bring the framework for them to lean in the third time it happens and now they're frustrated and then I [ __ ] I better go to dad cuz he set up that opening cuz right now you're scolding down you see and we try hard and I believe you I can tell it's funny even if they're not scolding it's still going this way absolutely and I think the way to win 15 year old what's-her-name Ava 15 or old Ava wants it if you go this way there's a switch that happens that gives you a shot Ava promise me one thing don't listen to dad you know what you're doing but kindness always wins in the end

end Dallas awesome and so one thing I've heard you touched on a lot and when come into depth into with jay Shetty yes was having no expectations and that will help you be more grateful yes preciate it yes I think my personal life I've seen that yes how do we translate that into the workplace where we are so interdependent on other people that's a really good point so you know where that has bit me in the ass is not holding people accountable on merit which has been an evolution because I'm truly back to what I said earlier about like employees should if they own the same amount I probably took it too far and when I correct it I'm always better I think look I think where it gets tricky is when you're dependent on a partner and then you're being affected by it by a boss who she or he may not have all the context one becomes frustrated I think it just becomes this is one big game of communication and then being at the mercy of the company like everybody here is and you need to understand that like you know and that's okay but the way you do it is you either have the courage to have a fruitful but kandra's conversation with the person that's letting you down with the people above you what most people do it's amazing to me i watch people who hadn't been in my company for seven years I have a real relationship with but they would rather you know vent on slack or in the boys bathroom then come and talk to me for five minutes to address it people really enjoy complaining because a lot of people actually are fascinated you know people really enjoy the crutch of having something to blame that's the best part of being an employee like what sucks about entrepreneurship is it's your fault every single problem at vaynermedia is 100% my fault I've empowered the people or I myself I'm doing it the best part of all of you sitting here is you can blame someone it's [ __ ] fun you know like it's why we love having parents you blame them [ __ ] up [ __ ] you know so I think it's about communication and then you're at the you know one of the reasons I think veiners had success at its end I'm genuinely not short-term financially motivated and I genuinely view myself as the logo and I don't care if somebody's been with me for ten years or one day as a matter of fact I would argue that every time there's a beef between somebody senior and somebody underneath I be fought subconsciously to believe in the person underneath because I believe the person above has more to lose it's not always true obviously I've gone millions of times in both ways but a lot of companies just are top-down organization thank you so much