#1 Thing for an Intern or College Student to Do | 2018 Summer Interns Fireside Chat

hey guys two days ago the vaynermedia interns came and spent a half an hour with me it ended up being about 40 minutes or I don't know actually will see officially in the time below but it was it really just clicked and kind of Alex Campbell I've just kind of looked at each other and we're like let's put this out and let's put it out ASAP so if you're ending your internship or you have somebody doing an internship or for next year's internship or just in general if you're navigating life in the early stages of the dawn of your career watch this video I made a video that went pretty viral a couple years ago like I couldn't believe more in like the people aspect of all this there's nothing you learned from any but I don't give a [ __ ] how hands-on or how much you actually you've done none of it is even remotely close to as ry+ as like the people you meet especially you know I don't know how young or where you guys are but like if some of you come back and intern again next year work here or somewhere else if you're lucky enough to get into a place like a vaynermedia and there's many planning we have our unique cultures and I think things that are very much an anomaly but let's just talk about a growing company that's going to be an industry leader like it's crazy to me that some of the people you're working for right now are literally gonna be the CMOS of the biggest companies in the world like people just don't understand how life actually works and like how actually this all plays out hey this actually plays out is it's going to only be about the people like the skills are commoditized there's a lot of people that gonna be able to do what you do but like who you meet and how they play out and like more importantly because of the uniqueness of our company who the people that you're working with become like do you ever see those crazy like documentaries were like Spielberg and Lucas and like [ __ ] you know all those guys like hung out together right or like what I grew up in Silicon Valley like I would have dinner and be like Zuckerberg and Travis remover like there's moments in time and an advertising or communication if that's what you give a [ __ ] about that moment in time is vaynermedia people here now lots of these people will go on and be the CEOs of agencies or brands or things of that nature and I could you know it might be tough at a young age you might it's tough at an older age like you may not be extroverted it might feel weird to say hello but like in your last week or what have you liked as much cafeteria time as much like hello as much as you can like muster up literally hi um I believe in it the most the high arm in the elevator like first of all we have a good culture like it's less scary to say hello to somebody cold here than other places I don't think we're perfect and I you know but like to me I'd want to legitimately fire anybody who's not gonna be nice unless they're dealing with a real tough issue in their life at that moment where they won't at least say hey they may be busy or might be shy or you know might not love to be interpersonal fine but it's less scary here to say hello cold in the cafeteria or you know walking up the stairs in production or whatever and so couldn't push you more if you get anything out of this like that one random hello that this mustards out could literally be the whole [ __ ] thing just could just is actually I think that's my advice and we've talked about this a little bit in the Vayner sports stuff like that's my advice for when you go back to school like probably my favorite talk I've given in the last couple years was to the UF's to the USC football team for many reasons one Sam Donald went on to become the Jets quarterback and so we became friends because of that so that's awesome but way more was you know I speak a lot I do this a lot and you can always tell when you hit a nerve there's a moment in that USC football talk where I tell them I'm like you guys are [ __ ] idiots you think you're so cool cuz you're on the USC football team meanwhile 99% of you this is the highlight of your life apex is it everything after not making the NFL is gonna be downhill and you're walking into these [ __ ] classrooms and 60% of those kids are gonna go on to do real [ __ ] and you think you're too [ __ ] cool and you're putting your beats by dre on and your [ __ ] hoodie and not looking anybody in the eye and think you're somebody and your life is gonna suck [ __ ] for the next 50 years because you didn't say hello to the kids sitting next to you who went on to [ __ ] run Disney that is the best piece of advice I can give you like when you go back to school like say hello to everybody people as people are the ROI of life so it's cool that you got like better at analytics or like real life experience of talking to a client commodity you would have gotten at some point anyway whether you can do it or not cool but like actually becoming friends with each other in here like actually not like when the slack channel dies like everybody in here can help the other person potentially in a real significant way you know 80 percent

of you especially if you don't get into this company we're gonna have jobs you [ __ ] hate right out of school and the other person's gonna have something they like and they could be the one recommending you in people questions you can go anywhere by the way like very specific to your own [ __ ] like please go anywhere yes that's a great question one that doesn't happen very often and I'll tell you why it's the same reason if you look at I don't know how much you guys have consumed to me or not all my bravado me cutting people off like all the things I do they're very obvious it's cuz I only stay in the lane of what I know like you would die like when my wife and I meet like a new-school couple and we go out to dinner and like I'm trying to be a cordial dinner guests and I'm trying to meet people and they start talking about a subject matter you'd laugh on how quiet I can get I'm not interested in talking about [ __ ] I don't know it things are very clear to me like making a decision about my business this is what I [ __ ] do right so it's not like I'm always in clarity mode if I don't know I go through a process like if you know if emily is having a huge you know argument with Brian saw and I need to figure it out and I don't have a feel cuz a lot of times I do 50 60 % I already have my assumptions and knowledge cuz I'm interacting with people at scale I'll just go through the process right I'll meet with other people like but like making decisions comes natural to me mainly cuz I'm not scared of the loss the biggest vulnerability everybody has here is they're worried about somebody else's judgment the reason there is no moment of clarity is you don't want to jump you don't to jump because you're worried if you lose what people gonna say starting with your parents your friends your contemporaries my ability to not truly care about other people's opinions has been the foundation of my happiness I respect people's opinions I just don't care about their judgment of me I flip-flopped about project management at vaynermedia like so many times and I don't worry if somebody hears like make a decision or like you're stupid or like what the [ __ ] or why are we always change it like go work at great advertising got it to an obstacle or challenge no because I think the subtlety that people struggle with is I don't care about buying the Jets I care about trying to buy the Jets I'm in love with the process my ROI is the process so the insurmountable thing is the best part you know there's also nothing insurmountable when you really live a life of like as long as nine people don't die or get you know diagnosed with terminal death like sentences everything else is really [ __ ] simple I you know I couldn't community for this sinesses like some of you may know this though most of you haven't had the luxury of getting close to me but like some that are starting to get close to me who have been very close to me nobody leaves that what they see on video is who I actually am I mean just but that doesn't bother me like that will eventually be exposed or not like people get close to me that I don't have control over their opinion I mean Caleb's gonna really know me soon already really does is somebody who consumed a lot of my content and the deltas extraordinary I guess where I'm going with that is nothing's insurmountable this is just life like my fear my kryptonite is like the big one is my wife driving my kids and getting hit by a Mack truck and they're dead like that's like [ __ ] like that's like am I in a one-year cloud forever cloud like I don't have a sense yet what happens with my great first true tragedy right for a long time I feared the [ __ ] out of my parents dying I'm over that hump maybe I just got enough time to be frank you know maybe I'm just so grateful to be 42 and have like I'm pretty in a good spot like I'm just in that place I mean I stay really cry about it now that's been transposed

to my wife and kids right but even that I'll be honest with you man to be very frank I don't know how not to default into gratitude I default into like what if Lizzy and I weren't able to have kids and I would have never even had that time it goes into a very like my wiring and then my practicing of my wiring is just like the inability to dwell I don't think anybody has control over me I never worry about my family the government the president any of it I don't dwell I just think I'm in control so how do you feel what how does something feel insurmountable when you know your income when you know you're in contrivance a thought like notice like that was even interesting to me when you know you're in control like what are you complaining about fix it you don't like the school you're going to and your parents made you go there quit don't go what's gonna happen you're not gonna talk to your parents for two years cool like you'll then talk to them like my biggest thing right now with youth is do what you want because if you're appeasing your parents you're gonna resent them and be regretful your whole life and then you're not gonna actually have a relationship with your parents I look at I spend all my time looking at old people not young people old people have played and when old people hate their old parents because they did what their parents wanted I'm like that's wrong [ __ ] it have the problems now with your parents for 24 36 48 months and then here's the good news then it's merit if you were right that you're actually a rapper not a lawyer if you became a successful rapper they're gonna be proud as [ __ ] if you don't well then guess what they were right at least that you weren't a rapper maybe you're still not a lawyer but the merit of the game will play out to many people in their youth want both they want to claim that their parents are full of [ __ ] or this is wrong but they don't want to take the jump into what they claim and so you want both you want a [ __ ] on the establishment but you're not willing to take the risk to prove if you're good enough then you're full of [ __ ] not bad yeah but it's super easy out here once it gets quiet brother once you can't hear anything it gets super easy out here what's the number one piece of advice you wish you had done when you were our age or something that you would have done differently I probably could have enjoyed my 20s a little more like I don't think you guys understand how real my propaganda of my youth is I did nothing but worked like all of you had more fun this weekend than I had between eighteen and twenty nine that's weird so I think I went too far the other way you know like an Ibiza or Coachella would have probably been good for me none of that exists for me you know but I think I don't regret it because it's my truth but in hindsight like nothing is good when it's out of balance and like I was a hundred and seven like I literally lost all my friends like not out of like loss because I'm a good guy and they're good and it was nice but like with there was no modern technology there was no smart phone and so like I just [ __ ] checked out and just worked in a liquor store for a decade without putting up my head you think that helped get to where you are now a hundred percent and do you think well to answer her question I used to think that but now in hindsight I do think one [ __ ] weekend or even one week in the summer probably in hindsight wouldn't have changed the outcome but at the time I didn't think that and so if I would do something different I would have taken one trip but I'm talking one trip like I worked you know retail is weird I worked the weekends like whenever was like everyone's here like all what a tough week I'm like what if you had to work all day Saturday and that was the most intense day because that's what it was in retail that was the day right and suntanned because I worked like 7:00 a. m. to like 11:00 p. m. Sunday was like sleep in like I literally woke up at like 10:30 11 12 and like hung out with AJ you know like like even like you know one of things I regret is in essence how I treated the two girls I dated the most during that time because it was just literally like checking the box to have companionship because it was just like 100% business you know so but at the same token the reason I don't talk a lot about that is I think everybody else all of you for example all of you are way too far any other Delta if you have substantially ambitions if you don't that's cool like my own thing always is like if you want to make a hundred thousand a year have great work-life balance like cool but like too many kids are talking right now about billionaire and millionaire and crushing it and dominating and just nowhere close to putting in the pieces

of training themselves for what it's gonna take you know I don't think people understand what a 1% life means it means 1% actions to your point you have to sacrifice a lot and by I don't think that's right I think it's right for me because it was my calling it was in my head every minute you have to be self-aware but I think part of self-awareness is not to talk [ __ ] you know about what you're gonna do because then you're putting yourself in you've got to back up your actions one of the biggest reasons I want kids to talk less [ __ ] is cuz they're putting themselves into a [ __ ] trap you're talking a big game everybody heard it now you feel the social pressure to deliver on it but you don't have the [ __ ] chops or the willingness or appetite to actually do it which I think then just needs one great you know blog post or video or you know piece of content that makes you admit that I don't think you're in a trap you just have to acknowledge it nice hey Jay do this for a whole group that's awesome that makes me happy was talking like old war stories yes a lot actually so I actually would disagree with AJ I don't think our age gap was the driver I think empathy and compassion and true love over money is really that being said it probably didn't hurt because it probably allowed him even though he's competitive and alpha-2 maybe concede certain things to me because of how far along I was and where I could rely really always played the one a to his one be for real unlike the friction my dad and I had where we both tried to be two cooks in a kitchen so I played both I know what it looks like to have consensus of partners and not so I've got a lot of context for it AJ told me a lot actually and which so I think I've evolved quite a bit in being more having more radical candor and shooting it straight I'm so positive that I don't like confrontation and negativity which I think led to me handling a lot of things wrong in my youth where I wasn't I would try to like I feel like if I you know the cliche thing like the girl trying to turn around the bad boy and that's like the kind of boy she likes I feel like I have that gear too I feel like I'm always on a charity case or like if somebody's not good enough like I'm gonna help them or if they work at Vayner they'll be happier and more successful and I've brought enough shoulders to create that environment because they won't be successful out there without me and I think I miss played that and I think AJ is a very straight shooter and watching him manage that closely it rubbed off on me I think AJ also back to the earlier question is dramatically more into smelling the roses and enjoying success and having some sort of work-life balance you know and I think that rubbed off on me as well a little bit during our time together uh you know another thing that stands out is that really work then it's probably why I you know I wish you guys could feel the way I feel towards you I was such a whiz kid that I respected AJ from day one like just cuz he was straight at a school I thought his opinion carried as much weight and so it wasn't necessarily what he taught me it was being together it taught me that that's right and like we except in sports that you could be LeBron and Kobe but we don't in business one of the reasons your internship is allowing you some freedom to do [ __ ] and I know some of you did it like I know there's a delta some of you did a ton of [ __ ] you know I can't control 900 people every second but why there's a culture more here of like compared to some of your friends who are like really you're doing [ __ ] like I'm [ __ ] like just sitting here like [ __ ] playing on [ __ ] you know who the [ __ ] anyway is because of that respect for maybe you're good enough to run my company right now like talent is talent and so but candor smelling roses stand out since you're constantly filming and releasing new content and it's always so positive and inspiring does anything ever happen in your home or work life that like puts you in a fog and you have to like pull yourself out of it it's a building and like spreading your message I would never film if I wasn't in the right place I don't power through theirs I mean you couldn't wrap your head around how much bad [ __ ] happens every day to me and this company and like that's actually the job

my job is eating [ __ ] you know like everything's on me ultimately right yeah I mean I'm sure of course I get into funks you know but I've tremendous perspective and like my like I have no sustained funk like even the thought of like a day is out of question like a full day of being in a funk is just not gonna happen it just can't like there's just nothing that can happen that makes me change my mindset of like how good we have it I mean if you actually understand oh this but just looking around the room the fact that you're sitting in a building in New York City in America and have an internship here you would probably [ __ ] your pants if you if there was a world ranking on quality of life happiness like just net score of where do you rank on earth like a new system came out it took everything into account it brain scanned you for happiness depression all of it what is your net rank in the world you would be humbled by how good your life is I don't think you have a perspective I don't think anybody does and I'm not even sure I do I just try my best to think about this kind of almost daily where do you rank out of seven point seven billion people the answer for a lot of you is outrageously high if you're a white dude in here and your family has any kind of financial security you're an outerspace outer [ __ ] space that's humbling and then for me that's kind of like the data but then again what isn't taken to account at all in society is like cool your white dude with a family that's like to me having too much is the really the other play like what we don't have is a read on people's mental health right and so I know have that too so now I'm just like you know I can't get into a funk it's almost inappropriate you know not that I force it it's just become me you know how many of you work out pretty religiously think about when you didn't started and think about how it now it feels completely foreign not to that's what I do mentally like just [ __ ] contextualize your problem and let me give you a really good piece of ice pay very close attention to who's listening to you complain it's a very important tell like I would [ __ ] on you if you complain to me so pay close attention because when it's your mom or it's another friend that complains all the time you're in a bad system in terms of like judgments and criticism where's the line of taking something as constructive something and then just others I being like going with your gut and I'd like you to be a hell of a lot more closer to glowing with their gut and not listening to them especially at this age you kind of almost have to see it through to see how right or wrong you are there's more upside and you figuring out if you're right or wrong you can always take everybody's feedback in your 30s you know look most people are just gonna make assumptions just based on your age they're just giving you feedback for the sake of feedback cuz you're 20-something now if it's something like math and it's black and white you get to the wrong answer they were right like you know but like the people here in analytics and media like that's like math and like you could [ __ ] have any ego you want but if like it played out wrong you lost which is what's great about it it's very like black and white but all the other stuff is very gray and becomes very subjective the great foundation of my life is being undereducated it really works for me just don't have that gear of seeing the world the same way do you ever get stressed I almost wonder if like what ended up happening was you know when you're a 22 year old kid and you walk into a family business and you explode it in year one and now from day they're on at 23 you're the foundation of the financial success of your entire family and you're the emotional pillar

of your family along with your mother so you're both financially and emotionally responsible for everything you love at 23 you almost go into the other play I almost feel like I've been in stress in perpetuity then it's become happiness I don't know what else to say you know I don't feel stress I don't judge myself I feel like I'm trying I know what my intent is I feel like I'm trying really hard and like my big thing is like before you say something to me like why don't you look at yourself like it's really hard for me to get going like you know like man what I love for all of you to be empowered with like when your parents say something to call them out on them doing the same thing that's what parents do they impose their thing on you they're reak your mom is doing what her mom did to her even though she hated that her mom did it to her it's how humans work anyway probably I'd I'm a big fan of like sleeping in the bed that you've made I got big ambitions I'm trying to be out here doing [ __ ] well guess what nobody should be crying for me and so I can't complain I'm [ __ ] put myself out there right like I'm putting myself out there I don't have to say yes to the interview so I don't have to [ __ ] be filming my [ __ ] self 24 hours a day I made this bed I got to sleep in it everything comes along with it and if I do something [ __ ] stupid or wrong and I get called out on it I need to own that [ __ ] and I'm okay with that because I don't think I'm perfect I'm just trying to say narrow you narrow is my thing you know stain my lien you know so I don't talk to you know a lot of people you don't talk about politics I'm like I want to do homework on it I don't want to just shoot my opinion like you know I've got opinions but like now like I just think about all those things are about anything I need to be thoughtful I stay very narrow chess two moves I do so many things that are actually setting up something else but I get scrutinized judged or viewed on the first move a jab isn't trying to knock somebody out in a fight I'm really good at jabbing I'm really thoughtful I'm playing long game I'd love to hear from your perspective like when you read what someone had to say about what it was like to work here and work for you it's the best thing in the worst thing that's was ever set I mean in the most extremes it's like I'm devastated I'm leaving it's because of some outrageous circumstance like my parents are sick or my significant others getting transferred and like this is breaking my heart and soul I want to work here forever and in the other direction is this whole thing is full of [ __ ] you're full of [ __ ] you I've been undermined all you you're completely full of [ __ ] you [ __ ] you you're full of [ __ ] those are the best and worst yeah it's super tough but what ends up happening back to stress or this and that it's I've empathy by the way they might be right like I'm not crippled by the fact that three people right now could be terrible and like serendipitously got teamed up created a triangle of terror and I haven't been able to like weed it out yet the best part is though I don't want that look you were in the meeting where I literally told the entire team like from now on anytime somebody's crying somewhere I need to know on the moment it happens you saw it not for show for the intern you were in the meeting that's who I am like so like I sleep well at night triangle of terror and somebody says I'm a piece of [ __ ] and this is all a facade I can live with that because I understand that could be true for offices 900 people even though I'm in the pulse of every minute I'm trying out here but like I'm not [ __ ] you know like omnipresent you know and so I just feel great with my intent in my efforts I know I'm not making financial decisions like 99. 9% of course I am because we have to make payroll but I'm not trying to like maximize profits so I can buy a helicopter and feel good about myself and so like I just know I'm Way ahead of everything else and I read all that stuff I read every one of those you know I get them right away I [ __ ] we talk about I don't read [ __ ] I read every word I try to synthesize it I email every one of them which is why we have their non vein or email I try to could you know like let them know that I'm here for them in perpetuity if anybody ever works I've been it for you guys just being an intern if I can help you in 19 years you email me be like I was an intern and [ __ ] 2018 and then like you know like now my aunt wants to be at

this thing you know I don't give a [ __ ] like just feel free to reach out and so intent Trump's a lot you have to execute on your intent you know a lot of my closest friends kind of scrutinized like intent you could intend to be a good guy but shoot somebody with a gun and then I'm like I get it but usually intent maps to your actions and so I want legacy it's very insular it's not from somebody else you know my inspiration is I'm aware that something really good happened when I was produced and I want to see it through I think I owe it to my parents I'm just very driven by gratitude I'm very inspired by it I know good things happen mentally really this you know and I need to see it through I you know there's a curiosity of how big can this be that really [ __ ] with me in a good way like I really really think I'm gonna be Oprah like for real which is amazing like a singular individual for a moment in time you know it's really interesting to me like and I think about psycho like I analyze a lot of things I'm like if I'm right and this happens in nine years it's gonna be an interesting time like in a world where like white dudes are like demonized and things of that nature like is it important that like I think about tough like the fact that I'm penetrating 15 to 25 year old dudes and I'm pushing empathy and kindness like is this all meant to be you know I get into that I definitely do I'm like I'm such an alpha male yet like what I preach is so traditionally soft and like you I get to live my life like I get to be like in an airport and see like a hood dude roll up to me be like yo gratitude dawg you know it's like it's fun it's like I'm seeing the Peace of them seeing the puzzle come together Wow being unbelievably comfortable in my capitalistic you know ambition you know I think I'm a very funny read even to my site as I read myself it's like I've got all this underlining stuff but the thing that most people know is like he wants to buy the Jets which is very like douchey and like the whole thing's super interesting to me and I'm always like am i sandbagging everybody like is that what I put out like is that why I speak that way like why is it that they like me more as they get closer not for it like it's all very interesting to me I see my patterns it's the underdog thing you know like why will I turn on like a golf match give a [ __ ] but like whoever's the underdog that's who I'm for like [ __ ] Mac conference college basketball game at night turn on underdog right like Kobe Hatem last season washed-up love them like I'm very like am I doing that to myself like do I like the fact that everybody in the ad world like at age never covers us they covered us today about [ __ ] embargoing for snacks that's a dig that's a razz but like I love that like I need that I'm driven by being underestimated and then I think oh [ __ ] I must be sandbagging myself my team gets so mad at me they're like why don't you talk about being smart you know like I talk about working hard my propaganda is like my selfie at 4:00 in the morning looking like [ __ ] on the way the airport it's not my thoughtfulness of like 20 years of being right about a ton of [ __ ] so I don't know like it's fun to analyze myself for myself but I try not to do it too much because I'm always worried of like becoming a caricature of myself which i think is a very dangerous move and so that's why I rely so much on intuition cuz I don't even want to allow myself to think too much because I don't want it right I speak my truth you saw that day with like the MLB and like I will always speak my truth and I'll curse and I'll dress down and I'll let the world come to me got it the world came to me when I was your age this everything I've done was unacceptable bad at school casual dress for respect cursing at scale in public all unacceptable still kind of weirdly unacceptable but a lot less than it was it doesn't it's the great vulnerability ego is just a dress for insecurity ego is very different than confidence ego is the manifestation of insecurity I'm very confident but not blindly you know and I also like I said something once somebody tweeted about this weekend and it really is my biggest truth I genuinely think I'm gonna be all-time special like I live my life as in like what kind of statues are they gonna put up being dead [ __ ] serious at the same token I equally believe like the day I die it could be a non-event or I'll get like 24 hours on social and people tell their

stories of what I did for them and then it's over so having this hardcore push and pull of like being all time and insignificant at the same time is a balance that's super important and I don't think ego allows you to do that ego is I'm insecure let me peacock and make pretend it's bullying I [ __ ] hate it Oh what is working with Ryan and Mary key giving you like what if they open your eyes - um well first it's given me like enormous ambition for the kind of companies I want to buy because their working relationship is tremendous like just kindness and cute and nice and perfect like real good I haven't spent a lot of time really digging in like the publishing world add a sense for it's not that lateral to me it's just watching a good kindness leadership team Ryan is I would argue is a byproduct of how I think about the world like my ambition is that more CEOs are like Ryan caring but alpha and all that but nothing stands out I haven't spent that much time with them either and that's just the truth there's nothing you know I don't want to say nothing because I don't want them have their feelings hurt but it's pretty close to nothing so far does that ever you know get to you in a way and I know sometimes you do respond so what's the why do I respond yeah serendipity like I'm in a mood you know like just like I'm just truthfully I think it's funny I just think it's funny they like pick some first of all what I love that I do is a lot of people razz on people but they like dark out their account like I just I'm like look if you're publicly saying this I'm gonna publicly put you on blast I think that's funny not much like I listen brah Matt who the [ __ ] is time to watch eighty-seven hours of my content to have a better feel of who I actually a. m. so that they're grounded in a good opinion and I know what I'm putting out there like if you see one [ __ ] video on Instagram and I'm acting confident and peacocking because I'm pissed about somebody who's being a bully but it looks like I'm being a bully because I'm cursing and being alpha like that's it that's all you need like if you brought up in a household where cursing was bad you don't like me if you like first of all everybody in the advertising industry that's living in the old world by default has to be worried about me and doesn't like me like I have empathy to watch something or ultimately why people guys think about the makeup the mental makeup of somebody who takes time out of their life to leave a negative comment about somebody else do you know how sad I feel for them in the history of my life to the day I go in the grave I would never do that why it's a complete waste of time I'm in a place where I need to comment negatively and try to tear somebody down with my three minutes firstly you have to consume the content to get a thought second you have to like have that in you that you think that's a good idea do you much pain you're in when you leave the negative comment do you know how [ __ ] up you are macro I'm never worried about anybody who's dragging people down there weakest [ __ ] and most people think they're strong because it allowed I mean they're so weak you started when you were 14 don't like reading writing how do you prove marriage not you personally and how when you were younger how we prove don't dude I got [ __ ] on like [ __ ] when oh you don't merit only gets proven on the field like if you spent as much time thinking about how to gain respect into putting all that energy into actually executing to get the respect you'd be in a totally different place I didn't I just took my punches dude the level of judgment I had at your age I was going to Mount Ida College which literally went out of business this year I went to Mount Ida college which nobody had ever heard of and still haven't I worked at my dad's liquor store at this point in my life getting into any argument that I'm gonna be good or just

didn't even cross my mind I just worked and got better at my craft you're spending too much time justifying instead of executing you're having arguments with yourself first then your parents then the people closest to you don't just go do your literally debating the outcome of a game in the national anthem part you're just you're worried you're just you're valuing other people's opinions don't you have to earn it you have a nerd [ __ ] yet I guess you could be a prospect a lot of first picks overall [ __ ] suck so I don't you know way too much like a social commentary and [ __ ] pontificating about something that hasn't happened yet and like listening to somebody else's playbook is ridiculous especially somebody who played it 25 or 35 years ago your parents opinion is stunningly bad they're awesome like I've notice though or maybe they're terrible I don't know but nonetheless it's completely not practical they're utterly incapable of projecting the context of the playing field that you're playing in and like the biggest fear I have is that half of you are gonna pander to it because they're gonna financially subsidize your opening act your pandering to it because you want a better apartment out the gate and so parents are gonna pay for it thus you feel a subconscious need to appease them in the short term see this is not just a parent's game that's what's fun to think this is [ __ ] you there's a really great way to like eliminate your parents leverage get off their payroll I don't agree with my parents about anything or everything I'd never even [ __ ] value their opinion enough I got off their payroll and [ __ ] put them on my payroll you know and not really cuz you know I think that's a little douchey but like I came in the game and [ __ ] right away contributed and paid them back for everything they've ever done for me it was just never in that place the bit you know it's real fun in here like haha everybody who's gonna watch I'm like [ __ ] on your parents until you realize you're [ __ ] full of [ __ ] you should have no respect until you actually execute it you could have reading point you could again back to sports it's good you can have a reputation but like first of all your entire academic career is horseshit compared to what you're about to go into give a [ __ ] about what you've done in school it's got zero mapping to the reality of what you're about to do so that's one and then to get off their payroll fake environments and they want you on their payroll if they can afford it because then they have control then you can do the things that makes them feel good to say to their friends you wanna be happy get off your parents payroll it's much more fun to take the subway and have three shitty roommates than to be psychologically controlled by your parents [ __ ] I like that Caleb that's the clip right there no really I like this first time I've said it that way that really makes sense to me that's the biggest issue right now everyone's posturing what did you do to gain emotional intelligence I don't know man like my mom has it so I took her DNA she gave it to me so that's good uh you know i think adversity is the foundation of success and i think my whole childhood was had adversity i didn't speak the language i wasn't physically a menace i you know i was terrible at school like i feel like by the time i kind of like hit the game it was all upside like the reason i couldn't hear anybody anymore was cuz what they were saying wasn't super interesting so i said [ __ ] it i'll just but I but even you know what's funny I'm painting a false picture it never bothered me I do think there was a little bit of a natural emotional intelligence foundation there but I will say practice like I do believe in that I definitely have evolved I'm struggling to deconstruct it and which is why I don't talk about it a lot but like I do think I've said one or two things here that maybe helped one or two of you but I think he literally repeated like living in a shitty apartment with three people I hate and taking the subway is better than being emotionally controlled by my parents may make you

not take unlimited uber from your parents when you get out of school no thank you I don't know I think that's cool accountability is really attractive intuitively and specifically meaning I don't judge myself so like if I miss my daughter's recital because Kraft wants to give us ten million dollars I'm gonna miss it and I'm I don't give a [ __ ] meaning of people judging me on what the current state of proper politically correct parenting is because like I don't know I love my dad with all my heart and didn't see him the first 15 years of my life there's a million ways to do it and that my intent is there I always try to make everything you know but then purposefully like I'm really excited that I'm taking these three weeks off in August every year it worked like the world checks out these kind of two weeks three weeks in August and in Christmas and I'm hacking and I'm always thinking about new things and just trying to find new ways to spend more time and you know I felt like I was winning and then felt I'd needed a little extra boost so started doing like half-day Friday not half day but like a half day six getting home at 6:00 p. m. on Friday my half day just trying you know just trying to communicate with more and more which I think is something we've gotten a little bit better out of the last half year effort um here's what happens if you listen to this whole talk when you actually don't value anybody else's opinion but your own then you just spend all your time on trying to make the things you believe in better the reason that I wanted to intern at vaynermedia is because I see it as like a pioneer in the advertising industry and I'm like all for advertising that's what I'm passionate about it's awesome um so how long do you think it's gonna take for the industry to evolve my intuition is it will really gain momentum when the economy collapses there's no reason for them to do it now veiners model is just not accepted thus doesn't allow for us to get all the dollars we get but I think people are starting realize we're too big for it to not have merit and I definitely think I'm inspiring the next generation to build their own shops that look more like it so I think in a decade there'll be a lot more acceptance to what we're doing how are we doing in time five minutes ago 15 minutes um this is fun one last question if you don't care about anybody's opinion that's the last question it becomes much easier to ask yes okay not that's I think that's a great question for a lot of other people that just doesn't come natural to me like what like every piece of informations literally on your phone and then like learning process every organization has its own process you'll learn more in the first week of wherever the [ __ ] you go then you will like listen I'm not trying to [ __ ] on school like especially because I think people like look if you guys want to work at Boston consulting in this building you better [ __ ] get your grades up go to grad school go to [ __ ] Stanford or Harvard that's how you get into McKinsey right if you want to be a doctor like you need to learn the craft but like for most of us if I mean my biggest piece of advice is to meet as many people and make significant relationships like friends like for real and enjoy the last vacation that looks like this in your life it's a [ __ ] vacation like I would enjoy it like so many of you are gonna stress out your last two years thinking it's gonna be an indicator to your life just don't fail out I think that's my rally cry just don't fail like if you really think in 2018 that your grade point average swing of one or two points let alone point something

have any indication on how your life is gonna play out you're [ __ ] lost like skip a class and let go like listen to a reading by somebody at the Barnes & Nobles while they're still open an hour away you know yeah just don't fail out like I don't really what do you think like help me like educate me like what are you learning in class that you think is real especially like even like week one like you said like with all my media professors I'm like you think that applies like 10 20 years ago it's like not current they made me memorize a graph of course it's fun as [ __ ] yeah I like being with people that are my age of course people that understand me too but guess what else you can do with 40,000 you could go to every single [ __ ] music festival on earth like this whole notion of propaganda of like but it's the people sure why don't you give me back the [ __ ] 40k and why don't I [ __ ] go to Coachella and Ibiza and to [ __ ] Austria like you can hang out with kids your age in perpetuity that [ __ ] that last [ __ ] frontier that college is [ __ ] trying to sell everybody on like but you grow up and you get to be with your people and you meet lifelong friends like give me 40k I'll [ __ ] make it way better for you know much more fun it is to go to like the Dominican Republic 4,000 people deep for 3,000 bucks for a week you can do so like that they're gonna lose that game somebody like I'm a do it myself some entrepreneur sure he's gonna come along and start a company and be like yeah cool let me let me set this up or like what we work and some of these co-working spaces are doing they're just setting at like the campus replication is super easy and a hell of a lot more like you can learn let me send all of you like a hundred fifty deep to Peres to France to work a harvest in the vineyards and like every three days go into Paris and just like [ __ ] I'm with you I agree but that is the last reason that college should stay up and be able to do the purple [ __ ] they're doing and right now it's the leading [ __ ] ROI you can play for tonight together somewhere else but give me 40k each and I'll [ __ ] have you playing with ninja every night it's so [ __ ] bro but that being said I'm on an ideological execution now you're in it you're not going anywhere so to that point make it more than seven people that are your friends to your point everyone's like I love that unlike you have nine friends like you really want to take advantage of like oh it's awesome campus life like culture we can go like serendipity like then do something about it instead of what everyone's doing which is in your [ __ ] clique of six like really [ __ ] break that like that was always the best thing that I had I like nine different friend groups that like made no sense that like never let me get popular enough and like was very weird and like what like people are so confused by me best thing I did how many of you were collecting debt for college tell truth that's okay just curious that to me is like the thing that I'm spending my whole life trying to figure out go ahead yeah colleges new guys College is [ __ ] new in 1940 which is five minutes ago not everybody's [ __ ] dream was to go to college I don't know but I know it's in trouble you know like this conversation was not happening 10 years ago when the economy collapses on the back of all the college debt that all of you are occurring and everybody blames the racket of college for it it'll be like banks or other things the brand will be so bad the conversation will change and I do believe that you will be the generation of parents that don't force your kids to go to college so I think 30 I think Stanford Harvard I think the top 17 will be able to hold on a little bit longer just on brand but I think the really good schools like the state schools like kind of that upper-middle I think they're very vulnerable Michigan is an amazingly good school but collecting two hundred thousand in debt with that interest rate for a good solid Michigan degree in the real life the day

after no way yeah I try to filter it and try to understand pay attention who's giving you the advice what's their KPI like why are they doing it good I guess I kind of like addresses it I was gonna say like doesn't that kind of let your ego take like the wheel and kind of like where's like the humility and like how do you self reflect like say maybe they're right maybe like I could improve he gives me his opinion I do something else I don't necessarily think I'm right I just would rather die on my own sword right like that make sense right like I don't know like actually I think it's enormous humility it's because I don't value my own opinion why would I value yours but I'm gonna do what I want to do because if it's wrong it's much more fun to blame myself than to blame you guys when it ends up being wrong you're gonna blame your parents and then that gets really so I think it's about accountability humility I don't tell you your opinion cuz I don't value mine I'm gonna do me and when I lose I'm like you're a [ __ ] idiot and when it works I'm like yeah makes sense right that's where it comes down to I think it's actually the review no to all these things look are the reverse you know it looks like ego it's actually massive humility I don't even value my own so you're valuing yours but then you're valuing someone else's I don't value either and just go and then like deal with it after the fact and when you know you're intense good like I just want to be happy don't you like happy is not about money or awards or recognition it's about just knowing yourself guys I'm cool if you thought that I thought the apex of my coolness was gonna be at 42 you've got another thing coming like there was no indication that entrepreneurship was gonna be cool there's no [ __ ] scenario that I thought would be DMing me yesterday that doesn't play out in the way that I saw a businessman playing out I just stayed [ __ ] true the whole time and then it [ __ ] worked out I really believe in that [ __ ] listen to yourself please listen to yourself YouTube leave a comment below I'm dying for your insight on what you just saw what stood out give me some time stamps what stood out