Life Is an Inside Game | A Gary Vaynerchuk Original

very early on there was only one voice in my game my own and this is my biggest point to everybody this is why I don't allow complaining or dwelling and for people that want to [ __ ] with me because no matter what I'm gonna point to somebody who had the same exact sit oh what you had a crackhead father and your mom [ __ ] sexually abused you and you got stabbed cool let me show you this kid who actually had that exact same thing and he won like what we're talking about right now is the reason I win I'm not worried about the little details this is all macro blueprint strategy mental strategy no matter what we say right now P I'm gonna show you somebody who grew up with the same exact situation have different outcomes and so for me everybody who's dwelling on their shortcoming the bottom line is no matter where you start everybody has passed the winning and losing for me the best move is to take control your [ __ ] no matter how [ __ ] up you are right now get rid of loser friends and family introduce yourself to positivity and winners and watch how it plays out by the way that's the punchline like this is a mental game like there's just nothing else you're not feeling it find new friends I'm being dead serious about this one is real big for me who you hang out with is a huge young again these are all trying true things right we've heard the your than whatever of the five friends you spent like that's real that's that one put in the bank please understand that mindset is controllable in the same way that all our opinions are controllable the key is to add more people with optimism and cut people with negativity it's very simple and I'm trying to figure out how to get this for everybody cuz it is I think it's the ultimate I lived in my own head nobody had say when I tell you nobody [ __ ] had say still to this day nobody has say very early on there was only one voice in my game my own it's so scary to me how singular my own voice is it doesn't mean that I don't listen to feedback I'm delusional and I think I can get away with bad [ __ ] and it's all okay I could say something right now in this podcast everybody under says I'm a piece of [ __ ] and in my own mind I'm like we'll see it's very strange how I live life it's way more extreme than you think I think I'm just like kind of like going through it right now I'm like what the [ __ ] this is crazy like it just means that I am incapable of valuing anybody else's opinion including my mom's my wife's and my children's opinion about me over my own if you realized how much of the actions you do is to show your mom or your dad or your sibling or your spouse or somebody show somebody else that you made it or you did it is remarkably scary how many people are dictated by somebody else's opinion the whole game is broken because everybody's too tied up into other people's opinions I only care about my opinion myself I think most people do [ __ ] for other people buy the car and the house for other people do some people love the leather of a car or the horsepower yes do some people like love having a home that has nine rooms they never use sure but you understand when you're building something you [ __ ] invest in the right things as soon as [ __ ] possible the problem is most people don't get to that because they're as when something starts getting successful they're taking the money out and buying dumb [ __ ] I've never met anybody who's been able to penetrate my mindset and that includes my own parents what's even crazier where I'm at now I feel like I'm this manifestation I feel like they made me but then I mutated into something else I don't value anybody's opinion about me more than I have about my own self and it's a very big deal there's nothing like it man I don't know what else to say it is ultimate drug it is the ultimate leverage exactly what you're talking about that's exactly what I'm doing I think people don't get it like life's basic and we make it complicated and it starts with being right in your own mind it's such an inside game it's an inside game there's add more people with positivity and optimism and cut people with pessimism and cynicism who you surround yourself matters what content you consume matters I basically suffocate myself for a long period of my time and created an environment that was based on offense and optimism and now I know no different I just don't give a [ __ ] what anybody thinks now I equally care so much of how they view me and what they think of me it's pulling from opposite directions but you've got to start with yourself because when you're actually allowing other people to get in you're vulnerable