Calling From The Arctic Circle and Advice That Every 22 year Old Needs to Hear | #AskGaryVee 244

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flip it around you're good all right episode what 244 244 ready yep cool hey everybody this is Gary ve neru and this is episode 244 of the Ask Gary ve show and we are Live on YouTube flipping a script a little bit uh excited about that um and uh and ready to roll uh gonna go to the call-in show which is always a lot of fun uh I especially like when I hold in and get all excited about that we should put on the lights um let's see here yep hope everybody's super well great weekend uh I'm heading out to the West Coast before this m monster storm we got a blizzard coming boys and girls uh and uh it looks like uh Andy K is on his game big upgrade from Chris a with this calling it listen Chris was struggling with the number you have oh I spoke too soon and all right I'll talk a little bit while you get your [ __ ] together uh first of all just want to thank everybody for all of the love I've been getting across all of social YouTube hit the Bell um Instagram all this stuff trying to put out a lot of content daily V has been rolling Tyler doing a really good job where's drock is he working today in Chicago why traveling sleeping in Chicago sleeping in Ni what Brooklyn all right let's get into the show hello this is Gary vaynerchuk and you're on the Ask Gary ve show get the [ __ ] out of here uhhuh what's your name because I'm presuming it's not Nicole no no it's uh Nick Rizzo Nick how are you good man how you doing great man what's your question oh [ __ ] um so I guess I so Nick real quick since everybody does this we'll use this opportunity like what everybody just putting their phone number and they just never think it's going to actually get called right well so Nicole is my wife's little sister and I got her on to watching you she been watching all of your stuff and I guess you just put my number and she just text me saying hey I just put your number oh so this is even better and Redemption for you holy [ __ ] well good man well thanks for being on the show great job by her do you have a business question or anything kind of question um so I am starting to build my own business I've had one I'm transferring over to a brand name into something I'm more passionate about easier for me to kind of truly make content that I really care about and make the business I care about I guess one question I would have is real quick I'm G to stop you there before you go to your question as you gather your thoughts for everybody who's watching my man here drilled it because he said it would be easier for me if I was passionate about it and I think the big key on crush it you should show that is the reason I talked about cashing it on your passion is when you love it like if I had to talk about the Jets 24 hours a day piece of cake you know I love attention in marketing piece of cake business if Tyler right over here had to talk about the Penn State Lions he could do it all day right he's struggling with his transition into a Jets fandom he did a terrible job transitioning into fantasy basball fandom so it was harder for him even though he wanted to and as all his boys were doing it wasn't his passion it is a lot easier to create document hustle DM bis Dev win when it's a subject matter that you're interested in if you're getting into real estate but you're not interested in real estate or flipping homes but that's where you heard the money was or if you're starting a social media agency but you're doing it because that's where you think the money is and it's not something you love you're going to lose because you're not going to put in enough hours to win because you don't love it right preach brother i' I've been trying to build something I got into for like six months and just was going nowhere cuz I just when you sit down to do work every day and it's like a boore and you don't want to get into it it's did you get into it because you thought that's where of money was um it was a supplement company that I started doing the research and development for product for back when I was in college and then I kind of became the owner when the guy handed it down to me got it and it just wasn't moving forward the way I wanted to so now I'm changing over things good what's the question I guess specifically um we do you what is for value-wise do you see a lot of value in utilizing Facebook Community groups to kind of offer like free courses and things like that to Target specific initiatives like do you think a a Facebook group would be a beneficial way

to host that or yeah I'm actually Fair good job by you because I haven't talked a lot about Facebook groups on in a long time and I'm actually pretty big fan of it I think building a community on Facebook is very smart closed groups can be very attractive uh yeah I'm a big fan of groups I think it builds Community I think if you're going to build a group row you just got to make a commitment to be in the group it's like 2003 forums right if you're going to build a forum on the internet in 2002 it was a good idea in 2006 problem is you got to be in it there right moot buil bu exactly just like forchan all the way back did well cuz moot was in it like you got to be in it right Jets Insider did well because Brian was in it like if you're going to host if you're going to build a community don't think somebody is going to run it for you or like it's going to take care of itself you've got to manage it you got to live in it and provide value yeah I'm just trying to use it as a the place where I can build a community for people to feel safe and to feel a part of to kind of grow together as a group itself too so I think it's a good place man thanks for the call thank you very much have a great day bye pretty good um yeah you know I think communities really matter I think there's a lot of ways to do them I think group mes and whatsapps and and closed Facebook groups email newsletters internet forums yeah I mean I think wall Gardens closed environments for a group to build together is a really rad thing to do what's up AJ arcticle AJ it's Gary vaynerchuk from the Ask Gary V show oh my God I knew you were gonna call I don't know why I just knew it you knew it tonight he said Arctic Circle add me do it man I love it man well listen you should play the lotto tonight amazing dude we got to be quick I'm literally in the Arctic Circle I only get service outside it's -42 so Jesus let's do this before you die hey man my question is uh my family don't they don't operate like Andrew they don't work as hard as I do I want

to help them but my friends think that they're drowning me you know what I mean so I don't know if I see you're carrying your family's weight on your shoulders the family business yeah this is tough bro because listen I've been the I've been a driving force in two family businesses where you just got to honestly this is a very personal answer everybody's got to make their own decision it depends on what you value and what feels good and that will go up and down it feels good for me what I brought to the Partnerships to my brother and dad and at times it didn't feel good I mean it's you know it's hard when you're hustling harder um but uh but you can't also like I can't expect AJ to do exactly what I'm doing cuz I'm being selfish I'm doing it for myself and so I think you need to be you know it's easy for everybody from the outside saying yo bro stop caring your sister and your uncle and everybody's getting money off your back if it makes you feel good and you're okay with 15 cents and a dollar or 50 cents at a dollar well then that's your life so I would say this if you've got a problem with it and your friends are saying that because they're supporting what you're saying after four beers that's one thing but if they're just observing from the outside and they're starting to change your mind I wouldn't let outside sources tell you what to do with inside a family Dynamic okay I mean I've been struggling this for years so this is great I do appreciate it I appreciate it is there anything I can help build on this because I think family business is a place where I have a lot of expertise and a lot of experience and I pay attention to it is can I build on this for you before you freeze to death you know what you've talked about this kind of a lot not necessarily like this specific case but this really like solves a lot of questions for me so I'll just keep watching your content I'm sure you talk about it again later good man if I can ever help you again let me know hey man I appreciate thanks for calling dude you got it bye let's level that up for everybody while Andy gets the next number listen you have to be very careful and very smart if you're getting feedback from your inner circle of people that love you friends about things based on you talking and them reacting and supporting you versus them observing from the outside and imposing their own family Dynamics on to you it's super important you take a step back and realize what's happening what's the chicken and egg here is this people re responding to me or is this me getting advice from people that just don't know how exactly I feel or every little part about it inside my world Sean you playing with it what's going on you answering people you okay no I'm trying to get the video back what happened uh you got a call and when I declined it came back just as let me see that sucks let's see let's um let's uh why did uh reconnect I think we're good hello hey man it's Gary vanders and you're on the Ask Gary V show that is freaking awesome what's going on guys life is really good my man what's your name hey my name is audri Madera uh not sure if it's recording but uh Audrey I want to make sure I heard that what's that Audrey AUD real pleasure man how are you I'm doing excellent man hey Gary definitely uh you've been an inspiration to me and a couple things that you have told in some of your things about not actually creating do stuff but actually documenting has been a turning point in what I've been doing makes me happy so I started a yeah I started a Facebook Ad Agency to try to help people with their Facebook ads but my true passion has been and motivational speaking you know so I started documenting videos on my

Instagram and in the short time I've been able to reach people with my words and the reason I find my passionate is in the fact that I want to be able to reach people that I didn't have in my life as I was growing up through my obstacles correct I get it so my question to you is how do I expand so that I can actually reach more people be more impactful other than do documenting my life and actually speaking from the heart you know cuz right now I'm growing organically on my Instagram ultim how long have you been doing it so I actually started about two weeks ago and I know that it's going to take some time to grow more but just wanted to know what other tips I can do to be able to reach that point where I'm reaching more people put out content where people are paying attention Facebook YouTube Instagram Snapchat blogs uh podcasts and put out content and dude when I tell you that when I start something I don't even begin to think about how many more people I can reach than I've been reaching for the fir and maybe I start caring at year three maybe the first time I even think about it is three years into a decision you just told me that you found your passion that you're a motivational speaker and you're antsy and say whatever you want but you are 2 weeks in to get bigger that's going to be a disaster formula my man you need to put your head down and don't you have to understand how many followers you got on Instagram uh I've grown up to 302 in the two weeks I love it you need to be in a place where if in nine months from now you're at 413 you're feeling just as good you know why oh definitely you know why though I'm telling you that why is that because by the way I have a funny feeling my man that if you were at 43 followers 9 months from today you would not be happy you went from 0 to 320 in 2 weeks why the [ __ ] would you only gain 100 followers in 8 months and two weeks right the reason that you should be thrilled if you're at 419 in 9 months is you just told me you found your passion yeah and and that's the biggest thing that I because I know that it's gonna take time and that's one thing I you know I'm 35 years old and freaking you're a kid yeah exactly I'm still young like you you're real young man you got your whole life ahead of you and that's the biggest thing I want to make sure that one you know with watching your content has definitely humbled me a lot to wanting to be the rich guy I don't want guy that people reach out to me and tell me hey because of you I see things differently I'm more positive you know and that's really what my ultimate goal is gonna be my man if you believe that and I actually weirdly believe you then I'm gonna tell you the number one thing that you have to figure out patience and humility do not wrap your self-esteem up into the number of followers you got gotcha you got 310 people on Earth that [ __ ] give a [ __ ] about what you have to say and you can change every one of those lives You' be leave a bigger impact on this Earth than 99% of people so it is deep so be happy you got 310 instead of worrying about getting 3,000 okay like we do thank you for calling me man you got it my man good luck to you all right you cool take care we're on Instagram live now cuz YouTube crashed okay I was trying to figure out yeah YouTube crashed let's get one or two more calls before I get my next meeting um guys you know everybody wants to grow everybody wants to continue to succeed I get it but boy do I wish I could like look at my world like I was on Instagram for [ __ ] 5 years and was that like 40,000 followers like it's not about the following count like your time will come if you're good enough if you're a good enough motivational speaker good enough executive good enough designer good enough entrepreneur your time will come everybody's in a rush right to grow up I wish I was 12 and throwing a Hey Taylor it's Gary ve you're on the Ask Gary ve show no way yes okay where are you fromet I'm from baselo New York I love are you Bill fan H unfortunately yes all right I know you said unfortunately good I know well listen neither are the Jets don't worry so what's going on um nothing much I basically would dying to ask you a question um currently graduated college last May and I'm trying to build my own business brand hustle all that kind of stuff and my question for you is and I'm probably sure that a lot of people ask this or I'm Wonder how do you get over the stump of you're graduating and you feel all this pressure cuz you're trying to build something but you're still so young but you want to do this fast and grow it big

and I'm just in a rut and I can't get out of it but I have a hustle and a drive that I know I'll be able to build something but I'm just in this space not allowing me to so let me help you the space you're in is probably the macro micro issue so it's macro patience micro speed right so what do I mean by that you need to be patient as [ __ ] Taylor you're 22 23 years old like what do you think is going to happen overnight yeah I know so you need to be fast 700 a. m. to 2: in the morning every day but in the big picture you need to realize nothing good is going to happen for the next six years okay and do you think that I should just try every good idea that I think I have and just go for it all out or do you think I should stick with one thing at a time uh I think the fact that you even asked that question that you should taste flirting with a lot of different things because you'll be crippled by the what if you don't even though that's not the perfect formula to build the biggest short-term wealth because you should go triple down on one thing instead of being half pregnant on nine okay Taylor let me tell you something you like let me ask you the pressure who are you like are you trying to prove to yourself to your siblings to your parents to the world like who are you trying to prove that you're successful to or that this was the right call as or you're going to make it like that's what you have to figure out that's a good question like what are you impatient for like what's the problem you want to buy a [ __ ] Rolex like what's the what's what's the rush I feel like I've known that I'm meant to do something big and I grew up in an entrepreneurial household me too and so it's in my blood it's in my bones and I feel like I watch all these other Millennials hitting these huge I guess milestones in their life mileston let's break it down how old are you I'm 22 about to be 23 okay what mil please give me a millennial and the Milestone they achieved that makes you feel like you're just sitting in [ __ ] Buffalo well I'm sitting in Buffalo which is one thing I'm not happy about but that's right cuz it's home Buffalo Bills piece of [ __ ] team but what but but before you go there forget about sitting in Buffalo who's the millennial and what's the Milestone that's making you feel like you're sitting there go the truth go um well honestly there's people on social media which definitely is not always true but I watched oh God I guess the only thing on the spot I can think of is a Kardashian or a Jenner which is lame but can we talk about this please yeah I feel like sure like you're telling me that Kylie Jenner's [ __ ] trillion followers on Instagram makes you feel like you're just sitting there no I feel like the fact that she's already got a business started that's super successful that comes with her Fame did you factor in the fact that her sisters and Mom architected something for 10 years while she was a teenager that she was able to walk directly into that gave her a springboard and that she had the financial capabilities of deploying ungodly amounts of you know plastic surgery and the and all the other variable things that she's been able to do to create that culture and that Financial benefit yeah did you factor in that her mom is a ninja architect of business and created that framework yeah and I think like not many people give them the credit for that I totally think that they built this Empire agree I agree but what the [ __ ] does that have to do with you it has nothing to do with me I know no [ __ ] remember how I don't know if you saw this where I said stop looking at your friend's [ __ ] or whatever the [ __ ] I put on Instagram yeah I don't know if you saw it or not but it doesn't matter what the like you looking at the Kardashians is the most ludicrous horeshit I've ever heard in my life well that's just the first thing that could pop in my house listen we're here give me another one um there's a guy in London I can't think of I'm gonna stop you right now okay let me give you some I was going to say fatherly I guess my father was 40 no I'll give you some massively older brother Uncle advice you ready okay yes every second you spend thinking about what somebody else has is taking away from time that you could create something for yourself yeah you're losing you're losing because you're laying in your bed looking at somebody's [ __ ] glamorous photoshopped picture of them doing something cool and you're envious and you're jealous and you're impatient and it's crippling your upside yeah cuz that's where I want to be and I know I'm not there yet you haven't done [ __ ] I know so go do [ __ ] that actually gets you there so that you earn it instead of like you dwelling that you're not there and hoping something's going to happen I don't know what's going through your mind yeah well I guess I'm hustling on the side but I don't think I'm doing enough I guess you definitely aren't doing enough if you have enough time to [ __ ] consume the content of a Kardashian and some boy in London that's true Taylor listen to me Taylor listen you've got to deploy patience and you've got to love the process I'm addicted to the process of the Battle Scars the setbacks the lack of you know Taylor I gave up my entire 20s all of them imagine not doing anything fun or going anywhere for the next eight years including Saturday and Sunday that's what I did from 22 to 30 every day I spent 15 hours a day in a liquor store thought about a liquor store built a liquor store sold wine like spent every day like this last weekend don't lie to me Taylor what did you do this last weekend [ __ ] Saturday and Sunday tell me the truth don't [ __ ] me yeah no [ __ ] um I'm helping my mom right now on digital media and branding for her company and so I have a marketing meeting with one of the people doing that love you and then I also how much time did you have for yourself on Saturday and Sunday that was not working every minute tell me the truth a lot I know so that's the punchline right now imagine this when I tell you this you spent more downtime on not your career this weekend than I did in my entire 20s combined oh [ __ ] okay that puts things into perspective I think so awesome I think so too yeah I need to just get to it Taylor you need to do me a huge favor if you really want to win and you want to come to New York in eight years and shake my hand here's what you need to do you need to stop giving a [ __ ] about what anybody else has and realize that if you put your head down and just work for the next 10 years no glam Hammer no new [ __ ] car suitcase jewelry trip event no Coachella no [ __ ] new [ __ ] sneakers like [ __ ] work you will have it and every time you care about one of the things I just mentioned it will slow down your process of having it okay so in less than eight years when I'm a millionaire by 25 I'll come shake your hand I promise you that statement itself made me 100% guarantee that you won't no yes that's how this works being a millionaire at 25 when you're 22 and you're at dick [ __ ] and haven't even started is inconceivable unless you [ __ ] hit the lotto what's the romance of I want to make you know how everybody says Gary ve when you g to buy the Jets in two years and then I reply 20 years I'm romantic about the journey and the process which is why I'm actually going to pull it off you're trying to be a millionaire by 25 how Taylor it's just a goal I've always had why and right now with what I'm doing I guess it's not that's right it's an arbitrary [ __ ] thing that means nothing yeah wouldn't you rather guarantee millionair Ship by 36 than by doing long-term Marathon running versus doing a bunch of [ __ ] Sprints that guarantees never having it and I promise you funny thing happens to yourself a steam when you're 31 and not a millionaire because you've been chasing fast [ __ ] cash and you're now 6 years is removed from not hitting your goal your self-esteem starts [ __ ] with your head mhm yeah listen carefully I want to buy the New York Jets but when I clarify it to everybody I want the process of trying to buy the New York Jets more than buying the New York Jets understand yeah cuz ultimately that's the end goal but there's a process behind that you have to understand I don't give a [ __ ] about the end goal I care about the process the enjoyment of doing it you're not enjoying yourself trying to get to a million bucks over the next three years no you're right oh I know I'm right I'm just sticking on this right now because I feel like we've gotten into this deep enough that I might as well hold on for a couple more minutes to see if I can actually pull you through instead of you just being on this high of practicality for 36 hours and then going back to Instagram [ __ ] in 48 hours I need to deactivate that [ __ ] no you need to learn the discipline to be able to put it in the proper bucket yeah I just feel like I hold myself at this pedestal only it's crippling myself because I'm not actually doing the things to get there of course so you're playing a fake narrative instead of putting in the actual work that's needed to actually pull it off and then what's happening is you're living a fake world to yourself but you know it which then changes your behavior in the way that you interact with others it's true I know like for all my bravado now I was real quiet in my 20s people made fun of me like you work in your dad's liquor store I'm in Wall Street making 100,000 I got a BMW I'm like that's nice Pat yeah do you understand the level of disrespect I have for Pat do you love all those 20 30 40 50 year olds flashing [ __ ] on [ __ ] Instagram with short-term moves I can't wait for the [ __ ] world to melt all these [ __ ] people to get [ __ ] hosed out when the economy gets [ __ ] yeah it's CU they're short-term affording these things that are flashy but in the long term it's not sustainable for what they're doing right now yeah but meanwhile you're admiring the [ __ ] out of them I know it's a problem no [ __ ] Taylor it's really bad Taylor you need to start [ __ ] loving the process and the work and the grind you need to start respecting people that are like sleeping with in like with four roommates and buying their t-shirts at Walmart yeah you know what I feel like I need that wake up but to hit rock bottom to have that wake up I'm too comfortable right now and it's annoying the [ __ ] out of me I don't think so I think you're saying you need to hit rock bottom because it buys you more time to [ __ ] like you are right now I never thought of that you know what I mean like you know it's not working you're just saying by the way let me go complete left field on you you're a 22-year-old girl woman like it's okay to enjoy a little bit now too you've heard me say regrets if you I don't know how deep you know my content but once in a blue moon when people ask me the advice for 25-year-old Gary the answer is go have fun [ __ ] it would have been okay to go to Vegas or aapco or like do some dumb [ __ ] like do you know what I mean like so yeah I think I've had my fun in college though and now I feel like it's time to work well you're no that's the [ __ ] PR version Taylor the reality tayor is still [ __ ] in that zone yeah don't beat yourself up don't hold yourself accountable to arbitrary [ __ ] fantasies just put in work and enjoy that enjoy eating [ __ ] and dirt and bleeding and the grind and don't give a [ __ ] about what anybody else thinks why you haven't done it why are you doing that have four jobs [ __ ] Wendy's Walmart your side hustle work train learn don't think you're a digital expert just cuz you're 22 and you have an Instagram account show me how much [ __ ] you sold with your digital social media skills okay do you understand no I do yeah you're just you're just completely in the wrong game and I'm holding you on to this because you and 99% of the people that are watching are playing the same game I know which is why I wanted to ask the question but you're I can't I'm obviously not the only one no you're the majority and the massive majority the question is you just need to be St understand the following you can trade trick losers you're not tricking me good cuz I want honest answers you don't need my honest answer you know you're not tricking yourself either none of us are tricking ourselves I just want to remind you that you might be able to trick your uncle Hal and girlfriend that was in your [ __ ] college with you but you're not tricking a winner when you're bullshitting got it so even if you're posturing and pandering and pring yourself no winner thinks you're winning yeah cuz I'm not I know work that's the answer to all these questions learn things do stuff try to sell [ __ ] learn how to make money work all right I will was this good awesome thank you so much can you do me a huge favor yeah can you email me in 30 days and don't [ __ ] me what's your Twitter handle or Instagram what's your Instagram name I don't that's fine Instagram it's the fabulous Journey yeah me and my whole team and the entire vayer nation is watching oh [ __ ] okay I'm G to I'm gonna smoke you out of your [ __ ] okay everybody's watching okay I got it do you understand yeah I like your blue dress Dr thank you I got it on sale I like that answer that's the best thing you said all [ __ ] this whole time listen slow and steady wins the race you're only competing with yourself okay got it nobody else defines you not me not everybody watching not your mom not the [ __ ] Kardashians you got it you can grind and be patient for 10 years every day and still be 9 years younger than me and I would trade places with you that's how amazing having time on your side is yeah time's everything so use it I will good see you thank you you're welcome you keep asking questions I'll keep answering them