How do you stay focused on your goals?

Anders asks, "How do you keep aim on your goals and separate yourself from the demands of the external world? " Andre, I'll take this one first. Uh, you know, I don't know what to tell you other than it's unbelievable for me how much the external world has not factored into my decision-m. I've talked about, if you've been watching the show long enough, that first F on a test in fourth grade and literally making that transition to I'm gonna fight the market. and I've been fighting the market my whole life. I think for me it was the level of self-esteem that my mom instilled in me plus some level of my own DNA. I think that's the friction at hand. Heck, a lot of the themes of our last question were on this, right? Like what does the market want you to do? Whether that's your parents or society uh versus what you want to do. For me, it has a lot to do with intestinal fortitude. A gorilla monsoon WWF reference. Uh I you know I think it's surrounding yourself with people that give you permission to take that risk. That to me is the most practical version of what I'm giving you other than you got to be born with it. It's finding those like-minded people who are taking those similar risks and give you through their own actions a little more oomph or if you're amazingly lucky to have the parental or mentor infrastructure above you that created that context. case. I think focus is everything. I think that you can do 10 things poorly or one thing well. And saying no is something that I only learned late in my career. I still suck at it. it right now. Saying no is so hard. But the truth is like we're surrounded by leeches, blood suckers, and vampires. And those are people that want to take and they don't give back. And learning to say no to those people. all those distractions um is the only way to get anywhere cuz time is finite. Life is short. Quickly you find things that in life that are really incredible like family. Yep. Things that you love, things that you're passionate about that might distract you in a positive way from your career focus. So you have to learn to shed everything else. I'm going to throw a little bit of a curveball. I get so much happiness out of doing things for people who would be, you know, categorized as the way you just broke it down because I have a weird gear inside of me that has zero expectation for the return on someone's selfishness. I know that's a little bit of a mouthful, but it's just a it's probably why I'm so ridiculously happy. I'm I have such little expectation for the return. It makes me happy to do the give. I sit in front of you knowing I will accomplish less in my career and amass less wealth and a lot of other things, less time with my family, which is my number one because I get so much happiness out of some of those actions. So I would tell you if you're in a rare group like myself, make sure you recognize in a world where people tell you that you're a sucker for doing it or things of that nature, you still got to make yourself happy. But I will tell you, I'm way happier than I was 5 years ago because I have grown in my no meter moving a ton. Hasn't gone to zero. And I think a lot of people closed themselves out of serendipity by saying no too much, right? And I think we probably both benefited through our years of the yes when it didn't make sense on paper. Um, but I'm with you, man. The I mean, I made a video a long time ago, the yes virus. It's like the sickness of just saying yes all the time. And it's a tough one. Yeah. And I made movies. I made a movie that's just say yes. It's like I believe in saying yes. I believe in embracing risk and embracing chance and all. You need to say no more as you get older. I just think it's a learning curve, a very steep learning curve to understand when no is appropriate and when yes is appropriate. And until you learn that, you default to yes. It's a really or no. My dad defaults to no. I think you and I like we have some similarities that makes like I think there's a lot of people there that default to no. that default. My dad's opening words are hey dad no like I can't I was gonna say how was your day you know like no is not a proper like I know a lot of people that default into no I think we happen to be surrounded by a lot of people that default into yes lucky yes but I think you know it'll be in you know what actually quick little side question of the day give me uh are you a default yes or no person I'm just curious for my own kind of like polling India move it along