Work:Work balance [4/5/10]

how nasty is the view out of my hotel room here in Sydney Australia I mean there it is right there and there so pretty lucky I'm uh I'm one lucky guy and I know it and I really appreciate you watching this video and this is a pretty big video for me so get ready this is probably going to be one of the biggest videos I do in a long time and it really talks about where I'm going uh the rest of this year so what I want talk to you guys about today is my work balance uh obviously work life balance is something we all work on and I continue to and this is probably bleeding from my work life balance thoughts because this is a work life balance and work balance thing for me first of all I want to lose some weight yeah it's there guys so that's something on my mind I want to get a little healthier my knees finally healed so I want to start playing some tennis and basketball rocketball take that up see what that's all about probably get crazy competitive but what I want to talk to you guys about today and what this video is all about is to let the little universe that actually cares about me know that I'm making some changes for 2010 I'm making some big changes for 2010 and it's because the reason I got to a place where I could write a book like crush and people bought it or the fact that people want me to come and speak I'm here in Australia to speak at a conference which by the way will be one of my last of 2010 that's the first thing I'm doing I'm not speaking uh anymore this year I probably won't speak at South by Southwest next year I'm probably going to do a whole year off the circuit maybe with my book coming out late this year cuz I'm about to write another book that's another little one I'll be a little chaotic here that's how I roll um but I do have a couple schedule but for example as soon as I'm done taping this and uploading it I'll be emailing my good friend Ryan Carson telling him I will not speak at FAA uh though he hasn't formally invited me um you know usually I do and he's the best and you should go to FAA London by the way it's an amazing conference but I'm gon to really trim down my speaking circuit and what else I'm going to do is several things while I get to in a second mainly because I need to start executing and learning again to be really blunt with you guys I feel like I've lost a little bit of my Edge you know being really honest with myself over the last three to four months I feel like I need to get smarter and the way I get smarter is by reading and living putting my head down and executing I need to taste it one thing I pride myself in is the reason I come with such badass conviction every time is because I'm not reading it on somebody else's blog I'm tasting that stuff that's how I roll I live it and then of course I believe it because I lived it and I saw it happen I like to execute and right now I feel like I'm doing something that there's a great Russian saying there's no real English saying which kind of means sorry to all the Russians that was butchered um you know I'm putting my one ass on 10 toilets and I feel like I'm hitting a lot of doubles and triples and that's not the game I want to be playing and so Vayner media is very important to me and I want to come through dramatically for our clients we just announced Forbes as a new client and uh Campbell we're starting to do some work with and the National Hockey League continues to be a client the Jets the Nets Mets call me you know so I want to execute for our clients because hitting home runs is what going to make Vader media successful you know I've got other projects that I'm working on whether it's quirked uh hip hop at lunch something I'm starting to believe in that's been incubated within Vayner media and the fact that Cinderella wine and Gourmet library and Wine Library I'm going to start toning down my own personal brand now does this mean I'm going to stop interacting no way still going to be answering my emails to the best of my ability but does that mean for example that I'm going to be eliminating let see here it is tweet deck from my computer yes I am because that little thing popping up in the corner distracting because I love the interaction I love getting in there with the peeps and I'm going to continue to do it still have it on my phone and I'll still engage my principles don't change however everything works when it's in balance and I need to start learning and executing I feel like I need to read some more I just do the blogs I need to read content because a lot of you have heard that you know I may not read books and I still may not but I'm definitely need going to be in a place where I need to read two three hours worth of news I need to get smarter I want to be at The Cutting Edge and I just need the time I need the time to play basketball I feel like I need to cut out all this mentor B Ing and and these 30 minute Skype interviews and these 1 hour conference calls and all these talks that I'm doing and I don't want people to be upset this video is probably more for Matt my assistant anybody because he's gonna have to send this to people because I'm really bad at saying no I don't want to say no I'm so appreciative that people give a crap that I want to answer them I don't think that I'm anything special or I'm so cool that I can't answer people or I don't have time for the small things this has nothing to do with small things or big things this

has to do with the fact that if you don't execute you don't win and I feel like I'm stretched too thin to execute and I need to cut certain things out and I've gotten a four-year run of answering all the emails and engaging with everything and not having any filter to what's important what's not because everything's important to me any one person whether they have one follower or eight million followers is important to me but the fact of the matter is I'm building businesses and that's what I want to do I want to build businesses and Vayner media needs my attention and I need to go there and start building a business we have a lot of employees now and I need to help AJ it's too much to throw on somebody that young um that raw his skill set is insane but I've got to help him I want to do it I want to build cork I want to build this secret thing that I'm doing I've got another secret thing that I want to do I've got a new book The thank you economy coming I need to write it and I want to crush it because crush it was legit but guess what 50 less things that I'm going to cut out this year that I wouldn't last year would have made that book better and that's what I need to start doing I need to stop hitting triples and ground route doubles and I have to get back to hitting home runs and that's what I need to do for myself I still want to engage see people I'm not going anywhere for example one of the big things with this new crazy structured life I have where I'm boxing everything out scheduling everything and having like you know time slots from 5 to 7 to make phone calls but that's it like thinking I need to innovate I need to go Buddha and just think I need to taste things I need to know everything that's going on out there I need to consume it and play with it and touch it and I need to get in there and get my hands dirty cuz that's what I do I need to do that but what you know I already lost my train of thought where I was segueing from but what I know is this I uh I want to execute and I want to come through oh what I was going to say in this new regimen regiment kind of scheduled world I'm thinking about starting a new show A 1H hour Q& A show so I don't have to be disappearing from the world I want to engage and all those people that emailed me or hit me up on Twitter or asked for 15 minutes of my time you know now we can do it in that Q& A format with everybody I want to come out with a scheduled Q& A show maybe three times a week noon to 1 pm just you know I'll be there maybe we can build a big Community enjoy that I don't know I'm brainstorming but here's what I know I need to change things up I need a Brian Matsu's change up because the fact of the matter is I want to win and that's all I ever want to do and I want to come through for my clients family and I want to come through and what I do as a career and right now I feel like I'm just in too many places and trying to do too much I'm only one person and so I want to get focused and fierce on it I'm hungry I'm very hungry and I want to be better for all the people that are asking me for their mentorship and for their thoughts and to help them with their business models I want to be better for you guys and so the only way I can do that is to get my head down and do what got me here kind of thing you know this isn't like oh crap everything's broken this is not like midlife crisis which was what happened with wine Li TV when I turned 30 this is much more I need to shape and up this is like the love handles you know I need to get lean I'm going to get lean mentally business-wise I'm going to get lean physically I'm going to do this and I don't think I'm really disappearing in any way this is not my retirement from being social in some ways I may be even more social than I've been over the last three months because I'm really trying to figure out the real grind I want to be good I want to be legit I want to know what the hell is going on in every angle I want to know everything that's going on with iPad you know apps in the Facebook world because there's so many nuances I mean weight to Facebook credits blows up and changes the game there's just so much going on and I don't have enough time to get Zen and think about it and devour it the way I process is I play with it I touch it I feel it I use it and uh I just need to get better and smarter and the way I need to do that is by putting my head down so this video is made more than anything else to really show the people that are going to keep hitting me up for hey I'd love to buy you dinner you know and that's a brilliant move and I love it and just 15 minutes of your time or coming to the store I mean I keep doing this I've done just way too much yeah come to the store for an hour and it's great and I love it I want to give back more than ever more than anything more than I breathe it's why I do it but for me to give back quality I need these next months for sure nine months and that's what I'm going to do I'm putting my head down I'm going to continue to answer my email to the best of my ability um I'm going to continue to engage and I'll be around on Twitter and Facebook and I'll do all that I'm not going anywhere as a matter of fact this Q& A thing I think could be amazing but what I'm here to say today is that um uh I'm working on my work balance my balance of my brand too many business I'm addicted to the bis Dev

it's like I'm just addicted to the BISD and the opportunities and the networking so I'm cutting out the bis Dev and the networking and I just have to I have to focus on the cake that's in front of me I'm trying to get too many pieces of pie just eat the damn lemon pie Gary the apple pie will be there and as a matter of fact if I do this over the next nine months I'm going to be quicker to grab that apple pie sorry it's my apple pie so that's what I'm doing I need to focus on what's in front of me especially Boehner media it's got my name on it's with my brother one of the highlights of my life is the fact that I got to build a business with my dad um but I'm not getting that with AJ we're working together you know and not with each other and I want that with each other I need to impose my DNA on the Vayner media team I want that I want to know them the way I know my Wine Library people and I'm just stretched too many places too many interviews too many podcasts saying yes to everything because I hate saying no because you know what I don't want to be like I sold out or I'm not available this is the right thing for me because I'm not as smart as I was 3 years ago I'm smarter in a lot of ways but I need this I need to devour content read put my head down Yoda it up touch and live stuff and I need this and I'm focused and I'm ready I'm very ready and I want to thank everybody and I apologize for the people that want to pitch me you know Angel nesting I'm going to focus on what I've got venmo you know and Tumblr and I'm just going to focus on what I've got daily Booth I've got to focus on what I've got and you know simple Geo I need to come through for those guys the people that I've signed up for and invested in and that's not only my angel Investments but it's my clients for sure I want to make crazy [ __ ] happen for the Jets and the Nets and Forbes Magazine and I need to uh I need to do this less about it's less about my brand enough with me I feel like I need to go away for a little bit you know I'll still be here I will trust me this is not going to be like I'm off the grid I'm not off the grid but it's going to be more controlled interaction that's what and I'm excited about it it's a very pivotal moment I can't wait to look back at this video in four years hey Gary man you got a little old um because this is another turning point this is almost 5 years since I started wine libr TV I had the Epiphany at 30 I feel like I'm 3 4 and a half I'm a little ahead of schedule 34 and third um I'm ahead of schedule this time around I uh I need to focus I want to write the best book that's in me for the thank you economy I've got two or three projects you don't even know about that I'm going to focus on and um I want to pump out good shows for Wine Library TV and I want to get deeper into the wine business with a maneuver I'm doing with quk and I want to know what's going on I want to read I want to go to Hacker News and read the tit titles and not just read the titles and be like hm I want to read I want to be smart and I need this for myself for my team for my family and most of all ironically I need this for what I've been doing for the last 24 months I I want to be awesome when people ask me questions I just flew and answered a crapload of emails and they were great answers but I want to be cutting edge I want people to bleed when they interact with me I'm so Cutting Edge and oh I feel like that could be a ramp anyway and that's it and that that's where I'm going so if you're watching this video I apologize that I can't do you know I can't come to your school and speak which breaks my heart because I want to or I'm sorry I'm turning down that awesome 20 to $40,000 you're offering me to speak but I need to do this and I'm sorry if I can't just take five minutes I know it seems so small but it's not when you do it 18,000 times a day and I'm sorry that I can't do a quick tea or a coffee and I'm sorry you know that I can't do a 15minute podcast that only take 12 minutes or you want to buy me dinner um and I'm sorry to all the potential awesome Angel Investments and bis de deals that I would have made but I need to put my head down I need to grow that playoff beard I flirted about earlier this year and I need to come through for Galas of the world that I've invested in to the clients and I know I'm repeating myself as you can see I'm instilling it in me this is how I go I've been flirting for three months again you hardcore Maniacs you saw the playoff beard mentions it's been you know kind of smoking the fire's here the fire is in me I'm fired up in a big way I feel like I just fired myself um and I thank everybody for their support in this please don't think I'm a jerk off please and don't mistake this in any way for the fact that I'm not going to engage because I am and be around cuz I am as a matter of fact I think you know a lot of you have loved the interaction on Ustream which I love I'm trying to bring that back that's one of the elements and

uh I just love everybody I wish everybody the best and I just want to come out of this at the end of this year I want to come into 2011 as the best as the person that really knows this better than anybody whatever this is thank you