If you're ambitious but lazy... watch this NOW

All right. So, what do you do if you feel ambitious but lazy? Confusing place to be, right? You have something that matters to you or you see your life of what it could be if you just got out of your own way. You might be there right now and it's so easy to try and shame yourself into acting more. You pop open videos that tell you need more discipline. You just got to hustle more. But when I was stuck, no amount of shaming myself into working more worked as a fuel source long term. that often leads to burnout and low self-esteem. What did work are the four solutions I'll present to you in this video. I want to go over the psychology of stuck. You can try all four. You can try a couple and I think you'll be in a different spot by the end of doing it. So, if that sounds good, smash the like button, guys. We're in beautiful Papago Park, Phoenix, Arizona, getting some fresh morning rays. And I'll link down below to our free newsletter if you'd love to jump on. and we'd love to have you where I send an email out every Saturday with ideas that can change your life. So, let's start with what your problem actually is and what it is not. Anytime we are stuck, we love one word more than any other. Can you guess what it is? Procrastination. Okay, it's an easy comfort blanket that we throw over all our problems and we say, you know, I would start the business if I didn't procrastinate or I would write my book, but you know, I'm just procrastinating on it. We don't say our goals aren't important to us or that we're never going to do something. We just say, "Yeah, we'll start it Monday. " And if you're going to get unstuck this year and make it the best year and finally go after the things you know are important to you, you got to understand what procrastination actually is. This is what I call the three buckets of stuck. 10% of the time when you know what to do and you can't get yourself to do it, it's usually because we just don't know how. You're a beginner getting into online business while you seeking out information of people who have done it and learning will actually help you get unstuck. You're a newbie in the gym. Yeah, you watching all the workout videos that'll get you motivated and unstuck. But as Derek Civer says, if information were the problem, we'd all be billionaires walking around with six-pack abs. 30% of the time we fall into this bucket when we're stuck. You would do something, you just don't physically have the energy to do it. Maybe you got a couple kids running around. Maybe you work a 12-hour shift. you get home and like, yeah, you're you don't have the energy to do something. But that's not our biggest bucket. In fact, it's down here, the 60%. You know what this one is? We're afraid. Now, I don't mean you're cowering in a corner and like shivering under the covers afraid. I mean that something subconsciously is a threat to your survival about this thing that you want. It's not that you don't know how or you don't have the energy to film content. It's that when you sit down to hit record, there's something going on in your mind that says, "Dude, this is cringe. People are already getting ready to type a hate comment down below and they're going to roast you. " That fear prevents us from doing the thing that you want to do and getting to where you want to be. Now that you know where procrastination comes from, let's get into part two of this video, the psychology of stuck and the four solutions to it. Here's the first one, but first, let me tell you a brief story. So, back in college, I was moving in and out of apartments a lot. I think I moved four times in a 9-month span. And you know, when you move, you pack everything up and then you take it to the next place, you unpack it. Well, I kept doing that without purging the stuff that I no longer needed until I was just accumulating more and more things. And finally one day I'm looking in the corner and there's this random five- foot tall giraffe statue that I had gotten at a garage sale staring back at me. And I remember looking at that thinking, do I even want this thing or did I just lug it from the previous place? What else in this apartment have I just lugged around apartment to apartment and never thought to question? Later I realized our goals work the exact same way where we just have this wish list in our mind of things that we should do and we thought would be nice to do and if they don't happen we kind of just carry them around with us the next year until you have a big list of things that you thought you were supposed to do with your life. So the easiest place we can start anytime you're stuck and have resistance to a goal you know you need to do is ask this. Is this even your goal? A lot of people say they need to build a business, but you have to ask yourself, is this even your goal? Or did social media just push it upon you that you should be? I had to go through this when I turned 30. I'm like, "Okay, how many of my goals did 18-year-old Clark set that I'm still chasing? " But what does 30-year-old Clark want? Is being famous and speaking on stages and like being on top podcast and doing all these like big ego based goals, is that really authentic to the version I am now? And I had to get really real and let go of a lot of things that I had been chasing. And I'm not here to talk you out of your goal. But man, when you let go of something, there is a lightness. And you can now use all that mental space that was taken up for something that's more in alignment with this version of you instead of the previous

one. Good on that one. Let's move on to number two here. Because you might say, "Yes, Clark. I really do still want this goal. It is important to me. I know what I need to do. I can't get myself to do it. What do I do? " The other day I caught myself feeling bad about my output and I just wrote down, okay, what are my expectations for a week, I think, from social media coaches telling you like what you need to be doing with content or how you need to grow a personal brand. Somewhere along the way, I picked up that I needed to be posting five times a day on Instagram with authentic YAP videos cuz that's what people want. I need to be going on personal or a top level podcasts and, you know, sharing these origin stories that people connect to build trust. I need to be posting a weekly video that's just mind-blowing and the algorithm loves. I need to be posting an email newsletter that's just super connecting and gets tons of replies. I need to start a coaching program. I need to do sponsorships and like it never ended. And even if me just saying that, like saying that out loud stresses me out. We all do some version of that with ourselves. Maybe your effort isn't the problem. Maybe the superhuman expectations you put on yourself are. So, one thing that really helped me when I get in those states, understanding the difference between what you should do and could do. Anytime you catch yourself saying I should do it, try and flip it to I could do that. I should work on my business. I could Now, it's a choice instead of an obligation. But even more tactically here, I would take 10 minutes and write out all the things you think you should be doing and ask yourself, is this even possible for any human to do? You want to go a step further, take a pen and cross out the things that you should be doing that aren't important to you or that actually wouldn't even be of benefit right now. When I did this, I realized, yeah, there's a million things I should be doing to grow my business. And all of that is true, but what I could do in that 20% is going to the park and filming a video that I think can help people. All right, so you've asked, "Is this even your goal? " You're like, "Yes. " You've realized there's a million things you should do, but you're going to flip them and take an honest audit of what you could do. What's this third one? We got to talk about this study I reread that just blows my mind every time. There's a research group that took three groups of people who were ambitious but lazy. These people wanted to exercise, but they just couldn't get themselves to do it. They split them into three groups. Group one was the control and just tracked how much they exercised over 2 weeks. Group two was the motivation group. They also tracked how much they exercise over 2 weeks, but they received information on the benefits of exercise. They had a motivational speaker like pump them up and talk about all the good things that come with exercise. Group three was a group that also received that motivational pep talk, but they did one thing different. They wrote a plan of when and where they were going to exercise. I'm going to go to LA Fitness five times a week. You know, I'm going to go on a three- mile run Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. So, what do you think happened? How much could setting a plan really improve the amount someone does something? Well, group one exercised around 35%. Group two also three exercised over 91%. That is literally the difference between three out of 10 times and 9 out of 10 times. Crazy. I call this one the 91% rule. That motivation isn't enough by itself. So, if you're ambitious but lazy, start setting plans on a weekly basis. This is not advice I don't follow, by the way. Um, I've showed you on this channel my weekly GSD list. It's just a little 3x5 note card where I write out three different sections of what I want to do that week. And man, the weeks I have that versus the ones I don't, which weeks am I filming videos, the weeks I have it, which weeks am I going to the gym more, the weeks I have it. You don't need an app. You don't need a notion second brain. Literally, just take a 3x5 note card and write out a few things that you want to do this week, when and where you're going to do them. and I bet you'll get more done. But lastly, this one. This is if you have big dreams and goals that feel pretty far away and you're struggling to motivate yourself to take the first couple steps. What is this line right here? If you think of yourself you now versus you at the end result, it looks like this line. Achieving something is just a set of actions done in sequence. That's it. What are the sub goals within that? So, this is called chunking where you take something massive and you break it down. It's not you losing 50 lbs one time. Of course, if that is the goal, it's going to be impossible to motivate yourself to it because it's so far away. You chunk it down into smaller goals 5 lbs 10 times. It's not you writing a New York Times best-selling book. It's you writing the table of contents or

the first draft or the first paragraph. It's not you launching a YouTube channel and getting your 10,000 subscribers this year. It's you posting a weekly video 52 times a year or it's posting the first one and having three cool points you can riff on for 20 minutes. Whatever it is that you're procrastinating, it's because it's so far away and it's so ambiguous. And of course, if the starting line is the finish line, who would start that? That's way too big. That's literally how you design programs. And that is how you can design your life to actually follow through when you know what you need to do, but you can't get yourself to do it. Two quick things. First, smash the like button if you made it to the end. that helps us out. And I'll link down below our free newsletter you can hop on. I send an email to you every Saturday. Second, I'll link up right here a perfect follow-up to this video. It's on your core stories. So, not the thing, but the thing behind the thing. What's really going on? That is a perfect follow-up that I think can help. Thanks so much for being here. See you in the next one. Stop settling. Start living. Peace.