picking bridesmaids can be a painful process! #internetanalysis #bridesmaids #wedding

The process of selecting bridesmaids almost inevitably involves insecurity, comparison, complicated group dynamics, and maybe even some jealousy! For some, this process is so hard because they have so many beloved friends, sisters, cousins. They don't want to leave anyone out! But for other brides, they have the opposite problem: Not enough friends. Emily: "I am not going to be having any bridesmaids. Not because I don't want them, like I would love to have bridesmaids. But I don't have any bridesmaid level friends. " Carly: "I don't have 10 bridesmaids that are gonna get up there and talk about how long they've known me and talk about all these stories, because a lot of my friends are more recent. " We are still in a loneliness crisis, and it is incredibly common for adults to struggle to make or keep friends. And on one hand, it shouldn't really matter... You don't have to have bridesmaids or a wedding party at all! So can't you just opt out? But again, for many women dreaming of their perfect wedding, the bridesmaids feel like an essential part. Without bridesmaids, will I feel loved and supported? Who am I gonna turn to throughout this process? And many worry, if I don't have bridesmaids, how's that gonna look? Am I gonna seem like a friendless loser? There's a real shame in not having "enough" close female friends. Especially within the wedding sphere, which tends to be very focused on this specific vision of hyperfemininity, and your "girl gang" Some people even think that, a woman who doesn't have enough girl friends must be toxic, she's not a girls girl! This is proof that she's a problem! And sometimes that can be true... But it's a very hurtful stereotype!