Happiness is overrated | Mark Manson @IAmMarkManson

One of my spicier arguments is that I think happiness is greatly overrated. I think people have started confusing comforts and highs for the same thing as happiness. When you're constantly chasing the positive experiences, you end up on this experience of like a treadmill and that every day and every moment you're looking for the next hit, the next high to keep you going. So what I tell people is I say instead of asking yourself what's going to make me happy, ask yourself what am I willing to struggle for? What are the problems I actually kind of like having in my life? Sometimes when I give talks I ask that audience, what kind of massochist are you? What's like the pain that you secretly enjoy that most other people don't? Because it's in that pain, that special relationship that you have with that struggle, that's actually probably where most of the meaning and purpose in your life is going to be found. Because here, this is the sneaky truth that most people don't understand is that happiness is not something that you pursue and achieve in and of itself. It's the natural side effect of finding something more meaningful and purposeful in your life. If you find something that feels important, that's worth giving a [ __ ] about, the happiness will happen on its own anyway.