5 Things Jimmy Carr Missed About Fixing Young Men

All right, what's up my brothers? So in this video I want to play this Jimmy Carr clip about tackling the manosphere. If you're unfamiliar, Jimmy Carr is a stand-up comic and he has a bit here where he addresses the new trending Louis Theroux documentary called the manosphere. And I think he gets some things right, but I also think he's missing a lot of really important things which I will address in this video and I will in fact tackle the issue with the manosphere after we play this bit over here to get a little bit of context around it all. What do I think of the manosphere? What the Louis Theroux documentary? Well, I think it's very good that they he made that. I think it's very interesting that they're mainstreaming that argument because you go, "Well, those guys are talking to young men. I don't like what

they're saying to young men, but I like the fact that they're talking to young men. You have to respect there is some in the intent there. The content's terrible, but the intent of talking to young men that are lost is valuable. But we just need better voices talking to young men. We can't marginalize them. Well, I think there's a lot of talk about toxic masculinity and no one talks about the positives. You could be a king or tyrant. You could be a warrior or you could be a sadist. You could be an agent of magical transformation or you could be a manipulator. You could be a lover or you could be an addict. There's a positive side to masculinity and we're not talking about that. We need to empower young men.

Just going to pause there for a second. Very Hollywood kind of thing to say, isn't it? I think I mean I'm for me I'm very I'm pro gang, pro drinking, pro gambling. Let me talk you round. Okay, it sounds like Okay, gangs are really [ __ ] good ideas. They get some bad press because some of them do shoot people and deal drugs. But what I mean by gang is where should all men be? I'll tell you. All men should be with other men. Men check other men. Guys keep other guys in line. Right? It's it's good. You should be like a before we want young men and women to get together, right? We want them to get together. Well, you can't start with a relationship. You've got to start with a friendship. Young men, you can practice on your friends. It's not

gay. Drinking. I think drinking is essential because the risk to your liver is as nothing compared to the risk of social isolation. I've set up Well, that's Scott Galloway. Brilliant Scott Galloway's line. Um I think Well, I've set up a series of uh youth clubs all around the nation. They've got pool tables, they've got darts, they've got jukeboxes. They serve drinks. They're called pubs. They've been proven to work for men's mental health for the last 200 years. And I think we should open the doors to 16-year-olds. let 16-year-olds drink in pubs. By the way, I grew up in England. I spent a lot of time there. You can drink in a pub in England 14, 15. I mean, not without family, but you can sit there and literally drink beer at that age. I mean, it wasn't a problem when I was there. Uh my only proviso is not on their own. I think you I think groups of four. You should be able to be served if you can get three mates together and then men check other men. I don't want them sat at home on their PlayStation. I don't want them drinking in the park. I want them with other men in a space where there's grown-ups around and that's how you learn. That's what a society is. Good idea. And gambling. I'm very pro gambling, but not this low stakes [ __ ] sports betting and casinos. Tell me what you want to do with your life. Tell me what you're willing to sacrifice and then bet your life on yourself. That's the gamble, right? Every man takes a performance-enhancing drug every day. It's called testosterone. Right? There's more male CEOs. Yeah, of course there is. There's also more men in prison. What do they have in common? They took a crazy [ __ ] risk.

Sometimes you end up on a yacht, sometimes in D wing. Anyway, that's what I think about the manosphere. All right, so that's the clip. Let me have a quick look at some of these comments here. Richard Reeves, who is big in the men's spaces trying to improve what's going on with boys, says, "Hard to improve this, to be honest. " Well, Mr. Reeves, you're wrong because I've got five points here that this guy absolutely missed, which are critical in fixing the problems with young men today and you know, I mean, the manosphere's got its own set of issues. I'll talk about the PR problem it's got in a little bit. And the guy drops a book. He Here's a read, you should read it. Uh it's not a great book. And then we've got a bunch of other people, you know, sort of talking about other comics and the like. All right, well, let's have a quick chat about the manosphere and correcting the discrepancies cuz if you haven't seen the Louis Theroux documentary, it's quite what you'd expect. It was a hit piece. It's also quite as well. So I've got five points here. I'm going to read them out to you and then I'm going to explain what needs to happen to fix the critical situation we've got with young boys today, young men. And there's a

vacuum, you know, there like nobody's really addressing these points that I constantly hit on in my videos, in my books, in my own community. So I thought I would dedicate this uh video to this point of this manosphere documentary and expand on a few of the ideas as well to offer a little bit of clarity. The manosphere has a very bad PR issue and the reason why it does is there's really no gatekeepers, there's no barrier to entry. All you need is some crafty ideas, some clickbaity sort of notions and to get the attention of a lot of people. You see it now with a lot of the younger kids doing uh streaming on these different streaming platforms and they go around and get reactions in the public and the younger guys, you know, they love it, you know, they eat it up. You know, they're not sending their best, if you know what I'm saying. I think that young men should really be paying attention to more seasoned, older gentlemen. I've always turned to older guys than me for advice, for counsel, whenever I was stuck on something. I really don't think that you should be listening to guys under the age of 40 or 50. I would say you're probably not getting the best advice. You need like wisdom comes from experience and experience comes from age and time in the game. So, the five points that I got are compete more, boys need fathers or masculine role models. The third one is teach guys how to play to win, teach

what women respond to and again teach how to play not to lose. And those are all five very different points and I'll break those down for you as I sort of get on the road over here and get to my destination. All right, so with the notion of competing more, we've got I jotted down things like combat sports, regular sports, bodybuilding, chess, motorsports, marksmanship as well. And these are all really, really important because they're the conventional masculine pursuits that young men used to chase when I was a young guy, you know, back in my days, you know, I'm a product of the '70s. I guess times have changed quite a bit since then. Pursuits nowadays involve things like following Kick streamers. I've seen 8, 9,000 live views watching young, dorky, autistic guys get reactions and and crazy episodes happening out on streets and nightclubs and parties, on limo buses and the like. Listen, guys, many of these points that I made in this first one are pretty much intuitive for anybody from my generation. Go out there, pick up heavy [ __ ] put it down, lift weights, build a strong masculine frame. We used to chase things like motorsports routinely. I mean, today fast cars and like that sort of culture isn't really the norm anymore, whereas when we were young men, we would chase uh modifying cars, riding motorcycles, getting in all kinds of troubles, drag racing. You know, I remember going to this coffee shop as a young guy in my uh 20s and 30s and we would end up doing drag racing behind this uh road that they were just building, like this bypass road, into the wee hours of the night until the cops were called on us sort of thing. Like this is what young men are supposed to do, compete. Facilitating an environment of competition is really, really important for males. It doesn't matter what it is. It can be sports, it could be a chess club, it could be athletics. Combat sports are really important in my opinion. I have a book called The Unplugged Alpha and there's a chapter in that book where I talk about the importance of getting into combat sports. I also have another element in the book that talks about how every guy I think should own a motorcycle at some point in their life. They're very inexpensive. They offer a great deal of fun. They're economical versus cars, you know, to some degree. Yeah, sure, there's more danger involved, but we're men. Testosterone forces us to take risks. You know, as he pointed out, you know, you can either end up on a yacht or you can end up in jail depending on the risks that you take. But men are risk-takers. We have to take risks and that's slowly been sucked out of our DNA over the last several decades. You know, you got to be more compliant. kind. You got to be nice to everybody. This is what they keep telling us, more inclusivity and all that kind of stuff, all that nonsense.

You know, bullying was a good thing. Bullying encouraged, you know, fat kids to lose weight. Bullying encouraged the weak kids to get strong. You know, bullying encouraged those that dress poorly to dress nicely, if you understand what I'm saying, within a degree, right? Even things like marksmanship, they used to teach marksmanship in the school system back in the day, in the '50s and '60s. Not when I was a young man in school, but back way back in the day that was part of the curriculum. That's a masculine pursuit. Marksmanship's real important. It's a lot of fun. Boys love that kind of stuff. It's why we were always running around with Nerf guns and playing cowboys and Indians and stuff like that, right? Number two, boys need fathers. I mean, I don't know how to say

this, but 43% of children today are raised in a single-parent household and that's what they say, single-parent, but what they really mean is single-mother households cuz women get 80% of the custody orders. So the vast majority of young boys are not raised with a masculine role model around. They're either pushed out of the household by the mom, they could be a piece of furniture and not involved in the child's life, very disinterested. Or again, you know, they could have been just pushed out of that boy's life. They could have removed from his life through the process of divorce as it happens with so many young boys today. And they have an absence of masculinity. So, you know, for those that might have been, you know, women that were widowed and their child don't have a father growing up, they can find other masculine outlets. Combat sports and dojos are great for that for masculine role models. Gyms, boxing gyms, you know, things like that, great for that as well. But masculinity is important. One of the data pieces I put in my first book when I was talking about these school shooters, and I think it was something like 26 out of the last 27 school shooters at the time that I had written the book, didn't have a masculine male role model in the household. The vast majority of them came from single parent households or households with an absence of masculinity. Toxic masculinity isn't the problem. The absence of masculinity is the problem today. Let's talk about the third point that I have, or teaching boys how to play to win. We don't teach boys that much anymore how to play to win. We're just like, "Oh, we'll give everybody a participation trophy. Everybody gets a ribbon for participating in track and field. Long jump, everybody gets a ribbon. There's

no first, second, or third place. " A lot of the times in extracurricular sports, there's no trophy at the end of it. There's a participation trophy. There's no MVP player quite often unless you get into the very competitive levels. It's really important to teach young men how to play to win. We got to teach them status hierarchy. We have to teach them how that pecking order works, what that looks like, and what that feels like, you know? When you win as a young man, your testosterone levels actually go up. When you win, you feel good, you know? It's a very strong and pleasant feeling that young boys all need to feel at some point. And competing is a big part of that. Like I said, teach boys how to play to win in life. Teach them how to make money, what it takes to make serious money, how to put a dent in the universe. All these things that I've often talked about in many of my videos and in my community. But men have to have a purpose in life. And playing to win needs to be inherent in our DNA. And I think we've been robbed of that with this new notion of everybody's equal. Let's be nice to everybody. Don't pick on, you know, your little sister all the time sort of thing. Within reason, you get what I'm saying. But let's go back to a world where we teach boys how to play to win at life, how to compete. All right, the fourth point is teaching boys what women actually respond to. And this is an area that I spend a lot of time in as well. It's covered in detail in both

of my books. And it helps guys manage long-term relationships and get more out of what they want in life with relationships. But a lot of the narratives that young men get today when it comes to relationships and getting what they want out of relationships doesn't work for them. It doesn't serve them. They're told just to be a nice guy, you know, be the shoulder for her to cry on. And that's like 85 probably to 95% of young men. And they get ruined on the sexual marketplace. They actually get punished by women when they're too nice. When they don't understand what women respond positively to. And a lot of the times what women respond positively to, they will tell young boys and men that they don't like that. They'll say, "You know, I don't like guys that behave that way. I don't want a guy that's like that sort of thing. " But then they'll run off and they'll get into bed with a guy that behaves exactly like that. The stuff that she tells a guy that she doesn't like, that puts her off, that she wants him to stop, like I've said, often times the very things women want men to stop doing or the things that they want to encourage men to do more of are the very things that are bad for her and her attraction to that guy. And men aren't being told what women respond properly to. I've dedicated a lot of videos on my channel to this. Both of my books cover this in great detail. So, if you're new to the channel, browse the free videos or at least grab the books. They're pinned below. I'm not going to spend too much time on this one, but it's really, really important for young men to learn what women actually respond to, not what we've been told they respond to. They don't respond well to nice guys. And the fifth and final point that I have here is we also have to teach young men how to play not to lose. I mentioned earlier in one of the other points we have to teach boys how to play to win. We do, but we also have to teach them how to play life and not losing in certain

areas. One of those areas are areas that are very risky and hostile towards men, and I'll use the example of marriage. The vast majority of marriages end in divorce, and those that don't end in divorce, in a study, when they research this topic, after about 8 and 1/2 years, less than 13% of couples remain in love. The rest of them sort of stay together because they're unable to part ways. They don't have the means to, financial capabilities, maybe they're too ugly to re-enter the sexual marketplace, any number of reasons. But for the vast majority of guys, marriage is a really, really dumb idea. There's a chapter in my first book titled Why Smart Men Don't Get Married, and I break down all the reasons in that. There's also several videos on my YouTube channel that talk about marriage and the risks that are involved. Inherently, in this point, it's really, really important for guys to learn how to play life in the element of playing not to lose. And that's just one example. I don't want to make this a exceptionally long video, but I want to touch on those five main points cuz I think while a comedian might cook up some interesting ideas or some good ideas that get the audience to, you know, clap like seals and sort of, you know, respond very positively, maybe it works well for a Netflix special as well. But the reality

is, it's only guys like me that are talking about these cold, hard truths. Most of society sells comforting lies because they're sold very easily. People love that kind of stuff. But it's the cold, hard truth that guys need to accept and absorb and adapt and use in their lives that are going to get more of what they want. So, we don't have to see another ridiculous documentary like Louis Theroux's Manosphere documentary where they showcase most of the ridiculous stuff, just the ridiculous stuff for the most part, and they shine a light on it that's a negative light. They go looking for the negativity in it. And, you know, while there are some pretty crappy players in the Manosphere, I was involved in that space for a number of years. I've talked about it many a times. I call it the Manoswap. Like I said, it has a really bad PR issue. It's not fixing itself anytime soon. And the people that continue to work in that space, that keep using the term Manosphere and the Manosphere is this and that, and it's nonsense. The vast majority of it is trash. guys in that space are them are leading guys down paths that don't serve them. The vast majority of guys that are producing and publishing content are more or less for entertainment purposes, and they're not good men that are good at being men that are providing valuable resources. I'm not saying they're all bad, but like I said earlier, wisdom comes from experience, and experience comes from age. Stop following the young kids out there that are doing the entertainment bits and the clickbait type of reaction things, and look for sage advice from seasoned men. Lots of free videos on my channel. There's over 2,000 of them now. You can browse the whole thing, or if you want to get everything condensed in a nice, tight package, grab my two books, The Unplugged Alpha and The Top Shelf Man. They're both bestsellers on Amazon and very highly ranked for a reason. They contain the information that young men need today. One of the top reviews that you always see on my books is, "I wish I knew this stuff 20, 30, 40 years ago. I wish I knew this before I got married. " The stuff in my books will teach you how to vet for relationship. It will teach you what the sweet spot looks like for guys that are having good marriages. It'll teach you what red flags to avoid, what green flags to look for in long-term relationships, the ways to make life-changing money, and the like. Those are all pinned below. There's also some other useful links that you can check out. I hope you guys have an amazing day. Let me know what you thought of the Manosphere documentary and Louis Theroux. Did I miss anything out of those five points? What else would you add? See you guys later. Peace out. I don't ever slow up. No, I don't take [ __ ] I got no love for the fake [ __ ] If you want to play tough and want to hate this, I'll throw a show up.