Breaking cycles looks like this

Here's a sign that you are breaking cycles without you even realizing it. It's whenever you are able to give your child something that you did not receive as a child yourself. I think a lot of us parents mistakenly believe that to break generational cycles, it's this big extravagant thing. We're looking for this one big moment where we can declare ourselves cycle breakers. But I'm just here to remind you that that's not really how this works. It's found in those small moments and often times we don't even notice them. Like when our child is really, really upset at us, they've got an attitude, you know, digging in their heels, and instead of absorbing that energy and maybe saying, "Fix your face. " right? Cuz that's something that our child parent would have told us. We instead are like, "You know what? I'm here. I'm going to set a boundary, but I'm not intimidated by how you feel about me. " Or maybe, you know, our child doesn't agree with us and they make their case. And instead of being like, "No, I'm the parent. We need to go with my plan. " We say, "You know what? You're right. I love that. I love that idea. Thanks for sharing. I changed my mind on that. Let's do it your way. " In those moments we're able to give our child what we needed as kids and that's exactly what breaking generational cycles looks and feels like. And I'm willing to bet, you know, following a page like mine, you're already doing this work. So it's about giving ourselves credit, okay?