Why you can’t find your passion

hey guys how's it going welcome back to another video so you probably click on this video because you're feeling a little bit lost in life perhaps you feel a little bit paralyzed in uncertainty whether to go to grad school or to get a job you might feel like everybody else seems to be getting ahead and just kind of have things sorted out while you are stagnated maybe you don't know what to do with your life when you grow up but you're already grown up then this video is for you i really empathize with you and i've experienced all of the above in the past like six to eight years uh starting from my undergraduate when i was pre-med deciding i didn't want to be a doctor anymore pretty much like stumbling into bioinformatics and then getting a computer science master's degree which was one of the best choices of my life and then you know doing computer science software engineering and then eventually ending up as a data scientist i'm not saying that i have my life sorted down i really don't if you're gonna ask me what i'm gonna be doing five years i can't tell you maybe even two years i don't know either but i've learned to be okay with that because i really redefine the way that i view what a job is what a career is and what success means so in this video i want to share with you guys some of the misconceptions that i had and what i've come to realize about them so that now i'm a lot happier and a lot more fulfilled with my career these are also things that i kind of stumbled across over the years which i really wish someone had told me just straight up many years back when i was struggling so let's get to it realization number one is that there is

no dream job oh my god this took me so long to figure out i've spent ages and ages reading different books about careers watching youtube videos even taking courses and i've actually also done personality tests trying to figure out what my traits and how that matches towards what is the best job for me what could be my dream job and just trying and trying just nothing really like exactly fit until i finally came to the realization that there is no dream job and it makes a lot of sense because why would there be a dream job designed specifically for your needs your wants and your desires am i saying that you should just randomly choose a job or just choose a major to study no i am not saying that but what i am saying first of all is don't stress out so much about it if you're trying to choose what it is that you're gonna study where you're choosing what kind of job you're gonna have choose something that satisfies a large amount of the things that you enjoy doing relatively and also try to choose things that have to do with your strengths because research shows that things that are your strengths also tend to be things that you like more with that being said if you're someone like me i was always that kid who was pretty good at everything but not particularly good or particularly enjoyed anything then you can choose something that's more generalized something that can open up a lot of doors for you to be honest that's why i ended up choosing computer science as my master's degree after choosing computer science i chose data science as my job one it satisfied my curiosity i usually get bored in something that i wouldn't get bored doing it also had a very like discovery focused mindset so it's about like figuring things out and discovering stuff which i find really fun i also felt like it played towards some of my strengths it's very multi-disciplinary so it involves a lot of learning from different areas and that's something that i've always been very passionate about and pretty good at learning stuff it's also about big picture analytical thinking which is a skill that i honed throughout my undergraduate degree in pharmacology and the sciences and last of all it paid well and i had good hours is it perfect no but i like it enough so i'm able to put up with other things that i don't like about it so you might be wondering now okay so are you telling

me that i should just settle with not having a job or something that i really enjoy doing it satisfies all these aspects that i want from my career no i am not telling you that i myself am also extremely greedy in the sense that i want to be doing something that really fulfills me that for as many hours of the day as i can so the

next insight where like realization i came to is that a job is not a career i'll repeat my career what i mean by a job is say like a specific role something that you're being paid for as an employee to do and a career on the other hand is something i define as an amalgamation of different things where different jobs potentially that you may be doing also throughout different periods of your life so this is important because that dream job that doesn't exist doesn't define you it doesn't define your career you can actually take your career into your own hands by doing different things that together make up what i guess you can call like a dream career and this is

actually designed for you because you designed it what i noticed that people often have a very narrow definition of what a career track is like for people who come from a computer science background for example there's like four kind of defined career tracks that people like to go to and people just think that they just have to like choose one of these career paths and compete with everybody trying to climb up that corporate ladder basically and hey i'm not bashing that kind of career path at all but what i want to emphasize is that not only is the competition much more furious along these paths because everybody's trying to go on them it's also a lot more personalized you know your career is most likely not going to satisfy you as much because it's not personalized to you and i think the reason that people do go on those well-trodden career paths well i guess like first thing is that they just didn't know that you could not do that and also because they see it as being predictable as being stable while on the other side like that other huge slice of pie out there that's not clearly defined it's called like entrepreneurial but what i'm here to tell you right now is that that's a misconception it's not

like you either are an employee or you're a entrepreneur like it's not black and white like that you can be both i mean that's what i am like i am doing both i'm an employee as a data scientist i'm also an entrepreneur doing youtube courses and other things as well and that's how i've started designing my dream career i do want to make a disclaimer here i don't want to sugarcoat things and say like oh yeah everything is great because it's not there's a lot of trial and error that was being involved and there's times when i have to sacrifice time and sleep but it's really worth it to me personally because i feel a lot more fulfilled doing this and allows me to work towards my long-term goal of having a career in which i can work on the things that are most meaningful to me at any time that i want i do hold still a traditional sense of wanting job security for example which is why it's important to me to still have a day job at least for now i really admire people who are like they're they know their passion is art for example or they want to be an actress and they put everything into that knowing that their rate of success could be potentially really low or that they may spend years and years struggling and not having it's like the luxuries in life if you will and i really admire people like that but me myself that's not something that i'm willing to sacrifice so i'll rather go on this route of having a day job first we're really lucky because we live in a day and age that's actually very conducive to this type of thing it's easier than ever to supplement your day job especially with the pandemic that happened i think one of the biggest silver linings is a redefinition of what work is like now work from home is very much accepted in a lot of different companies even permanent work from home what that means is that it's easier than ever to supplement your day job with something else for me it's important that some of these things have to produce income because i want to be able to work on what i think is the most meaningful things at all points of my life and the first level of that kind of freedom is financial freedom because say like i feel like something that i'm doing no longer is very meaningful to me i want to have that freedom to be able to stop doing it and not have to worry about paying the bills or something like that so this is my current dream career that i'm building for myself it involves being a data scientist as my day job so i am an employee and then i also do youtube i make courses i do some investing and training on the side and there's a few other things i'm exploring as well and i feel really fulfilled doing this with my job it satisfies a lot of things i mentioned earlier that i do enjoy doing but there are certain things that are lacking for example creativity and that's something that i really get to express through youtube and also autonomy which is something that i don't have in my day job but i have my youtube channel because i can choose the videos that i make i can decide on any brands that i want to work with and another one is being able to connect with a large community of people which is you guys and i truly think that by doing these things outside of my nine-to-five job has really made me a better person it causes me to reflect on my life a lot more and just to study with tina live stream in itself has really accelerated my learning and growth i've only recently started taking youtube income um which is a very long story as to why that's the case but basically i was really kind of just like shocked and just so grateful to realize youtube based income i'm nearly at a point where i actually think i could be comfortable living from just that like not exactly there yet because it's still pretty unstable from month to month but i do feel like i'm like nearly there and it just gives me so much joy because this is something that i love doing so much like being able to have that autonomy that creativity and i just feel i'm one step closer towards that dream of having that freedom to work on what i find meaningful and for that i am really grateful so i just wanted to say thank you for all of you guys for supporting me along the way so let's do a little bit of a recap there is no dream job but you can make your own dream career which is an amalgamation of different jobs at different times in your life if you're conservative like me what you can do is you can have a day job that pays the bills that does all those different things and then start exploring side hustles if you want to call them or different business ideas but it doesn't even have to be revenue generated but different things to satisfy other aspects and to do that i highly recommend that you take advantage

of the internet you can get courses for like ten dollars on udemy there's skillshare there's also free youtube videos and content like for me i learned how to do this youtube thing how to use a camera how to edit from a combination of skillshare and free youtube videos and you should also take advantage of democratization in general and decreased barriers to doing things it's so much easier and requires less capital starting out to start investing to start trading you can take the stuff that you learn from courses and become a freelancer and then offer your services on fiverr for example like video editing or coding i worry can be like me and take advantage of social media and become a creator it's such an incredible time because you either need no money or very little money to actually start doing this and i'm really certain that you'll come to the same realization that i've come to that just by deviating a little bit from the well-trodden career paths out there really remarkable things can happen like for me a year and three months ago i guess i had no idea like i couldn't even dream that there would be a 170k of you guys at the time of filming this video that are part of this channel part of this community allows me to express my creativity and is able to allow me to generate income and help me get closer to my ultimate goal of being able to work on things that are really meaningful to me at any time i want i do feel like a lot of stuff that i said can make a lot of sense theoretically but i want to give a little bit more practical advice as well you may feel really

overwhelmed because you're like okay tina you're telling me that i should get a job and then do like some other things as well and figure out what it is that i want to do there and put everything together and then you know i want to like share a quote with you that i think about a lot i think it was from atomic habits by james claire um it's the fact that people overestimate what can be achieved in a day and underestimate year so this is my recommendation so number one is prioritize whatever decision that you're trying to do right now trying to choose a major job to do prioritize that and then once you feel more stable doing that then start exploring side gigs treat this as an exploration start small don't be like in order to start my youtube channel i first have to buy a camera a tripod a microphone no start small and if you want to do something like investing don't be like i have to first make ten thousand dollars so i can start investing you can start investing with ten dollars the key here is to be consistent and really explore that arena then make an educated decision whether it is something that you actually enjoy doing or not a key takeaway that took me a while to kind of get into my brain is that just because you give up doing something it doesn't mean it's a failure at all if it's a conscious choice that you think something isn't suitable for your lifestyle it's not something that you enjoy doing it doesn't play towards your strengths and you don't want it as part of your dream career then don't do it or adapt a little bit like for example i started off doing 4x training swing training and honestly i realized it didn't really fit that well with my dream career because of the time dedication that's there and i wasn't just i wasn't like super interested in that style of trading after realizing how much time it entails and how much discretionary input there is and i feel like it wasn't taking advantage of my strengths as a data scientist which i know thank you some of you guys have told me this and i'm like you know what you're right so i'm adapting more towards systematic training and more into investment and wealth building and the last point i want to make here is just to not take life so seriously a single choice like what major you're gonna do what master's degree job it is you're gonna take is not like something that's gonna lock you in for the rest of your life what was more important is learning the skill sets that allowed me to trust myself and now i feel like whatever situation that you throw me into uh maybe i have to learn something really fast like maybe there's something that pops up like a crisis that occurs i feel confident in myself that i will be able to adapt and react with good choices based upon the knowledge that i do have all right we've come to the end of this video if you're feeling stuck in life and whatever choices that you need to make right now i hope that this video has been helpful in some way i also just love to know what you guys think so drop a comment i read every single comment even though i don't respond to every single one because that would just take me way too long unfortunately i really love reading your comments and getting your feedback so have a wonderful day and see you in the next video or livestream