What catches most people off guard about marriage? 👀🔥

Are there something that you learned after you got married that you didn't necessarily was prepared for before? Like — Absolutely. It was that refinement process. Marriage brings a level of pressure that a lot of people are not open to actually converse about and we need to have that conversation and I can admit that because that's something that I had to deal with. The pressures of being married. Just this week I offended my husband. I hurt him by the things that I said and that was because of things that I was dealing with internally. But I have to realize that in that refinement process because when we talk about marriage this is ongoing every day constantly showing up you don't get no breaks and since right and you can't get away from that person you have to realize that I am living with this person every single day and not always have to consider somebody else in that refinement process in your marriage your patience is tested your accountability is tested your love is tested your honor your ability to delight in your spouse is tested your forgiveness is tested it. And I don't think people realize that when we talk about girlfriends and boyfriends, that's cool. We've been there before. We've done the dating and stuff like that. But when you step over into marriage, — there is a heavier responsibility that comes there. Your moral reasoning is tested to the highest degree. And it takes a level of spiritual, emotional, and intellectual maturity to sustain a marriage. And that is something that a lot of people in relationships because they feel like in relationships we can leave. Oh, in marriage you ain't leaving, you fighting. — And if you leave, you live with the guilt of leaving prematurely. We can't do things preemptively in marriage. We got to think that stuff through because if not we hurt the other person. If person, we got to deal with it.